Tao of Steve
Don Juan
I am on D'angelo's double your dating list serve. I ot this one today, personally, i think this technique is borderline afc, what do others think?
How To Stop A Woman Anywhere And Meet Her
This week I would like to turn the tables around
and try something a little bit different.
Something that just might make you take a new
perspective and think about things in a way you've
never thought about them before... something that
just might stir you up enough to get you to take
some ACTION...
First, I'd like you to think about the last time
you saw a really attractive woman, you wanted to go
over and talk to her, but for whatever reason you
just didn't do it. I'm talking about a REALLY hot
one.
Take your time if you need it. I'm not going
anywhere.
Good.
Now, let me ask you something:
Did you ever stop a day or two after one of these
situations happened to think about where that particular
woman might be, and what she might be doing?
Did you ever stop to think about what the rest
of her day was like after she walked by you?
About the ten or twenty other men that saw her
that day who didn't have the nerve to talk to her...
and the two or three that did...?
About the most-likely BORING job that she went
to, the same-old-same-old "Wow, you're beautiful"
lines that she heard from the guys who got up the
nerve to talk to her?
Did you ever consider that it might be useful
to take a little time out and consider what it might
be like to be an attractive woman, walking through
life having almost every man you see light up with
the "Whoa" look?
Hmmm...
What do you think we might be able to figure out
if we just took a few minutes to explore what that
attractive woman's PRIVATE life is like?
Here are a few things that I've come up with:
1) Most attractive women are BORED OUT OF THEIR MINDS
by most men. One of the reasons for this is that guys
have NO IDEA what to do when they run into an attractive
woman, so they do the same default thing: Dumb look,
compliment.
2) As I've said before, and I'm sure I'll say many
many many times in the future: You can't BORE a woman
into feeling attracted to you. If she's most likely
got a boring life like everyone else, and you do something
that every one of the other 499 guys she's going to
walk by this month did, then you're probably not going
to attract any special attention.
3) If you just start with the idea of NOT DOING WHAT
OTHER GUYS DO you will be WAAAAYYYY ahead of the game.
Wow, this is fun, isn't it? Bet you never thought
you'd be thinking like a woman, did ya?
So what are a few things you might do to:
1) Not be like the other 499 boring, predictable,
"nice" loser guys she encountered.
2) Be interesting, attractive, attention-getting in
a way that makes her feel like you might actually be
someone to provide her with a pinch of spice for her
life?
I thought you'd never ask...
And, as you may have already predicted, I have a
few ideas of my own (but don't let that stop you from
thinking about this on your own as often as you get a
chance).
To start with, you'd probably want to get rid
of the "Wow, you're a beautiful woman, and I'm just
an average guy admiring you" vibe. That's not helping.
Next, you could take a moment and think about
how a guy that she would feel ATTRACTED to might act...
then choose that style.
My experience is that if you take an attitude
of "I guess fate has good taste putting us in the
same place, now let's see if you have a personality
to match your looks", then stir in a generous portion
of ****y and Funny, you're likely to do well.
Here's a variation of something I've used myself
once or twice.
YOU: "Hey, can I ask you a quick question?" [leaning
back and playing it cool, talking cool and slow]
HER: "Sure"
[pause pause pause for suspense]
YOU: "Are you single?" [stone cold straight face]
HER: "Well, um..."
YOU: "I'll take that as a yes..." [nodding, sly smile]
HER: [Laugher]
YOU: "Well, I just happen to know someone that I think
might really like you... if you're more than just a
pretty face, that is... He's funny, has great taste,
and I think you'd like him... I'd love to sit down
and get your life story, but I'm on my way somewhere...
do you have email?" [very cool, calm tone of voice]
HER: "Yes."
YOU: Great... [takes out pen]... write it down for me,
and I'll have, uh [clears throat] HIM send you an email."
[Get email and wish the lady a good day.]
Now, let's talk about what just happened here.
First off, did I give her any compliments? Did
I act like the other 499 guys? Did I instantly communicate
that "I'm not worthy"?
HELL NO.
I said "Hey, can I ask you a quick question?" in
a very laid-back, almost too-relaxed and mysterious
tone of voice.
Anyone will respond to that with a "yes".
Next, I did something kind of fun: I asked her
DIRECTLY if she was single.
LOL... I really love this one. It's so fun. Most
guys will say "Uh, I'll bet you have a boyfriend,
huh?" or "So do you have a man?" or some other lame
thing.
The question "Are you single?" takes women off
guard. It's great. And then being assumptive when
she hesitated with an answer... in a ****y/funny way...
magic.
Next I followed up with a ****y, funny, semi-confusing
little bit about "knowing someone" that might find
her interesting. Now, she might think that it's really
ME, but she won't know FOR SURE until she gets the
email.
And even then you might play with her a bit...
"So, what did you think of my friend? I think he might
like you..." etc.
The point is, I can pretty much guarantee you
that this particular sequence hasn't happened to her
lately.
She's still trying to overcome her sheer awe
about how many guys in a row can ask "Don't I know
you from somewhere?"
This kind of fun approach will be a welcome breath
of fresh air.
Now, I want you to do something. Go back and READ
IT AGAIN... VERY CAREFULLY. Imagine it happening exactly
like it's written. Try to imagine it in a few different
settings. Work on it until you can clearly see it
happening in your mind's eye. (The reason I can see
it clearly is because I've done it so many times in
real life!)
OK, so now you know how to approach women.
Fantastic.
I can remember when I first learned how to start
approaching women... I thought that if I could just
start conversations easily, the rest of it would be
a snap.
Well, after meeting a lot of women, but not getting
so many dates... and not having the few dates I did
get go anywhere... I realized that there was a lot more
to it.
The reality is that success with women comes down
to understanding female psychology, knowing the entire
"mating game" front to back, and then knowing all the
specific techniques and steps you need to take at each
moment with a woman.
How To Stop A Woman Anywhere And Meet Her
This week I would like to turn the tables around
and try something a little bit different.
Something that just might make you take a new
perspective and think about things in a way you've
never thought about them before... something that
just might stir you up enough to get you to take
some ACTION...
First, I'd like you to think about the last time
you saw a really attractive woman, you wanted to go
over and talk to her, but for whatever reason you
just didn't do it. I'm talking about a REALLY hot
one.
Take your time if you need it. I'm not going
anywhere.
Good.
Now, let me ask you something:
Did you ever stop a day or two after one of these
situations happened to think about where that particular
woman might be, and what she might be doing?
Did you ever stop to think about what the rest
of her day was like after she walked by you?
About the ten or twenty other men that saw her
that day who didn't have the nerve to talk to her...
and the two or three that did...?
About the most-likely BORING job that she went
to, the same-old-same-old "Wow, you're beautiful"
lines that she heard from the guys who got up the
nerve to talk to her?
Did you ever consider that it might be useful
to take a little time out and consider what it might
be like to be an attractive woman, walking through
life having almost every man you see light up with
the "Whoa" look?
Hmmm...
What do you think we might be able to figure out
if we just took a few minutes to explore what that
attractive woman's PRIVATE life is like?
Here are a few things that I've come up with:
1) Most attractive women are BORED OUT OF THEIR MINDS
by most men. One of the reasons for this is that guys
have NO IDEA what to do when they run into an attractive
woman, so they do the same default thing: Dumb look,
compliment.
2) As I've said before, and I'm sure I'll say many
many many times in the future: You can't BORE a woman
into feeling attracted to you. If she's most likely
got a boring life like everyone else, and you do something
that every one of the other 499 guys she's going to
walk by this month did, then you're probably not going
to attract any special attention.
3) If you just start with the idea of NOT DOING WHAT
OTHER GUYS DO you will be WAAAAYYYY ahead of the game.
Wow, this is fun, isn't it? Bet you never thought
you'd be thinking like a woman, did ya?
So what are a few things you might do to:
1) Not be like the other 499 boring, predictable,
"nice" loser guys she encountered.
2) Be interesting, attractive, attention-getting in
a way that makes her feel like you might actually be
someone to provide her with a pinch of spice for her
life?
I thought you'd never ask...
And, as you may have already predicted, I have a
few ideas of my own (but don't let that stop you from
thinking about this on your own as often as you get a
chance).
To start with, you'd probably want to get rid
of the "Wow, you're a beautiful woman, and I'm just
an average guy admiring you" vibe. That's not helping.
Next, you could take a moment and think about
how a guy that she would feel ATTRACTED to might act...
then choose that style.
My experience is that if you take an attitude
of "I guess fate has good taste putting us in the
same place, now let's see if you have a personality
to match your looks", then stir in a generous portion
of ****y and Funny, you're likely to do well.
Here's a variation of something I've used myself
once or twice.
YOU: "Hey, can I ask you a quick question?" [leaning
back and playing it cool, talking cool and slow]
HER: "Sure"
[pause pause pause for suspense]
YOU: "Are you single?" [stone cold straight face]
HER: "Well, um..."
YOU: "I'll take that as a yes..." [nodding, sly smile]
HER: [Laugher]
YOU: "Well, I just happen to know someone that I think
might really like you... if you're more than just a
pretty face, that is... He's funny, has great taste,
and I think you'd like him... I'd love to sit down
and get your life story, but I'm on my way somewhere...
do you have email?" [very cool, calm tone of voice]
HER: "Yes."
YOU: Great... [takes out pen]... write it down for me,
and I'll have, uh [clears throat] HIM send you an email."
[Get email and wish the lady a good day.]
Now, let's talk about what just happened here.
First off, did I give her any compliments? Did
I act like the other 499 guys? Did I instantly communicate
that "I'm not worthy"?
HELL NO.
I said "Hey, can I ask you a quick question?" in
a very laid-back, almost too-relaxed and mysterious
tone of voice.
Anyone will respond to that with a "yes".
Next, I did something kind of fun: I asked her
DIRECTLY if she was single.
LOL... I really love this one. It's so fun. Most
guys will say "Uh, I'll bet you have a boyfriend,
huh?" or "So do you have a man?" or some other lame
thing.
The question "Are you single?" takes women off
guard. It's great. And then being assumptive when
she hesitated with an answer... in a ****y/funny way...
magic.
Next I followed up with a ****y, funny, semi-confusing
little bit about "knowing someone" that might find
her interesting. Now, she might think that it's really
ME, but she won't know FOR SURE until she gets the
email.
And even then you might play with her a bit...
"So, what did you think of my friend? I think he might
like you..." etc.
The point is, I can pretty much guarantee you
that this particular sequence hasn't happened to her
lately.
She's still trying to overcome her sheer awe
about how many guys in a row can ask "Don't I know
you from somewhere?"
This kind of fun approach will be a welcome breath
of fresh air.
Now, I want you to do something. Go back and READ
IT AGAIN... VERY CAREFULLY. Imagine it happening exactly
like it's written. Try to imagine it in a few different
settings. Work on it until you can clearly see it
happening in your mind's eye. (The reason I can see
it clearly is because I've done it so many times in
real life!)
OK, so now you know how to approach women.
Fantastic.
I can remember when I first learned how to start
approaching women... I thought that if I could just
start conversations easily, the rest of it would be
a snap.
Well, after meeting a lot of women, but not getting
so many dates... and not having the few dates I did
get go anywhere... I realized that there was a lot more
to it.
The reality is that success with women comes down
to understanding female psychology, knowing the entire
"mating game" front to back, and then knowing all the
specific techniques and steps you need to take at each
moment with a woman.
