BigDawg
Don Juan
My ex-wife is Korean by birth but raised mostly in the US. She was Christian, but hardly devout. Her mother (that evil witch) was much more devout, but only when it it was convenient.
We met in Korea, and our relationship became intimate after a couple of months of dating. We were married about four years later, divorced three and a half after that.
It was love at first sight for both of us, but little did I know that all of her emotional baggage was going to be used against me. She had a miserable childhood, and there were times she would get angry at me simply because I woke up that morning. Of course, I was much more of an AFC back then (we met about 12 years ago), and I tried to put up with it, with moderate success.
Her behavior was definitely influenced by her overbearing mother (who hated me with a passion, through no fault of my own), and a lack of character. She turned out to be very headstrong to the point of alienating all her close friends and her family for a couple of years. She would sometimes pick a fight at the drop of a hat, and it was really depressing.
Religion was never a big issue between us, as neither of us were regular churchgoers. The trouble in my case was that her maturity level was well below mine (she's also seven or eight years younger than me). She was very materialistic and sometimes hated me for having come from a fairly closeknit family.
I haven't dated another Korean woman since then, but I haven't ruled them out, though. I would, if I had the opportunity, but I won't put up with the nonsense that I got from the first one.
So, if there is any lesson to be learned, it is this: don't put up with any crap from her. If she can't handle it, that's her problem. If she is going to try to control the relationship in the way she has been, you're head for a lot of grief, and you don't need that kind of headache, do you. I understand that it's easier said than done to fix this problem, and going toe to toe with a headstrong individual is kinda like jumping into a lion's den, but you deserve to have equal footing in the relationship. Communication and understanding, are afterall, two of the cornerstones.
We met in Korea, and our relationship became intimate after a couple of months of dating. We were married about four years later, divorced three and a half after that.
It was love at first sight for both of us, but little did I know that all of her emotional baggage was going to be used against me. She had a miserable childhood, and there were times she would get angry at me simply because I woke up that morning. Of course, I was much more of an AFC back then (we met about 12 years ago), and I tried to put up with it, with moderate success.
Her behavior was definitely influenced by her overbearing mother (who hated me with a passion, through no fault of my own), and a lack of character. She turned out to be very headstrong to the point of alienating all her close friends and her family for a couple of years. She would sometimes pick a fight at the drop of a hat, and it was really depressing.
Religion was never a big issue between us, as neither of us were regular churchgoers. The trouble in my case was that her maturity level was well below mine (she's also seven or eight years younger than me). She was very materialistic and sometimes hated me for having come from a fairly closeknit family.
I haven't dated another Korean woman since then, but I haven't ruled them out, though. I would, if I had the opportunity, but I won't put up with the nonsense that I got from the first one.
So, if there is any lesson to be learned, it is this: don't put up with any crap from her. If she can't handle it, that's her problem. If she is going to try to control the relationship in the way she has been, you're head for a lot of grief, and you don't need that kind of headache, do you. I understand that it's easier said than done to fix this problem, and going toe to toe with a headstrong individual is kinda like jumping into a lion's den, but you deserve to have equal footing in the relationship. Communication and understanding, are afterall, two of the cornerstones.
