DinoCassanova
Senior Don Juan
I was to Italy for a few weeks this past summer to visit some family in the town I was originally born in. A couple of my cousins and I drove for the weekend once to the nearest big city which is Naples. There you have club-life, etc, similar to any big city around here or in the rest of Europe as well of course. The women in Italy , the Italian women I'm talking about here not immigrant women from ......you name it; there are immigrants there from all over now......... but the Italian women there EXPECT the men to be DJ's. To be macks. You simply have to be. If you sit at the club like a wallflower they will think you're either gay or have no balls. They expect crass comments as they walk down the street, catcalls, etc etc. Even guys to follow them for a half a block or so and request their cell # repeatedly (everyone has a cell now in Rome or Naples ; part of what they call the "bella figura", which means beautiful figure, or person). So everyone wants to cut a "bella figura" when they're out (you won't see guys in Italy going out dressed the way some American guys , not all but some , dress; usually these are total AFC's who dress so poorly here by the way). I've seen guys here at some of these sports bars lately wearing things I wouldn't want to go to bed in ! They actually go to a sports bar, where there are several HB waitresses and customers, dressed so poorly.
But anyway over there , as part of the culture, the women are used to and expect the "machismo" to come from us. We have to , you know, unbutton our shirts some, reveal our chain and "dago-t" underneath, and say something when she passes by us or we see her at the club. They'll wonder if they're not good-looking if the men fail to. Confirming my theory on all this, later after I came back here this summer I started (briefly) dating this Colombian chick. We found that we had a striking amount in common due to the fact that from speaking Italian I was also able to understand and speak the majority of her Spanish and furthermore there were many cultural similarities. One non-DJ related cultural similarity that was really unexpected to me was that the "patron saint" of my hometown ( a very obscure tiny rural town and a very obscure saint as well) is the same one that is the patron of Colombia, and of Quito, Ecuador , as well. A key DJ-related cultural similarity however was the expectation of women regarding men. Colombian women, just like Italian women it turns out, expect the men to be flat-out dominant. She told me one night over coffee, "Over here, these men are , how do you say in English, poo-sies man ! I see lot of good looking guys, and they look at me , and they don't say nothing !! In Bogota they would be following me down the street!" And that's what reminded me of Italy again. The cultural similarities regarding DJ'ing and just male/female relations in general. I was talking to a well-educated friend of mine about this and he simply said, "They are both what have traditionally been known as Latin cultures." By this he went on to say that he was referring to what he called "gaudy" Roman Catholicism, hot tempers, passionate people, men who hit on - and sometimes unfortunately literally hit - women , all the time.
So it's amazing how different the cultures are. Much of the reason, I think at least, why American men (again not ALL but many) appear so "castrated" socially is that this country was founded by (and originally pretty much FOR) White Anglo-Saxon Protestants, with a totally different ethical , political, religious, and moral "outlook". In many ways, men today may well be victims of not only "feminism" gone out of control, but also victims of what is ultimately a holdover from this nation's prudish "Victorian" English past and origins.
~Dino~
But anyway over there , as part of the culture, the women are used to and expect the "machismo" to come from us. We have to , you know, unbutton our shirts some, reveal our chain and "dago-t" underneath, and say something when she passes by us or we see her at the club. They'll wonder if they're not good-looking if the men fail to. Confirming my theory on all this, later after I came back here this summer I started (briefly) dating this Colombian chick. We found that we had a striking amount in common due to the fact that from speaking Italian I was also able to understand and speak the majority of her Spanish and furthermore there were many cultural similarities. One non-DJ related cultural similarity that was really unexpected to me was that the "patron saint" of my hometown ( a very obscure tiny rural town and a very obscure saint as well) is the same one that is the patron of Colombia, and of Quito, Ecuador , as well. A key DJ-related cultural similarity however was the expectation of women regarding men. Colombian women, just like Italian women it turns out, expect the men to be flat-out dominant. She told me one night over coffee, "Over here, these men are , how do you say in English, poo-sies man ! I see lot of good looking guys, and they look at me , and they don't say nothing !! In Bogota they would be following me down the street!" And that's what reminded me of Italy again. The cultural similarities regarding DJ'ing and just male/female relations in general. I was talking to a well-educated friend of mine about this and he simply said, "They are both what have traditionally been known as Latin cultures." By this he went on to say that he was referring to what he called "gaudy" Roman Catholicism, hot tempers, passionate people, men who hit on - and sometimes unfortunately literally hit - women , all the time.
So it's amazing how different the cultures are. Much of the reason, I think at least, why American men (again not ALL but many) appear so "castrated" socially is that this country was founded by (and originally pretty much FOR) White Anglo-Saxon Protestants, with a totally different ethical , political, religious, and moral "outlook". In many ways, men today may well be victims of not only "feminism" gone out of control, but also victims of what is ultimately a holdover from this nation's prudish "Victorian" English past and origins.
~Dino~
