Couldn't get it up... 18 year old... I feel embarrased

[ScottMustaine]

My girlfriend in the middle of making out suggested to find some more secluded place. So we did end up in a dark place of park. She already ****ed 3 times with her other 3 guys, but the problem is. I'm a ****ing virgin. On top of that. I lied that I fvcked.


So we got there and she started stroking my ****, and bang. I couldn't get it up. After few minutes I got it and bang it wen't down the moment she got it.

My head is extremely sensitive ( non circumsized ) and weather was cold. And her hands would simply squiezing like they are gonna kill someone. Hell I explained her but couldn't get it up. People would from time to time pass by and we would have to ' pause ' this. I tried to finger her but the moment I've put my fingers I was freaked out. Wasn't something I saw on those porn movies. I tried to finger her but she said it was uncomfortable for her and asked me how can she help me.

The good thing was I was in bad mood and told her that during the day that i was but ' dark cloudy ' and felt bad for that atmosphere. So we start making out again, I slowly push her head
few inches from my ****, and she asks me ' how did i end up here ? '

I just responded " i dont know... " and she got back.
I told her I'd go down on her if it weren't so many ****ing people.

I felt most of time like I was in a fight with someone. Adrenaline kicked in and I was God damn nervous.

In the end I returned her home and was talking like nothing happened but in the meantime we both went into silence mode and in the end I was cheerful...

I feel this is going to end up bad.


Should I just tell her I'm not experienced in this **** ?

I 'lied' her so I'm confused and put down...




P.S. Two days before all this happened I hadn't slept well, was as you already read somewhat depressed, and masturbated in total for those 2 days around 8 times... I definetly decided not to do wank it anymore.

 

[GotED?]

Some personal experiences that may help you get over your 'little-grasshoppa' syndrome....

1) Make sure the girl you are banging REALLY turns you on - ain't nothing worse than trying to settle for a girl you are not attracted to and trying to fook her. I would rather go eat a Subway sandwich.

2) All men 'function' differently. Some men just can't straight out do a woman anywhere, and some can. Some need to establish an emotional connection/attraction; every man has different range and balance of testosterone and estrogen. You need to figure out what works for you to be confident. One Night Stand isn't for every man.

3) The right woman who cares for you will not judge you upon your 'not able to get it up' the first few times. However, if it is recurring, get it fooken fixed!!

With respect,

Exodus

 

[ScottMustaine]

Some personal experiences that may help you get over your 'little-grasshoppa' syndrome....

1) Make sure the girl you are banging REALLY turns you on - ain't nothing worse than trying to settle for a girl you are not attracted to and trying to fook her. I would rather go eat a Subway sandwich.

2) All men 'function' differently. Some men just can't straight out do a woman anywhere, and some can. Some need to establish an emotional connection/attraction; every man has different range and balance of testosterone and estrogen. You need to figure out what works for you to be confident. One Night Stand isn't for every man.

3) The right woman who cares for you will not judge you upon your 'not able to get it up' the first few times. However, if it is recurring, get it fooken fixed!!

With respect,

Exodus

I am quite attracted to her. I never approached girls. I just saw her, and my instinct told me. " Do it. And do it right . " So I did it and I went for the natural... She didn't feel attracted ... or she was showing signs of unattraction, so I backed off and 3 months later I shown interest and she got into me hard. She's really hot but simply I don't know.


My penis glans hurts if it isn't touched softly, and well... When she went for handjob she was actually 'pulling' my penis. and would really push hard the foreskin which would god damn hurt... I told her I never these things outside of the bedroom and I had no problems back then... I did, but it was easily fixed.

Her hands were icy cold and she would strangle it... I mean it was brutal like in porn... She said her ex didn't have problems with it...


Another problem is none of us have a room where someone won't interrupt us.


I don't know how to act now with her. I texted her like nothing happened. Playfully and mentioned

Some other psycho girl was stalking me and I told her about it... So in the end she asked me " So why don't you just tell her to back off if she's annoying you so much ? "

"Oh yes, I'm gonna make a scene like women know.. Scream and throw things, might score a headshot "

' I don't know how to make scenes but okay freely scream and yell whatever you had in your mind '

" Like Halford in Painkiller ? "

"AMEN ! "



Didn't want to text any further. Somehow it's the first time I see a girl who wants to selflessly give a handjob... I mean chick asks me if I want a drink etc...


Should I tell her I'm a virgin ? Last time I did to one girl she disappeared next day.

And about penis sensitivity what do I do ?

 

[VladPatton]

Ok, dude, chill, bro. Get a room, where there is a certain level of comfort, not a cold park, and take it step by step and tell her what you like, as well as you learning what she likes. If you need to, buy a pack of Trojans beforehand and learn how to put em on. It really is no biggie. Remember, this is supposed to be fun. Once the two of you figure out all the clicks, it'll be great.

Edit: Absolutely no need to tell a girl virginity status. Fake it till you make it.

 

[ScottMustaine]

Ok, dude, chill, bro. Get a room, where there is a certain level of comfort, not a cold park, and take it step by step and tell her what you like, as well as you learning what she likes. If you need to, buy a pack of Trojans beforehand and learn how to put em on. It really is no biggie. Remember, this is supposed to be fun. Once the two of you figure out all the clicks, it'll be great.

Edit: Absolutely no need to tell a girl virginity status. Fake it till you make it.

I feel like I got to talk with her. About anything. I don't usually text her much but now after this I got epic urge...

 

[omega05]

shouldnt have touched yourself all those times. i have a feeling that is to blame

 

[JohnChops]

You were nervous, its natural. Honestly if she likes you its not a big deal. Just relax, relax and relax! Relaxation is the key and just let it happen. Sex is fun man! Don't make it out to be so serious, its quite the opposite.

 

[flashpoint]

I felt most of time like I was in a fight with someone. Adrenaline kicked in and I was God damn nervous.

....

P.S. Two days before all this happened I hadn't slept well, was as you already read somewhat depressed, and masturbated in total for those 2 days around 8 times... I definetly decided not to do wank it anymore.

that's it right there. next time find a cosy place and take your time. the circumstances here were just a bit too much to process. no need to be embarrassed or anything, obviously she might have had sex with the other guys but still suxx at it too. the "problem" here is not entirely on your side. and besides that the first time for two people is most of the time a bit awkward and not that great.

and yess, save some juice for the lady.

 

[AlexLefty]

Pop a viagra...seriously...
If you're too nervous all by yourself, use the pill.

And if you don't know how to finger, look it up

 

[Sir Psycho Sexy]

I feel obligated to post something because in my teens I was horribly plagued by performance anxiety. It's different for everyone. Some guys never have this problem, others sometimes and others always.

The best piece of advice I can give you is know it's all in your head. As long as you can get up on your own and masturbate normally you know the problem is 100% a mental problem and 0% a physical problem.

Right off the bat I can tell you your location sounds stressful, lying to her made it stressful and her saying your fingering felt uncomfortable made it stressful. All that stress equals one flaccid penis.

If you want to overcome performance anxiety you have to reduce stress and pressure you feel regarding sex.
Some things that can help you are:
-Quiet, private location
-Alcohol---don't overdue it, just a couple drinks to relax you
-A girl you can trust---in my case it took multiple attempts and she was understanding and helpful

Before you know it you will be pounding that V like it's your job!

 

[ScottMustaine]

I feel obligated to post something because in my teens I was horribly plagued by performance anxiety. It's different for everyone. Some guys never have this problem, others sometimes and others always.

The best piece of advice I can give you is know it's all in your head. As long as you can get up on your own and masturbate normally you know the problem is 100% a mental problem and 0% a physical problem.

Right off the bat I can tell you your location sounds stressful, lying to her made it stressful and her saying your fingering felt uncomfortable made it stressful. All that stress equals one flaccid penis.

If you want to overcome performance anxiety you have to reduce stress and pressure you feel regarding sex.

If living in these conditions I won't **** until my middle twenties. None of girlfriends I had ever had empty room. Neither do I... And I changed them 10 so far. Saw this site one year ago...

Could a little alcohol help ?


One theory I had was , my gf was sittin on my leg like 2 hours in the park. When I got up I barely felt it. And even then it felt numb. Maybe it was the blood circulation. First time I was supposed to get a handjob from my ex , again it was lame. She would take it and squeeze it like a sponge .moving rapidly up and down.

It was epic downer. And it needed some time to get up. I guess I get turned off. It's painful when they stroke it...

But nobody still answered this question. I never actually told her I am virgin, nor that I ****ed. Though at some comments I was sounding like I had experience. Now I feel bloody bad about simply telling her I'm a virgin.

She's been sincere all this time. And is apologizing all the time if she messes up something. She even asked me " So how can I help, what's wrong ? "

And I told her I never done these things outside of the bedroom, and that it's cold and adrenaline kicked in and it's hard to keep it going, especially because she squiezes hard.

I don't know how you guys finger a girl, but I 'tried' ( god that was lame ) while she was sitting. You know the 'proper ' posture of sitting like in school? Well in that position...

 

[flashpoint]

tell her to be more gentle and handle your thing like she would like have her cl!t handled. she should get the idea. it is is not too sensitive, it s just that she cant handle it properly.

then focus less on doing things right and more on enjoying them. dont just "finger" her, feel her out, make it an experience. let her tell you what she wants you to do, every woman is different so there is no shame in asking. and if the position isnt right for it, then just change the focking position. kind of literally.

and a propos shame, no need to make it an issue that you havent done "it" yet. i mean you are about to right? and she does her best to make it work, so what would you gain by telling her? the problem here is once you tell her, she might feel the burden is all on her and chicks rarely can take that.

seriously, you have the joy-stick, she has the buttons, just play with it and do what feels ok. for BOTH of you of course.

 

[bigneil]

It happens - even when I was 19, even with HB9's, even with oneitis girls, even with strippers, and it's not a physical inability, but more of a stage fright effect. 5 minutes before they show up I'm Huster's Highest Rating. Though ironically, for me it's when they are too porn-star and not sensuous enough that turns me off. Some girls are so used to men being automatically turned on, they don't know how to turn a man on!

 

[Greasy Pig]

Great point, Bigneil. Getting hard is pretty much an uncontrollable action caused by any number of factors. So many women just assume that all they have to do is start making out and the dude will just rise to the occasion.
Sometimes, it actually takes a bit more effort on her part to make it happen.

Don't be afraid to grab a chick's hand and control her grip and tempo. Even though your girl is more experienced, she still obviously has no idea how to stroke a dyck. All women are the same until they get taught.
So direct her hand and encourage her when she's doing it right. Make sure she's peeling that foreskin back and forth over your knob.
I'm not cut either and there's nothing like the pain of an unlubricated hand destroying your purple-headed warrior.

And don't rush things. Savour the meal before you eat. Touch her t1ts, gently playing with her nipples and areola.
Kiss her passionately, breathe in her perfume, run your hands all over her body. Then make sure you can get easy access to that pvssy. Loosen her pants (or just tell her to wear a skirt!), then rub it outside her knickers.
Find her cl1t through her panties and rub it from top to bottom with the same sort of pressure you'd use to make an impression in play-dough.
Then, work your way into her panties and keep stroking the ****. You should be able to hear her breathing faster by now. Then, after you've established she's wet, gently slide your middle finger in. Very gently about half way, then withdraw and go back to the cl1t. Repeat.

 

[Jay Dee]

Lose that virginity already - I promise you, you'll like it.

 

[Jair213]

2 days before u masterbate 8 times total. dude i think this is were u kinda messed up.. do it atleast once or twice max if ur gonna bone ur chick the next day but 8 times? no bueno.

 

[ScottMustaine]

Seems I won't lose my virginity soon enough. It's not like I'm all over ' GOTTA LOSE IT ' thing. She doesn't text me anymore. I played it yesterday like nothing happened. Either way she thinks I'm lame, or she thinks it's her fault. Or even gay.


She went out yesterday with her girlfriends on a drink. Beer. Guess they were talking about my lame performance. Wooho. Now whole ****in' society will know how I can't get my **** up.

Sometimes I really want to castrate myself.

 

[Jair213]

Seems I won't lose my virginity soon enough. It's not like I'm all over ' GOTTA LOSE IT ' thing. She doesn't text me anymore. I played it yesterday like nothing happened. Either way she thinks I'm lame, or she thinks it's her fault. Or even gay.


She went out yesterday with her girlfriends on a drink. Beer. Guess they were talking about my lame performance. Wooho. Now whole ****in' society will know how I can't get my **** up.

Sometimes I really want to castrate myself.

dont let this get u down its gonna make things worse for u .

stop masterbating completely. why the F would u be masterbating so much in the first place. lol