After being dumped twice in the last month by HB's who've shown high IL, I am convinved that playing the challenge card, acting aloof, etc. and other tricks we are taught here can have adverse effects.
This is the pattern that has emerged:
HB #1: I meet the girl. She shows high interest and gives me her number. I call 3 days later to set up a date. Everything is cool. The first date seems to go well and I kiss close. I acted somewhat aloof, however not asking many questions and letting her do most of the talking and ending the date early. She hints that she wants to see me the next day, but I tell her that I had plans to go fishing with my brother. I wait and call 3-5 days after the date and the girl doesn't answer or return my calls. That was two weeks ago.
HB#2: Again, meet her at a club, shows high IL. I call 3 days later to set up date. Date goes really well. I Kiss close. Call 4 days later to set up second date. Second date goes really well, but still no fyck close as this girl seems like LTR material. She unexpectantly calls me the next day twice. I don't answer the phone because I am with another girl and I don't want to seem to be available. I call her twice the next day and leave a message. She doesn't return the calls which is strange because she is pretty good with this. I suspect that she is pissed because I didn't answer her calls the day she called. Well, I called again today with no luck. I suspect I got dumped.
I think the lesson here is that being a challenge as taught by Doc Love and others can backfire.
What do you guys think?
This is the pattern that has emerged:
HB #1: I meet the girl. She shows high interest and gives me her number. I call 3 days later to set up a date. Everything is cool. The first date seems to go well and I kiss close. I acted somewhat aloof, however not asking many questions and letting her do most of the talking and ending the date early. She hints that she wants to see me the next day, but I tell her that I had plans to go fishing with my brother. I wait and call 3-5 days after the date and the girl doesn't answer or return my calls. That was two weeks ago.
HB#2: Again, meet her at a club, shows high IL. I call 3 days later to set up date. Date goes really well. I Kiss close. Call 4 days later to set up second date. Second date goes really well, but still no fyck close as this girl seems like LTR material. She unexpectantly calls me the next day twice. I don't answer the phone because I am with another girl and I don't want to seem to be available. I call her twice the next day and leave a message. She doesn't return the calls which is strange because she is pretty good with this. I suspect that she is pissed because I didn't answer her calls the day she called. Well, I called again today with no luck. I suspect I got dumped.
I think the lesson here is that being a challenge as taught by Doc Love and others can backfire.
What do you guys think?