The Pedantical
Don Juan
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- Oct 28, 2005
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Yesterday I took a piece of paper and drew fifty little squares. I said, I'm going to go to this shopping mall a short ride from the gym (http://www.placealexisnihon.com/en/shopping/ - beautiful place) and cold approach 50 girl I don't know. Just say hi, small talk, number close. That's it. Fill in a little square each time and leave when I'm done.
So I spent about 2 hours and a half in that shopping mall. Didn't manage to get one little square filled. Every time I see a girl, even an ugly one who looks like a freaking golem, I just stand there and can't @%!@ing do it.
I'm not shy... that's not the thing, I'm not shy with girls. I can talk to a girl (my skills are another matter, but I can work on that) without really being shy... problem is, first contact has to already have been established.
All kind of bullcrap is going through my mind as I'm standing there. It's not proper. It's not okay. She's going to get scared. I'd look like some kind of rapist just coming out of nowhere and talking to her and asking her number. She's probably got people she knows around who'll hear. Blablabla... can't get the freaking stuff out of my head. This is so freaking frustrating.
Obviously there's a step I need to take before doing that. All the advice in the DJ bible seems to work for people who are already able to approach a woman... I'm not even at that level yet.
I thought the ideal would be to have someone like a friend or whatever with me just to kick me in the ass. Like, I'm walking with him in the place and he's like, okay there's a girl there. Just go and talk to her. And if I'm like... argh... I can't... he'll like kick me in the ass or just say just do it, we're in a hurry. Problem is I don't have any friends, so that's that. There's got to be another way. If I could only get over this particular thing, the rest would be much easier to go through IMO
Advice?
So I spent about 2 hours and a half in that shopping mall. Didn't manage to get one little square filled. Every time I see a girl, even an ugly one who looks like a freaking golem, I just stand there and can't @%!@ing do it.
I'm not shy... that's not the thing, I'm not shy with girls. I can talk to a girl (my skills are another matter, but I can work on that) without really being shy... problem is, first contact has to already have been established.
All kind of bullcrap is going through my mind as I'm standing there. It's not proper. It's not okay. She's going to get scared. I'd look like some kind of rapist just coming out of nowhere and talking to her and asking her number. She's probably got people she knows around who'll hear. Blablabla... can't get the freaking stuff out of my head. This is so freaking frustrating.
Obviously there's a step I need to take before doing that. All the advice in the DJ bible seems to work for people who are already able to approach a woman... I'm not even at that level yet.
I thought the ideal would be to have someone like a friend or whatever with me just to kick me in the ass. Like, I'm walking with him in the place and he's like, okay there's a girl there. Just go and talk to her. And if I'm like... argh... I can't... he'll like kick me in the ass or just say just do it, we're in a hurry. Problem is I don't have any friends, so that's that. There's got to be another way. If I could only get over this particular thing, the rest would be much easier to go through IMO
Advice?