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Jackreacher20144

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We had an argument, she says she wants to go away for a few days to visit her friend. But I said she couldnt. Now she saying she has no freedom and feels like a prisoner. She accuses me of not trusting her but how can you blame me? But if she really is visiting her friend then I would have made a mistake for falsely accusing her. Just as I thought things were getting better. Maybe you guys are right, I may have to take a break from her.
 

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Of course you don't trust her. You have no reason to. She betrayed you. She's running around like an alley cat in heat. She's pulling typical wayward babble and is addicted to the other man.

If you let her go.. She's going to see this guy. I promise. Gps track her and see.

Go to marriage builders and post your story and listen to the vets there if you want any hope to save this marriage otherwise divorce her. She needs to provide just compensation and earn your trust back.

Epi

Edit: will even make it easy for you. Here is the direct link to the infidelity board where posters receive help for their marriages who are experiencing adultery like you are.

http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=postlist&Board=35&page=1
 
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You are pathetic excuse for a man. Of course she still into the other dude. That why she left you . Now you need to leave her. If you do she will go to him. She not into you. You can't negotiate love. If you don't leave her, one day she will leave you.
 

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Stop feeding trolls. It only encourages them, and ruins the purpose of this site. Most of you are like 10 to 20 years older than me for Christs sake, you should know better.
 

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What if he ain't no troll? The point of this site is to try help him out and point out the hopeless situation he is in. His marriage will fail. We have to encourage him to walk away otherwise he is just storing up more trouble for the future. Cases of cheating spouses like this will never have a happy ending. The mirror is broken. No matter what you do it will never be the same. My betting is she will divorce him within this year and go back to the other dude or find someone else. The OP may commit suicide.
 

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Jackreacher20144 said:
Is it so bad to forgive ? She says she is sorry. I don't want to lose her. I'm also out of job and she married me so there must be some positive.
And the bolded part is a huge problem. Likely the new guy has more money than her and since OP doesn't have a job she's likely losing respect for him.

How can he protect money he doesn't have? Unless they share transparently and in a joint account. Likely not though. She goes to work and HE stays home with no kids? Wtf? Get off your lazy azz OP. Find a fricken job! Take the first job your offered and keep it til you find something better in the meantime. Geesh.
 

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Jack has to have something of value for this woman to be sticking around such a beta. Does your family have any money Jack? She could be sticking around to get your inheritance.
 

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Malice said:
Jack has to have something of value for this woman to be sticking around such a beta. Does your family have any money Jack? She could be sticking around to get your inheritance.
He's a slave. She knows she can cheat on him and he will still take her back.
Anyway it's clear she's bad news. If she left him once she will leave him again. This is BPD to the max. The OP will probably end up killing himself.
 

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mikey2012 said:
He's a slave. She knows she can cheat on him and he will still take her back.
Anyway it's clear she's bad news. If she left him once she will leave him again. This is BPD to the max. The OP will probably end up killing himself.
This guy is going to get f'd up the a$$ like he cannot even imagine. I really have nothing more to add.
 

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Sorry but she is still with me. Acting bit strange now. We had a talk and she said she don't know if we can survive in the long run. She says she can't love again like she used to. I'm trying my best to reassure her that things will be OK and that I forgive her.
 

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You're ****ING CRAZY man. She isn't into YOU anymore. You can't win someone's affection - it's either there or it isn't.

The sooner you face reality the better. I know it's hard, but you're just setting yourself up for a life of misery....
 

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She admitted she's been talking to him but only as friends . I'm comfortable with that as long it's just friends
 

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mikey2012 said:
He must be. A troll would have had his fun already....
As long as people keep replying the fat feminist will keep trolling and cackling with her kit kat bar spread across her face.
 

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Jackreacher20144 said:
She admitted she's been talking to him but only as friends . I'm comfortable with that as long it's just friends
Great to hear, Jack. Sounds like you are making progress and your wife respects you.

I have a couple of suggestions. Refrain from having sex with your wife, sex I think will just complicate things. Instead, do little things like give her foot massages, bring her flowers, etc. Also, make sure you encourage that she talks a lot about him. Make the focus of all conversations with your wife about him instead.

Keep up the good work. Furthermore, keep posting advise so we can all learn from you.
 

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Jackreacher20144 said:
She admitted she's been talking to him but only as friends . I'm comfortable with that as long it's just friends
you're just asking for trouble each time she talks with him.
 
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