Giovanni Casanova
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Jan 5, 2002
- Messages
- 5,550
- Reaction score
- 18
- Age
- 44
- Location
- Hiding in Penkitten's Linen Closet
Have you ever been around a guy who just seemed to have this aura, this powerful energy around him that made people take notice? A guy who, whenever he spoke, seemed to have everyone's ear? A guy that you really wish that you could hate, but there's just something about him that makes you like him?
That, my friends, is charisma. According to the dictionary, charisma is "a rare personal quality attributed to leaders who arouse fervent popular devotion and enthusiasm." Obviously, this is a very desirable trait for a true Don Juan to have. The thing is, a lot of people seem to be under the impression that charisma is just a genetic trait, a quality you're either born with or you're not. Truly, some people are naturally charismatic and charming. But there is no reason that you cannot "learn" to be charismatic.
Here are several tips to help boost your charisma:
Be Confident. Confidence is key in almost everything concerning DJs, and this is no exception. In order to be charismatic, people need to feel comfortable with you. And in order for people to feel comfortable with you, you have be comfortable with yourself. You should walk with a confident stride, make eye contact, and carry your head high.
Smile. This tip is not only extremely important, it's also incredibly simple. Smiling tells other people that you're happy and that you accept them. People are more drawn to those who are happy, and they desperately want to be accepted. Smiling is also a show of confidence, and most people look more attractive when they are smiling.
Limit Negativity. Ever been around a severely negative, depressed person? They're no fun at all. All they do is complain, and try to drag others into the horrible gloom that they feel is their life. People respond by staying away. A negative person is the opposite of a charismatic person. Besides, when you complain, nobody really cares about your problems anyway.
Accept Others. One of the best ways to get a person to like you is to let them know that you like them. I'm not talking about romantic situations (don't tell that girl that she is your moon and stars), I'm talking about just regular people in general. Guys and girls. Whenever you hear that someone things you're a cool person, you're more likely to think the same of them. When you include other people in activities, bring them into conversations, ask their opinions, and are honestly complimentary toward them, you will be seen as charming and charismatic. Being respectful is one of the first and best paths to being respected.
Don't Take Yourself Too Seriously. Be prepared to laugh. Be prepared to make others laugh. And, perhaps most importantly, be prepared to laugh at yourself. Some people will make a mistake and attempt to cover it up, become embarassed by it, or make excuses for it. A charismatic person can take an honest mistake and turn it toward their advantage by simply owning the mistake and laughing at themselves. This makes you look more down-to-earth and helps people identify more with you.
Listen and Be Listened To. When people speak, genuinely listen to them. Let them know that you are paying attention and that their thoughts and opinions are important to you. When you need to speak on a matter, make sure that your ideas are well-thought-out and include a solid gameplan. When making a decision, mention the ideas that others have brought up and give the impression that everyone's ideas were used to make the final solution. And remember: the less you talk, the more people listen when you DO speak.
A charismatic person is well-liked, well-respected, is listened to and gets the results that he wants. People will bend over backward to help a charismatic leader accomplish his goals. Become that man, and the rest will follow.
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CASANOVA
"Now when you talk with her, I don't want you to be the guy in the PG-13 movie that everybody really hopes makes it happen. I want you to be the guy in the rated-R movie who you're not sure if you like yet."
- Trent in "Swingers"
"Enough of this melodrama. My advice: Just one b*tch in this world. One b*tch with many faces."
- Jay, in "Chasing Amy"
[This message has been edited by Giovanni Casanova (edited 04-19-2002).]
That, my friends, is charisma. According to the dictionary, charisma is "a rare personal quality attributed to leaders who arouse fervent popular devotion and enthusiasm." Obviously, this is a very desirable trait for a true Don Juan to have. The thing is, a lot of people seem to be under the impression that charisma is just a genetic trait, a quality you're either born with or you're not. Truly, some people are naturally charismatic and charming. But there is no reason that you cannot "learn" to be charismatic.
Here are several tips to help boost your charisma:
Be Confident. Confidence is key in almost everything concerning DJs, and this is no exception. In order to be charismatic, people need to feel comfortable with you. And in order for people to feel comfortable with you, you have be comfortable with yourself. You should walk with a confident stride, make eye contact, and carry your head high.
Smile. This tip is not only extremely important, it's also incredibly simple. Smiling tells other people that you're happy and that you accept them. People are more drawn to those who are happy, and they desperately want to be accepted. Smiling is also a show of confidence, and most people look more attractive when they are smiling.
Limit Negativity. Ever been around a severely negative, depressed person? They're no fun at all. All they do is complain, and try to drag others into the horrible gloom that they feel is their life. People respond by staying away. A negative person is the opposite of a charismatic person. Besides, when you complain, nobody really cares about your problems anyway.
Accept Others. One of the best ways to get a person to like you is to let them know that you like them. I'm not talking about romantic situations (don't tell that girl that she is your moon and stars), I'm talking about just regular people in general. Guys and girls. Whenever you hear that someone things you're a cool person, you're more likely to think the same of them. When you include other people in activities, bring them into conversations, ask their opinions, and are honestly complimentary toward them, you will be seen as charming and charismatic. Being respectful is one of the first and best paths to being respected.
Don't Take Yourself Too Seriously. Be prepared to laugh. Be prepared to make others laugh. And, perhaps most importantly, be prepared to laugh at yourself. Some people will make a mistake and attempt to cover it up, become embarassed by it, or make excuses for it. A charismatic person can take an honest mistake and turn it toward their advantage by simply owning the mistake and laughing at themselves. This makes you look more down-to-earth and helps people identify more with you.
Listen and Be Listened To. When people speak, genuinely listen to them. Let them know that you are paying attention and that their thoughts and opinions are important to you. When you need to speak on a matter, make sure that your ideas are well-thought-out and include a solid gameplan. When making a decision, mention the ideas that others have brought up and give the impression that everyone's ideas were used to make the final solution. And remember: the less you talk, the more people listen when you DO speak.
A charismatic person is well-liked, well-respected, is listened to and gets the results that he wants. People will bend over backward to help a charismatic leader accomplish his goals. Become that man, and the rest will follow.
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CASANOVA
"Now when you talk with her, I don't want you to be the guy in the PG-13 movie that everybody really hopes makes it happen. I want you to be the guy in the rated-R movie who you're not sure if you like yet."
- Trent in "Swingers"
"Enough of this melodrama. My advice: Just one b*tch in this world. One b*tch with many faces."
- Jay, in "Chasing Amy"
[This message has been edited by Giovanni Casanova (edited 04-19-2002).]
