I'm in a really bad situation and I'm not quite sure how to get out of it, so I hope someone here can help me out.
To put it simply, I am a nice guy, always have been and probably always will. The problem is that I don't seem to possess a lot of confidence and stuff, and as result get teased by friends or other people frequently. Why? I have toruble responding back, trouble coming up with witty insults and comebacks. I stayed silent or apathetic, tried to ignore them, which made things worse. Frankly, I'm tired of it. Tired of feeling like a loser, tired of wondering why I am such a target. Don't feel sorry for me, go ahead and critique me.
All I want is to toughen up, not be such a pushover and actually reply to insults and teasing with confidence and some ****iness. It has gotten to the point where a teacher was worried that my friends' teasing seemed like real insults and she wasn't sure whether they were jpoking or not. Joking with friends is fine, but I think they take it a little too far and I don't cuz I'm so vulnerable so they have this image of how I am easy to tease, after so many years.
I think the biggest step is how I can respond to insults, teasing, or jokes made about me, and how I can imrpobve my self-image. SOrry for ty the long post, I hope you guys can help me out.
Thanks
To put it simply, I am a nice guy, always have been and probably always will. The problem is that I don't seem to possess a lot of confidence and stuff, and as result get teased by friends or other people frequently. Why? I have toruble responding back, trouble coming up with witty insults and comebacks. I stayed silent or apathetic, tried to ignore them, which made things worse. Frankly, I'm tired of it. Tired of feeling like a loser, tired of wondering why I am such a target. Don't feel sorry for me, go ahead and critique me.
All I want is to toughen up, not be such a pushover and actually reply to insults and teasing with confidence and some ****iness. It has gotten to the point where a teacher was worried that my friends' teasing seemed like real insults and she wasn't sure whether they were jpoking or not. Joking with friends is fine, but I think they take it a little too far and I don't cuz I'm so vulnerable so they have this image of how I am easy to tease, after so many years.
I think the biggest step is how I can respond to insults, teasing, or jokes made about me, and how I can imrpobve my self-image. SOrry for ty the long post, I hope you guys can help me out.
Thanks