cant get off from head/errection issues

[godjwood]

hey guys,
ive been seeing htis girl for a few months now, hookin up like a once a week. ive been having some ED issues lately, i think performance anxiety and its gotten out of hand real bad. ive tried so many things even pills and its just not workin out so eventually i said **** it and stopped thinking about it. so anyways sometimes it worked and this girl would hook up w/ me andi never got off. i have never gotten off from head from any girls ive been with.
so apparently its been bothering her alot cause she told me she dint want to see me anymore, then when we got to the bottom of it she was upset because she "didnt feel like things were working out physically". even more to the bottom of it she was upset she couldnt get me off from head. we were going to have sex, but i didnt try because i was afriad of not getting an errection when using a condom so i tried w/o one but she wouldnt let me.
so she agreed it was a dumb reason to stop seeing eachother just bc of bedroom issues, so we kept seeing eachother.
so she comes over tonight, we start makin out and she then she says she has to go, i ask her why shes going she says she wants to leave while she still feels comfortable. she says theres no point in hooking up, she doesnt want to have sex if foreplay isnt working out, and she has no motivation to hook up with me cause she feels like she cant satisfy me. i have assured her its not her fault i told her i have never gotten off from head, and she feels like if she cant recipricate she doesnt want to hook up, and she doesnt know waht else to do to get me off.
this really ****in sucks, i cant sleep cause im trying to think of waht to do.
she says giving head is something she really likes to do, and she feels like its pointless giving it to me if im not getting off.
what to do, what to do. dammit. thanks guys

 

[Rocko]

she says giving head is something she really likes to do, and she feels like its pointless giving it to me if im not getting off.

You can start by telling her that I am a great guy and telling me where she lives haha. Honestly man, it may be happening because you are obsessing over it. It sounds like you are subconsciously telling yourself you can't get it up, and therefore your body is complying. Never think that you can't get it up, that is putting bad thoughts into your mind.

PS do you get hard from other stuff? porn / other women?

 

[DonJuanByNature]

Sorry man.. but you blew it with this one.. your better off starting with another one and learn a few things from this relationship.. (i.e. at this point might take more energy to fix this instead of finding something new)

Here is a tool that will help you.. tell a girl this...(seriously)

You know how everyone is different, well, I am more picky then most, in fact I only hooked up with a few number of girls, not because I cant get any, but simply because I am very very picky and it takes A LOT for a girl to get me off.. normal girls cant even make me hard... so really it takes 1 in a million to make me even get hard...

obviously u would have a conversation when u comfterble with a girl... but this is totaly suave.. cause now a girl will be excited if you just even get a hard on ... u made the other girl feel uncomfterble.. furthermore if a girl likes giving head, its like her saying "I like to satisfy men and be their little toy, cause its about the man and not about me", you should have gotten into **** with her.. i.e. tie her up, spank her, put things in her but etc etc .. blind fold her, finger bang her, ...etc..etc.. i.e. she wouldnt even know if your doing it or a dildo is...


ohh last thing.. most of us had atleast at some point experienced penile dysfunction... the more u think about it the harder it gets..fck... best thing to do is to talk about it with a girl and explain that your under a lot of stress bla bla bla.. and then have her finger your prostate hahaha

 

[IsiMan84]

Unless you're like 75 I think most issues like that are mental. But some guys just can't get orgasms through oral sex. That's about as much as I can really give you. And these links.

http://www.sexualhealth.com/question.php?Action=read&question_id=1203&channel=4&topic=40

http://globalrph.healthology.com/globalrph/16327.htm

 

[FaithHealer]

I can't have orgasms from oral sex, but I can go so long that most women are more than happy to let me bang them all night. I think I naturally have decreased sensitivity or something.

 

[godjwood]

Here is a tool that will help you.. tell a girl this...(seriously)

You know how everyone is different, well, I am more picky then most, in fact I only hooked up with a few number of girls, not because I cant get any, but simply because I am very very picky and it takes A LOT for a girl to get me off.. normal girls cant even make me hard... so really it takes 1 in a million to make me even get hard...

thanks for that advice man. i was thinkin about saying something like that.
the issue is partially not being able to get hard, but mostly she feels inadequate not being able to get me off.
and im leaving in a month so she says she doesnt want to have sex and i respect that.
so she basically says she doesnt know what else to do to satisfy me so i guess she doesnt even feel comfortable hookin up. i tried to tell her i can give her more feedback and try other things but shes not buying it.

 

[arglebargle]

This girl is a dumb b-tch. There's a reason why you have a hard time getting off, its called circumcision. They removed millions of nerve cells from your d-ck when you were a baby. I have the same problem with insensitivity and so do millions of other guys.

Why can't this dumb chick just go with the flow? Who cares if you can't get off easily? She's loving the fact that she's screwing with your mind so much. That's why she's not going away, she loves reducing you to a lump of quivering jello.

You need to dump her NOW.

 

[Tongs]

I had a problem similar to this a few years ago. I found that the problem was when it first happened, I obsessed over it, and kept thinking about it. It continued for a while.

How did I fix it? I didn't see the girl for like a week, and during that whole week, I didn't masturbate at all. The next time I saw her, I was ready to go, with the biggest hardon ever. It was also the best sex we'd both had at the time.

Try that out, and see if it helps you out at all. Hell, you might **** her so well that she'll be begging for more.

 

[roman]

i'm no scientist or doctor, but how often do you masturbate? try cutting down or better yet stop masturbating completely. when you habitually masturbate, your c0ck gets used to the feeling of your own grip rather than a woman's body. habitually masturbating without feeding your c0ck a regular dosage of woman is not a good idea. maybe that's not your problem though, i dunno.

 

[godjwood]

i got frusterated before, and i completely stopped masterbating for like a week. i only see her like once a week as it is. so i stopped beating off then when i saw her i was so horny. had a bunch of precum but never came. i asked her if she wanted to have sex, she said yes, but i was afriad trying ot put on a condom and losing wood and not being able to get it bakc you know? so since then, she decided she dindt want to fvck and she only wanted to bc she felt so bad that she couldnt get me off any other way.