Jeffst1980
Master Don Juan
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I think the traits that attract women to older men are their perceived status within any given community and their ability to set their own frame and reality...like the examples Latinoman posted about dance instructors, et al.
I see looks and money entering the equation in regards to one portion of the female population, but I see them having no impact whatsoever on another.
Hasn't anyone ever seen a burned-out hippie with a hot girlfriend??? I know I have. According to the logic of some of the posters in this board, he should have virtually NO options, due to a lack of money, looks, and provisioning abilities. But, he does have two things: A strong identity and the ability to create a compelling reality, and this is what draws a specific kind of girl in.
For an average guy in average shape that has no status within any social circle, I'd say the odds of scoring hot chicks is significantly slimmer, even with any amount of PUA tactics. I would also wager that most of the success of PUAs in the public eye has to do with their perceived status as a "pick up expert," but that in venues where this status is not relevant, they fall flat just like any average guy would. Most of the "video evidence" I see of these guys show girls that are entertained by their antics the way my niece is entertained by her grandfather. Then, the commentary attempts to interpret every "hair toss" as an indication that the PUA COULD HAVE gotten laid if he wished.
Of course, the point of this site is self improvement, so I don't think it's unrealistic at all to improve oneself to the point that hot chicks are still available to you upon entering middle age. You may not be able to generate attraction across the board, but if you position yourself as a leader in some facet of your life, you will find women to follow you accordingly.
I see looks and money entering the equation in regards to one portion of the female population, but I see them having no impact whatsoever on another.
Hasn't anyone ever seen a burned-out hippie with a hot girlfriend??? I know I have. According to the logic of some of the posters in this board, he should have virtually NO options, due to a lack of money, looks, and provisioning abilities. But, he does have two things: A strong identity and the ability to create a compelling reality, and this is what draws a specific kind of girl in.
For an average guy in average shape that has no status within any social circle, I'd say the odds of scoring hot chicks is significantly slimmer, even with any amount of PUA tactics. I would also wager that most of the success of PUAs in the public eye has to do with their perceived status as a "pick up expert," but that in venues where this status is not relevant, they fall flat just like any average guy would. Most of the "video evidence" I see of these guys show girls that are entertained by their antics the way my niece is entertained by her grandfather. Then, the commentary attempts to interpret every "hair toss" as an indication that the PUA COULD HAVE gotten laid if he wished.
Of course, the point of this site is self improvement, so I don't think it's unrealistic at all to improve oneself to the point that hot chicks are still available to you upon entering middle age. You may not be able to generate attraction across the board, but if you position yourself as a leader in some facet of your life, you will find women to follow you accordingly.