Lo Hung Wang
Don Juan
This is from BusterB's women to avoid section..... His webpage is HUGE with almost EVERYTHING about women in it. Extremely good stuff; from specifics to theory..... This is a damn good page.
http://www.themenscenter.com/busterb/
Many men might read this page and think, "Why bother? It's all so obvious!" To some of us it hasn't been. I used to cling to any woman who even so much as looked my way, until I figured out that most of them were more grief and trouble than they were worth. What kinds of women make the ****ing you're getting not worth the ****ing you're getting?
Any woman who says, "No means no." First, this marks her as a feminist. Second, it marks her as someone who believes more in theories in her head about how the world should be than she believes in reality. Anyone not steeped in feminist dogma knows that nobody, anywhere means no every time they say no. Women who can't acknowledge this reality are trouble. Besides, it's a stupid thing to say to anyone. It's insulting to those who care and ineffectual against those who don't.
Women who say things like this are simply trying to push responsibility onto your shoulders. What she's saying is, "It's now up to you decide when I really mean 'no' and when I don't really mean it, and act accordingly. If I'm ever vague or unclear and you misunderstand me, it will be your fault, not mine, because I told you that 'No means no.'" She wants to impose a rule, then never again have to work at making her intentions clear. She wants to make the extraction of clear meaning from day-to-day interaction your job. Meanwhile, she'll have no compunction at all about treating you in exactly the same way she's told you not to treat her. If you're a kind-hearted guy who cares, then the only way to avoid constant nervous tension and occasional, devastating fights is to be a jerk and pay no attention to what she says. This is why women who say stupid things like, "No means no," usually end up with jerks.
Any woman who complains that she "can't meet a decent man," or says that you're the "first decent man" she's met. Remember that to most people "decent" means "OK" or "barely acceptable." What this person just said is that all of the men out there are beneath her consideration and you (you lucky dog you) are the only one she's found, out of thousands of men, who has even a chance of being adequate. Don't be flattered. Leave.
Any woman who gloats that men "think with their penises." In my experience, women who say things like this are themselves obsessed with sex, but not in any way that I want to get involved with. Spending time with a woman like this means having every little thing you do interpreted sexually and means spending a lot of time apologizing for things you weren't even doing or thinking. Save yourself the confusion and anguish and let some other poor bastard "steal" her.
Any woman who smugly states or implies that she shapes her men and makes them better. Sometimes women say this (mostly to each other), but more often they act it out by trying to "improve" you at a certain point in the relationship. Want to earn her respect? Want to earn the respect of other women? Show her that you're a man with his own personality and not a lump of clay to be shaped. Dump her and go find someone who likes you.
Any woman who has ever taken a Women's Studies class, unless she had to take it and she talks about it as if it were a year in the gulag. Women's Studies could easily be renamed Hating Men. Just stay away.
University or college-trained women. Universities and colleges are hotbeds of feminism. Most well-educated women are fine, but a good proportion of them hate men to some degree. Why increase your odds of ending up with a feminist ***** when you can chat up other women who are more likely to be reasonable? If you find a good woman and she happens to have a college education then don't let that stop you, but if you're still looking, why look for diamonds in a junk store? You're not immortal, and you can only chat up so many women. Why waste time on long shots?
Amateur psychologists. Watch for this during your first fight. If she says something like, "You don't value my point of view because you have your arms crossed, which is symbolic of closing yourself off from me" then run for the hills. There's no winning with women like this. Every little motion you make, every nervous twitch, every choice of words contains hidden meaning which she will extract. The meaning depends upon how she felt about you at the time, how she feels about you now, whether she's on the rag, the season, the weather, and the direction of the wind over the South Pole. Get rid of her while you're still sane.
Professional psychologists. See above, except she probably won't tell you what conclusions she's drawn. Besides, these days she must have been through Women's Studies, so that's two strikes.
Labelers. All people label other people. It's a reflex. Some, however, use labels as weapons. Listen to how she describes other people. If she habitually attaches labels to other people and their behaviour, if she's often talking about "low self-esteem," "type A personality," "passive-aggressive," or other such ways of pigeon-holing people, then move on. It's only a matter of time before she classifies you, and then she will never be able to see you as a whole person again. Incidentally, this also goes for women who classify people in nice ways. If her world consists of a limited number of "personality types" then she has trouble dealing with real people and accepting them as they come, and that includes you. [Yes, I realize the irony inherent in making a list of types of women to avoid and labeling one of those types, "Labelers," but I'm hoping that the men reading this aren't looking to date me. Besides, I'm taken.]
Activists. Any woman who spends time at protest marches and demonstrations is angry. All angry women are particularly angry at men. She'll tell you that you're different, but how long before you become just another man that she hates?
Prima donnas. If the woman you're with starts strutting around with her nose in the air like she owns you, lose her for someone who's easier to deal with. Who cares that she used to be nice? She's not any more. Life is short. Why spend your limited time on this planet hanging around with *******s?
Feminists. Period. At the basis of all feminism: equality-based feminism, men's-rights-too feminism, rabid feminism, is the theory that men once controlled the world and are responsible for all of the bad **** that has happened in the last 5,000 years. It doesn't matter how committed she is to "true equality." It doesn't matter how much she agrees with your causes. When the gloves come off, she'll blame you for everything that's gone wrong in her life and everything that's gone wrong in the world since Hammurabi.
Divorced women. OK, some divorced women are divorced because they married snakes. Sometimes life just screws you over and you have to back up and try again. However, most divorced women are divorced because they chose badly, wanted too much, or screwed up their relationship. Why should you waste your time being her second crack at it? By dating a divorcée you've just lowered your odds of success. If she's been divorced more than once then she's either monumentally unlucky or has no idea what she wants, and it's likely the latter. Stay away if you're looking for a permanent relationship.
After all of this, I have to add a postscript. This list of "women to avoid" isn't trying to say that in the groups that I named there are no nice women. On the contrary, in some of these groups there are lots of nice women. They may even be in the majority. Nonetheless, if the *****es are even 25% of the total, that makes your odds of ending up with a ***** about 50% (since most of the nice ones are probably already taken... *****es tend to be single for a reason). Why mess with a 50/50 chance when you can go looking in other groups women where your chances of ending up with someone reasonable are closer to 75 or 80%? This isn't very good news for the good-hearted professional psychiatrists, college-educated women, or divorcées, but you're here to make your life better, not make their lives better.
http://www.themenscenter.com/busterb/
Many men might read this page and think, "Why bother? It's all so obvious!" To some of us it hasn't been. I used to cling to any woman who even so much as looked my way, until I figured out that most of them were more grief and trouble than they were worth. What kinds of women make the ****ing you're getting not worth the ****ing you're getting?
Any woman who says, "No means no." First, this marks her as a feminist. Second, it marks her as someone who believes more in theories in her head about how the world should be than she believes in reality. Anyone not steeped in feminist dogma knows that nobody, anywhere means no every time they say no. Women who can't acknowledge this reality are trouble. Besides, it's a stupid thing to say to anyone. It's insulting to those who care and ineffectual against those who don't.
Women who say things like this are simply trying to push responsibility onto your shoulders. What she's saying is, "It's now up to you decide when I really mean 'no' and when I don't really mean it, and act accordingly. If I'm ever vague or unclear and you misunderstand me, it will be your fault, not mine, because I told you that 'No means no.'" She wants to impose a rule, then never again have to work at making her intentions clear. She wants to make the extraction of clear meaning from day-to-day interaction your job. Meanwhile, she'll have no compunction at all about treating you in exactly the same way she's told you not to treat her. If you're a kind-hearted guy who cares, then the only way to avoid constant nervous tension and occasional, devastating fights is to be a jerk and pay no attention to what she says. This is why women who say stupid things like, "No means no," usually end up with jerks.
Any woman who complains that she "can't meet a decent man," or says that you're the "first decent man" she's met. Remember that to most people "decent" means "OK" or "barely acceptable." What this person just said is that all of the men out there are beneath her consideration and you (you lucky dog you) are the only one she's found, out of thousands of men, who has even a chance of being adequate. Don't be flattered. Leave.
Any woman who gloats that men "think with their penises." In my experience, women who say things like this are themselves obsessed with sex, but not in any way that I want to get involved with. Spending time with a woman like this means having every little thing you do interpreted sexually and means spending a lot of time apologizing for things you weren't even doing or thinking. Save yourself the confusion and anguish and let some other poor bastard "steal" her.
Any woman who smugly states or implies that she shapes her men and makes them better. Sometimes women say this (mostly to each other), but more often they act it out by trying to "improve" you at a certain point in the relationship. Want to earn her respect? Want to earn the respect of other women? Show her that you're a man with his own personality and not a lump of clay to be shaped. Dump her and go find someone who likes you.
Any woman who has ever taken a Women's Studies class, unless she had to take it and she talks about it as if it were a year in the gulag. Women's Studies could easily be renamed Hating Men. Just stay away.
University or college-trained women. Universities and colleges are hotbeds of feminism. Most well-educated women are fine, but a good proportion of them hate men to some degree. Why increase your odds of ending up with a feminist ***** when you can chat up other women who are more likely to be reasonable? If you find a good woman and she happens to have a college education then don't let that stop you, but if you're still looking, why look for diamonds in a junk store? You're not immortal, and you can only chat up so many women. Why waste time on long shots?
Amateur psychologists. Watch for this during your first fight. If she says something like, "You don't value my point of view because you have your arms crossed, which is symbolic of closing yourself off from me" then run for the hills. There's no winning with women like this. Every little motion you make, every nervous twitch, every choice of words contains hidden meaning which she will extract. The meaning depends upon how she felt about you at the time, how she feels about you now, whether she's on the rag, the season, the weather, and the direction of the wind over the South Pole. Get rid of her while you're still sane.
Professional psychologists. See above, except she probably won't tell you what conclusions she's drawn. Besides, these days she must have been through Women's Studies, so that's two strikes.
Labelers. All people label other people. It's a reflex. Some, however, use labels as weapons. Listen to how she describes other people. If she habitually attaches labels to other people and their behaviour, if she's often talking about "low self-esteem," "type A personality," "passive-aggressive," or other such ways of pigeon-holing people, then move on. It's only a matter of time before she classifies you, and then she will never be able to see you as a whole person again. Incidentally, this also goes for women who classify people in nice ways. If her world consists of a limited number of "personality types" then she has trouble dealing with real people and accepting them as they come, and that includes you. [Yes, I realize the irony inherent in making a list of types of women to avoid and labeling one of those types, "Labelers," but I'm hoping that the men reading this aren't looking to date me. Besides, I'm taken.]
Activists. Any woman who spends time at protest marches and demonstrations is angry. All angry women are particularly angry at men. She'll tell you that you're different, but how long before you become just another man that she hates?
Prima donnas. If the woman you're with starts strutting around with her nose in the air like she owns you, lose her for someone who's easier to deal with. Who cares that she used to be nice? She's not any more. Life is short. Why spend your limited time on this planet hanging around with *******s?
Feminists. Period. At the basis of all feminism: equality-based feminism, men's-rights-too feminism, rabid feminism, is the theory that men once controlled the world and are responsible for all of the bad **** that has happened in the last 5,000 years. It doesn't matter how committed she is to "true equality." It doesn't matter how much she agrees with your causes. When the gloves come off, she'll blame you for everything that's gone wrong in her life and everything that's gone wrong in the world since Hammurabi.
Divorced women. OK, some divorced women are divorced because they married snakes. Sometimes life just screws you over and you have to back up and try again. However, most divorced women are divorced because they chose badly, wanted too much, or screwed up their relationship. Why should you waste your time being her second crack at it? By dating a divorcée you've just lowered your odds of success. If she's been divorced more than once then she's either monumentally unlucky or has no idea what she wants, and it's likely the latter. Stay away if you're looking for a permanent relationship.
After all of this, I have to add a postscript. This list of "women to avoid" isn't trying to say that in the groups that I named there are no nice women. On the contrary, in some of these groups there are lots of nice women. They may even be in the majority. Nonetheless, if the *****es are even 25% of the total, that makes your odds of ending up with a ***** about 50% (since most of the nice ones are probably already taken... *****es tend to be single for a reason). Why mess with a 50/50 chance when you can go looking in other groups women where your chances of ending up with someone reasonable are closer to 75 or 80%? This isn't very good news for the good-hearted professional psychiatrists, college-educated women, or divorcées, but you're here to make your life better, not make their lives better.
