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Buried Alive

Discussion in 'Don Juan Tips' started by CHALENGE GUY, May 28, 2001.

  1. CHALENGE GUY

    CHALENGE GUY Senior Don Juan

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    Let me tell you something : if you associate enough pain and sadness to the following exercise, hesitation will no longer be in your vocabulary. If you do this with all your might, say goodbye to fear. You won't be afraid of taking a risk and start your own business. You won't be afraid to walk across a crowded room to ask for a phone number from a beautiful women. You will refuse to let your dreams die and haunt you as regrets on your death bed. You won't be afraid to be rejected on your first initial trials. You will refuse to become just another name on a tombstone.

    Now let's do this.

    It will only take 15 minutes of your time.

    This is called to "buried alive" exercise. Now you have to be totally dedicated to perform that exercise. This is not for the timid souls. It will fill your body with the most painful emotions a human being can feel : the fear of death (or, if you prefer, the fear of life...), and the fear of regret... the feeling that you have led a meaningless, sad, boring life.

    Hopefully, after the exercise, you will realize that you are not dead after all. You will realize that you are still young, and that the world out there is a world of possibilities. Millions of possibilities. Hopefully, you will no longer fear to be adventurous and take risk because you fear rejection or because you could lose your comfortable but boring way of living. You will know IN YOUR GUT, NOT INTELLECTUALLY, that the greatest pain of all is dying and being haunted by your regrets, by the fear which provides comfort while stealing the essence of life : adventure, the unknown, women you can no longer kiss and hug, etc.

    Now let's do this.

    Lie down and relax. Cross your arms on your chest as if you were a dead body, ready to be buried.
    Imagine all the details of your burial, as if it took place tomorrow morning. The only difference is that you are buried alive. Now, as the story unfolds (church, prayers, cemetery, you know what I'm saying, you've all seen that before...) tighten all your muscles in a desperate effort to move. But don't move. IMAGINE ALL THE DETAILS (people you love, the flowers in your coffin, etc...). MAKE IT REAL. Now think of all the women you have never talked to. Why? Yeah, that’s right : FEAR. Look at all your regrets and feel how much they weigh on your life. Know that there’s nothing you can’t do about it. Nobody can hear you. You are buried alive. I also want you to know that even if you could live one more week on this earth, you would probably remain the exact same person. Feel the pain of knowing that fear was stronger than you. Fear of rejection controlled your existence. But now it’s too late. *** FEEL THE PAIN ***. PAIN IS CRUCIAL.

    Remember. We don't want to have an intellectual experience here. This is worth nothing. We want a gut level feeling that will change your life forever.

    How will you know when the experience in intense enough? Simple… When you are crying silently in your room. I know this is not an easy task. But an intellectual experience means nothing when we are faced with real life situations. Only a gut level experience will change the way you deal with fear.

    Now, when you can’t take it anymore, break the lid of your coffin with your whole body and scream like you never screamed before. (Now if you did this correctly, you won’t care about what people will think when they hear you screaming like a mad man. Who cares! You are alive!)

    This is a new birth for you.

    Breathe.

    Now, take out a sheet of paper and write down all the things you will no longer accept in your life.

    This is a fresh start for you.

    "Wow! That was a cool exercise! ".

    No, this could be your reality. We never know. I could be dead tomorrow. You could die tomorrow.

    THESE TRAGEDIES HAPPEN EVERYWHERE, EVERYDAY. WILL YOU LET FEAR TAKE YOUR LIFE BEFORE YOU ACTUALLY DIE?

    Now don’t post replies to this thread if you haven’t done the exercise in the first place. As I said before, this is a GUT LEVEL exercise. If you just read this post, you have experienced 0.00000000000001 % pain compared to the real experience.

    I wish you adventure.
    I wish you peace.
    I wish you freedom.

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    Speak softly and carry a big stick; you will go far.

    - Roosevelt

    [This message has been edited by CHALENGE GUY (edited 05-28-2001).]
     
  2. vadrill

    vadrill Don Juan

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    Wow Challenge what a powerful post! Nicely done. I've done a variation of what you described before and it is indeed cathartic.

    My exercise made me realize what was truly important to me that I had lost the passion for over the years...how I felt when I was in the my pinnacle of my life.

    You're correct it can be a difficult exercise. I intentional did it while lying in bed one night. I forced myself to experience a lot of painful thoughts...as well as the good. It does help put things in perspective

    Great post!
     
  3. stockholder

    stockholder Senior Don Juan

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    I think about a machine at the annual theme park thing we have here. I'm scared to death of it (just by thinking of it). I'm always thankful that I'm alive and I do stuff I didn't have the guts for afterwards.
     
  4. Monkey

    Monkey Master Don Juan

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    Dammit Challenge Guy that was amazing! Just done it now - Incredible!
     
  5. The Writer

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    I hereby give this one The Writer's highest praise:

    IT WORKS

    Bravo.
     
  6. CHALENGE GUY

    CHALENGE GUY Senior Don Juan

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    -Any time you sincerely want to make a change, the first thing you must do is to
    raise your standards. When people ask me what really changed my life eight years
    ago, I tell them that absolutely the most important thing was changing what I
    demanded of myself. I wrote down all the things I would no longer accept in my
    life, all the things I would no longer tolerate, and all the things that I
    aspired to becoming. - Anthony Robbins, 1960-, American Author, Speaker, Peak
    Performance Expert / Consultant
     
  7. relapse

    relapse Don Juan

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    You've only hit the very head of what I've come to think is the most important lesson I can learn in my life - ambition. A willingness to work beyond limitations to achieve greater things.

    I got told a very important secret by a woman recently. I asked her "Am I sexy? What do I do right?" I could tell she meant it when she said 'When you're focused, like when you're shooting pool... that's really sexy.' That lines up with other events in my life - it makes sense.

    I was on this track for other reasons, but now I've got one more. And 'women' sure as hell isn't the most important reason.
     
  8. The Writer

    The Writer Don Juan

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    Ever had or heard of someone having a near-death experience that forever changed their life? CHALLENGE GUY's exercise simulates having such an experience. The subconscious mind is very bad at telling what's real from what's vividly imagined. This exercise is so vivid that it burns its lessons right into your brain.

    I suggest anchoring to the climactic stage of the exercise. Then whenever you find yourself doing something you previously wouldn't have because of "fear", apply the same anchor. This will reinforce the new patterns.
     
  9. StuartScott

    StuartScott Banned

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    GREATEST POST IN MESSAGE BOARD HISTORY
     
  10. ChevyLover

    ChevyLover Don Juan

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    Doesn't really work when the thing you regret the most is not telling a girl that is now dead that you loved her. But for all the girls still living that I don't really have any feelings for now, Good advise.
     
  11. bob2007

    bob2007 Senior Don Juan

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    Good strategy, I use this kinda belief inadvertantly most of the time since I'm an Atheist.

    But I think I need to find a way to have death constantly reminding me.
     
  12. When I was at a club yesterday, I used the buried alive tactic with impressive results. Everytime I was hesitant to approach a HB I would think of my funeral. I would ask myself "If I died tomorrow would I have any regrets?" and this motivated me to go strike up a conversation with anyone. This tactic really affected me at a deeper level and provoked me to pick-up as many chicks as possible.

    Thanks Chalenge Guy
     
  13. The Antichrist_Star

    The Antichrist_Star Master Don Juan

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    I did something to the same effect on accident. For like four months... I took every single piece of **** some girl, or some bully gave me. Everytime I was afraid to do something... everytime I would stay up late @ night and cry because I felt like such a loser. And I continued to reflect on those moments, and till this day I still do... and whenever I do, the thing I continue to say to myself is... never again.

    This is by far one of the greatest pieces of work that I have seen. I feel even more ambitious than I am now just reading. Good... no great job!!

    ... You stay in Wonderland and I show how deep the rabbit hole goes.

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    "Enjoy life. There's plenty of time to be dead."

    Anon

    "What lies behind us and what lies ahead of us are tiny matters compared to what lives within us."

    Oliver Wendell Holmes

    "Live every day as if it were your last, because one of these days, it will be."

    Jeremy Schwartz

    "You change the world first, and the rules second. You change yourself first, and then the world second."

    Julian Richard Gibbs better known as The Matrix: Reloaded
     
  14. Better Man

    Better Man Don Juan

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    thank you.
    thats all.
    thank you.

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    "You nothing but a slut to me"

    "I will never let another chick bring me down"
     
  15. Casillas

    Casillas Don Juan

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    At the beginning it was very difficult to me to start screaming but when I finally do it I realized that there are more important things to worry about than talking to a stranger.
     
  16. aforabi

    aforabi Don Juan

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    I liked this post because it tells me that I am responsible for whatever happens in my life ... and no one really cares if i am here in this earth or not, soon, i will be forgotten, so ... why not live my life to the fullest when i am young and alive and kicking ... nice post :)
     
  17. hanni

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    its a start, but the necessary follow-thru takes time, discipline, pain of failure and a fair amount of luck, especially at first.
     

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