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Master Don Juan
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- Jan 9, 2004
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It's a phrase I've heard thrown around quite a lot and personally it's something I try to adhere to in my life. The only problem is I had a situation arise in the last couple of days that made me question whether I took it too far.
Basically I was away on a new years trip with a couple of buddies. One of buddies has been a long time friend of mine - one of my best. The problem is he's absolutely horrendous with girls. So we check in to our hotel and get talking to a couple of girls who are staying in the same hotel as us. One of them is pretty hot and instantly I can tell my buddy has fallen for her. I only chat to her for a couple of minutes but already my spider sense is tingling and I can tell she's keen for me.
So later on we're hanging out and it gets more and more obvious that my friend is head over heels for this chick. She goes along with it all, however I keep catching her gazing at me throughout the evening. Having got to know her a little more over this period it's becoming clear there's a definite attraction between the two of us.
Now the thing is, most of the time I think guys can tell when a chick is into them or not and I'd have expected him to notice the very obvious signals she was giving me, but no dice. He then proceeds to go full on stalker mode and literally follows her around the beach, the bars, the clubs, everything. After a couple of days her friend politely told him it'd probably be a good idea if he cooled off. I even had to take him aside at one point to tell him to chill out as he was creeping her out.
So anyway it gets to day three by this point and I've managed to hold off all this time however I'm really starting to ache for this girl and I can tell the feeling's mutual. At one point we're all hanging in the room and I go out for a smoke with my other friend. She then leaves the others to come out and join us. The other friend knew what was up so he made his excuses and went back in.. so it was just us 2 outside. Now the problem here was that I could tell she was waiting for me to kiss her, but I could also see my friend watching us from inside the room so I had to restrain myself - it took every ****ing ounce of self control I had.
I think a lot of guys probably would've just taken the chance and risked hurting their friend but I knew if I did this it'd absolutely crush my friend. He had fallen hard for this girl and I couldn't bring myself to do it, but at the same time, if there was no chance of him getting anywhere that it's almost unfair on me to pass up on something like this?
What would you guys have done in this situation? How far do you take this bros before hoes code? To be honest, if i had to do it all again I'd probably still make the same decision - it's just so frustrating having to pass up on something so good..
Basically I was away on a new years trip with a couple of buddies. One of buddies has been a long time friend of mine - one of my best. The problem is he's absolutely horrendous with girls. So we check in to our hotel and get talking to a couple of girls who are staying in the same hotel as us. One of them is pretty hot and instantly I can tell my buddy has fallen for her. I only chat to her for a couple of minutes but already my spider sense is tingling and I can tell she's keen for me.
So later on we're hanging out and it gets more and more obvious that my friend is head over heels for this chick. She goes along with it all, however I keep catching her gazing at me throughout the evening. Having got to know her a little more over this period it's becoming clear there's a definite attraction between the two of us.
Now the thing is, most of the time I think guys can tell when a chick is into them or not and I'd have expected him to notice the very obvious signals she was giving me, but no dice. He then proceeds to go full on stalker mode and literally follows her around the beach, the bars, the clubs, everything. After a couple of days her friend politely told him it'd probably be a good idea if he cooled off. I even had to take him aside at one point to tell him to chill out as he was creeping her out.
So anyway it gets to day three by this point and I've managed to hold off all this time however I'm really starting to ache for this girl and I can tell the feeling's mutual. At one point we're all hanging in the room and I go out for a smoke with my other friend. She then leaves the others to come out and join us. The other friend knew what was up so he made his excuses and went back in.. so it was just us 2 outside. Now the problem here was that I could tell she was waiting for me to kiss her, but I could also see my friend watching us from inside the room so I had to restrain myself - it took every ****ing ounce of self control I had.
I think a lot of guys probably would've just taken the chance and risked hurting their friend but I knew if I did this it'd absolutely crush my friend. He had fallen hard for this girl and I couldn't bring myself to do it, but at the same time, if there was no chance of him getting anywhere that it's almost unfair on me to pass up on something like this?
What would you guys have done in this situation? How far do you take this bros before hoes code? To be honest, if i had to do it all again I'd probably still make the same decision - it's just so frustrating having to pass up on something so good..
