You know Albatross, it sounds like you might be in the friend zone but there are ways to test this without jeopardizing your friendship or making her feel uncomfortable.
What I would do if I were you is try and start from scratch.
If it seems like there is tension between you two just ease off and start over. You might have to move at a pace comfortable for her before you seem to pushy.
1.Start talking to her, and find a commonality between you two. Something that you both do for fun or have in common, even if you're both aware that you each like the same thing bring it up again, say something like "You know when I found out you like _____ I always knew that we'd be good friends."
Whether it's hiking, or a certain type of movie, or sport or whatever, just show a common interest and that you're friends.
Doing this makes it clear that you're putting her in the friend zone, you remain control but you're also giving her a compliment and displaying something you have in common.
2.Next what I would, when you're going for a walk or having lunch or whatever, if she does something cute/sexy/funny or even wears something good to work.
You could say something like "If you keep doing that or wearing/dressing like that, i'm going to have to start hitting on you"
The more she laughs the better, and if she does it more and continues to do that you can initiate kino and she was warned.
However, if she stops or doesn't laugh or makes sure not to do that again, you can take that as a clear sign that she's not interested/ready.
There's even more ways to escalate from this point on but focus on those first two steps. They're safe, won't jeopardize your relationship and they will give you an idea of where you two stand. But remember what glitters isn't always gold, you're the prize.
Other things to watch out for, is try and make yourself more scarce, walks and lunches everyday, that's afc. Take up hobbies, activities, find stuff to prioritize over her. Do stuff you haven't had the time or chance to do before, you're free from the ball and chain like you said above, so you have nothing to hold you back now and in new activities you'll meet new people.
Good Luck
-Hobbs
What I would do if I were you is try and start from scratch.
If it seems like there is tension between you two just ease off and start over. You might have to move at a pace comfortable for her before you seem to pushy.
1.Start talking to her, and find a commonality between you two. Something that you both do for fun or have in common, even if you're both aware that you each like the same thing bring it up again, say something like "You know when I found out you like _____ I always knew that we'd be good friends."
Whether it's hiking, or a certain type of movie, or sport or whatever, just show a common interest and that you're friends.
Doing this makes it clear that you're putting her in the friend zone, you remain control but you're also giving her a compliment and displaying something you have in common.
2.Next what I would, when you're going for a walk or having lunch or whatever, if she does something cute/sexy/funny or even wears something good to work.
You could say something like "If you keep doing that or wearing/dressing like that, i'm going to have to start hitting on you"
The more she laughs the better, and if she does it more and continues to do that you can initiate kino and she was warned.
However, if she stops or doesn't laugh or makes sure not to do that again, you can take that as a clear sign that she's not interested/ready.
There's even more ways to escalate from this point on but focus on those first two steps. They're safe, won't jeopardize your relationship and they will give you an idea of where you two stand. But remember what glitters isn't always gold, you're the prize.
Other things to watch out for, is try and make yourself more scarce, walks and lunches everyday, that's afc. Take up hobbies, activities, find stuff to prioritize over her. Do stuff you haven't had the time or chance to do before, you're free from the ball and chain like you said above, so you have nothing to hold you back now and in new activities you'll meet new people.
Good Luck
-Hobbs
