Tonite I learned something, I was losing apart of me, the best part of me. I've been real hard lately, and extremely ****y. I mean ****y beyond reason. If I felt the even the slightest insult, I would emotionaly destroy any person that came at me insulting. I can literaly send someone man or woman running from a room crying, even if I have only met them for 2 minutes. I had not really noticed how this was just effecting everyone around me. I mean I definately have my DJing down, but I took protecting my heart a little too far. I took the whole "best of the best looking down on the rest of the world" thing of DJing and took that too far. Don't you try and tell me that DJing doesn't preach the "be the prize" and trying to be better than others and shunning perceived weaknesses. You can ban me if I'm wrong, because its in the tips, its in the advice asked, its every where on this board. We talk about trying not to care, not giving a **** blab blab blab....
But now I realize something many of us are racing towards this, and along the way we stop caring, we give up the ability to be sincere and kind. Not every woman can be a *****, not every woman is out to play you and burn a hole in your wallet, not all women play games. But we get to scared of getting burned or letting our guard down that we just get stuck in the mode of being cold and hard. Sure we put on a mask of warmth and understanding, but eventually it can't hide the fact that you're not those things.
So if you have read this far then you are still interested in this tip. The best thing in life is to be able to care and show warmth. To be sensitive, to be able to let your guard down. **** you have to trust somebody. Because without these things you cannot love. Sure you can play all the games you want and get some good ol' ***** but if you don't care about that person then why does it matter. Then you are just an animal, fulfilling an urge. There can be no beauty behind your flings, relationships whatever. Even the real life Don Juan and Casanova cared deeply for those they feel in love with. They were sensitive to there needs, they showed their inner most selves, their humanity to its fulliest. And you must show your humanity because when anyone sees that they can love you, because you are human and show them that you are more than just a face with blank eyes like the rest of the world out there.
You can still be confident and be this at the same time. You just have to have enough confidence and faith in yourself to have the strength to allow your emotions to touch you. To be emotional enough to let your emotions touch others in the ways you express yourself. Someone here once said that emotions are the enemy of logic, that being sensitive was weak and an AFC quality. Emotions, and the ability to be sensitive is what makes a Don Juan. Is ability to show his humanity and to create a connection on that emotional level. All you need logic for is to know that when you hit a rough spot its not forever. It will allow not to control or guide, but to be apart of your emotions and humanity and allow for the fullest expression of them. You must be willing to accept that these things are apart of you and not shun them because you fear that it will make you weak or an AFC. You have to stop looking for silly techinques and books written about how to turn women into love slaves. You have to stop calling them all ho's, sure some are going to be emotional garbage. But you take men or women and in both you'll some people are just ****. For those of you who are not a natural bad boy, for those of you running away from this, trying to be cold and calculating, trying not to care, this is not the way. Giving up your ability to be sensitive with others and share emotions is like giving up breathing.
I feel now, we would be better served if we instead of fighting who we are, or how we live. We accept these things, work within the space given us. Improve ourselves because it brings us happiness, expresses our ideas and feelings. I say all this now because many of us are making the mistake of giving up parts of ourselves for the sake of acceptance of others. Really read some of these posts. Its one thing to want to know how to be romantic, its another asking how to change yourself up so you can get this one girl who in 40 years will be ugly, and right now to stupid to see you for you. Honestly I think we need to rework somethings here because we have pushed so far into this void of making ourselves not care and pulling smoke and mirrors acts that we have neglected how to be sensitive and how to work with our emotions. Think of this, lets say you do get that girl you want. You played the games, walked the walk, and talked the talk. You have even enjoyed the *****, but when it comes time to deepen the relationship, share your inner self, your humanity and be sensitive with a girl. How many of you will be lost because you lack the ability to express that, or how many will be lost because you have forgotten it all together.
Hey if I am wrong you can flame me all you want. Ban me for going against everything said here. But at least take a good look and see if you are missing something and how that hole in you makes you feel.
-Grey Fox
But now I realize something many of us are racing towards this, and along the way we stop caring, we give up the ability to be sincere and kind. Not every woman can be a *****, not every woman is out to play you and burn a hole in your wallet, not all women play games. But we get to scared of getting burned or letting our guard down that we just get stuck in the mode of being cold and hard. Sure we put on a mask of warmth and understanding, but eventually it can't hide the fact that you're not those things.
So if you have read this far then you are still interested in this tip. The best thing in life is to be able to care and show warmth. To be sensitive, to be able to let your guard down. **** you have to trust somebody. Because without these things you cannot love. Sure you can play all the games you want and get some good ol' ***** but if you don't care about that person then why does it matter. Then you are just an animal, fulfilling an urge. There can be no beauty behind your flings, relationships whatever. Even the real life Don Juan and Casanova cared deeply for those they feel in love with. They were sensitive to there needs, they showed their inner most selves, their humanity to its fulliest. And you must show your humanity because when anyone sees that they can love you, because you are human and show them that you are more than just a face with blank eyes like the rest of the world out there.
You can still be confident and be this at the same time. You just have to have enough confidence and faith in yourself to have the strength to allow your emotions to touch you. To be emotional enough to let your emotions touch others in the ways you express yourself. Someone here once said that emotions are the enemy of logic, that being sensitive was weak and an AFC quality. Emotions, and the ability to be sensitive is what makes a Don Juan. Is ability to show his humanity and to create a connection on that emotional level. All you need logic for is to know that when you hit a rough spot its not forever. It will allow not to control or guide, but to be apart of your emotions and humanity and allow for the fullest expression of them. You must be willing to accept that these things are apart of you and not shun them because you fear that it will make you weak or an AFC. You have to stop looking for silly techinques and books written about how to turn women into love slaves. You have to stop calling them all ho's, sure some are going to be emotional garbage. But you take men or women and in both you'll some people are just ****. For those of you who are not a natural bad boy, for those of you running away from this, trying to be cold and calculating, trying not to care, this is not the way. Giving up your ability to be sensitive with others and share emotions is like giving up breathing.
I feel now, we would be better served if we instead of fighting who we are, or how we live. We accept these things, work within the space given us. Improve ourselves because it brings us happiness, expresses our ideas and feelings. I say all this now because many of us are making the mistake of giving up parts of ourselves for the sake of acceptance of others. Really read some of these posts. Its one thing to want to know how to be romantic, its another asking how to change yourself up so you can get this one girl who in 40 years will be ugly, and right now to stupid to see you for you. Honestly I think we need to rework somethings here because we have pushed so far into this void of making ourselves not care and pulling smoke and mirrors acts that we have neglected how to be sensitive and how to work with our emotions. Think of this, lets say you do get that girl you want. You played the games, walked the walk, and talked the talk. You have even enjoyed the *****, but when it comes time to deepen the relationship, share your inner self, your humanity and be sensitive with a girl. How many of you will be lost because you lack the ability to express that, or how many will be lost because you have forgotten it all together.
Hey if I am wrong you can flame me all you want. Ban me for going against everything said here. But at least take a good look and see if you are missing something and how that hole in you makes you feel.
-Grey Fox
