joekerr31 said:
what he is gaining is that he doenst have to be alone. ultimately people put up with a LOT of crap just so they don't have to be alone.
she's prepared to threaten suicide just so she doesnt have to be alone. he's prepared to put up with emotional abuse just so he doesnt have to be alone.
yet another typical unhealthy codependent scenario.
they do have a chance i believe, but only if they get in to therapy. if they dont get in to therapy, things will unfold exactly as Rollo has described.
So true. I remember when my brother was single but dating skanks (he's since married a good woman), he broke up with a cheater, white trash, no good nothing. He was bumming saying, "I don't want to sleep alone" and so forth. He was about 25 at the time, if not younger. Just amazing.
Getting some + not being alone is a heavy drug for many men, especially AFC guys. The alternatives are perhaps not getting some for awhile and being alone, but really growing as a person. It's really hard to grow individually when you're living with a person or married. I know marriage changes people, but I'd hope you've done most of your personal growth before you get married. The only way you can grow internally, personally, etc., is to live alone for awhile. I firmly believe that ... and I'm an advocate of good marriages. But if you've never had alone time, you don't know yourself.
Lefty's plugged into the matrix so bad, it's sad.