TheNewStyle123
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Hi everyone! I want to take you through my first date since my divorce applying the principles of 'The Rationale Male' and all of the great advice seen here on sosuave.com. I got married at 24 years old (27 now) and just recently divorced my wife as I found out she was cheating on me for the 2nd time in our relationship (fool me once, right?).
Anyways - I'm in a way better place now and could honestly care less. I am happy to finally become my own man, learn independence, work on myself, and meet new people as I am new to the town I am currently living in.
So here we go:
I had been using Hinge, Tinder, and Bumble for about a week when suddenly this woman (we'll call her J) matches with me. We talk for a few texts back and forth and I decide to cut to the chase and ask for her number to 'get her off the app' (a recommendation made by a friend who also opened my eyes to the Rationale Male) and she replies "handsome and smart
" along with her number.
We text back and forth a few times and I end up asking her to get a drink with me Monday night (it was Sunday morning at the time. I know I should of demonstrated limited availability to really get the hook in her, but hey, she offered Monday night and she was a HOTTIE). She accepts. We meet up at a local tavern and she is JUST like her pictures. I am very happy. (Quick side note guys: up until this point I had only had sex with 5 women in my life.. married young remember? And for the first time in my life I feel more confident and attractive than I ever have; mostly due to the fact that I swallowed the red pill and consider myself a disciple of Rollo now. But I would be lying to you if I didn't say I was a little nervous first meeting this girl, after all, she was hot and I hadn't gone on a first date in 7 years since meeting my ex). Anyways, let's continue.
I quickly get over my nerves when I hear the teachings of the great Patrice O'Neal ringing in my ears "YOU'RE BETTER THAN HER". If you don't know the joke, or Patrice O'Neal, you need to YouTube "Patrice O'Neal women advice" after reading this.. but I digress. What Patrice is saying, simply put, is that we as men have so much more to offer women than they have to offer us. We need to be funny, successful, confident, charismatic, charming, financially stable, have high social status... you get the point. But in the end, what do we REALLY want from women? All of those aforementioned qualities for men would be a nice addition, but we really just want *****. We want to ****. Even if she sucks at conversation and can't stop talking about being a dog mom or a frequent at Trader Joe's, we still want to ****. This girl was definitely not the worst conversationist I have ever dealt with, but immediately I calmed down and thought: "Just listen. Do 90% of the listening and let her ramble about whatever she wants. I'm sure she has hardly (if ever) had a guy just sit and let her talk. They probably compliment her all night and try to go in for the kill too early". So... I listened. I talked a little too, but mostly listened.
At some point during our conversation she brought up how embarrassed she was about the size of her hands. Bingo. Perfect time to get a physical interaction. I say "No way! Are they bigger than mine?!" putting my hand up. She places her hand on mine and for the first time during the night we touch. I know this seems like something small, but to me that physical interaction was a subtle way of getting closer to her rather than just talking. After last call (9PM because of COVID...) she looks at me and says "Do you want to come meet my dog?! I live 5 minutes away". **** yeah I want to meet her dog...
We head over to J's place and hang out for a while. She is actually pretty cool (and did I mentioned hottest girl I have ever taken on a date?) but very insecure. It's easy to play of her insecurities with jokes, teasing, and subtle (NOT over the top) compliments. I bring up dancing (I absolutely love to dance and have been wanting to learn some new styles for a while) and she says that she dances bachata and could teach me. We start dancing in her apartment to the music and I go in for the kiss when we lock eyes. But.... she kind of brushes her lips across mine and turns her head, almost in a teasing fashion. I was a little confused and thought "wow, I have really been reading these signals wrong." But keeping in mind my Rationale Male teachings, and knowing that a woman's imperative is to change her mind at any minute, I thought "ok, this isn't over yet. The night is young." We continue to dance with no success kissing and then continue talking and hanging out in her living room.
She mentions she USED TO BE A STRIPPER and starts showing me some 'floor moves'. Guys, you have to understand I HAD ONLY HAD SEX WITH 5 WOMEN UP TO THIS POINT AND I AM RECENTLY DIVORCED. This **** just doesn't happen on a Monday night. Even writing this I still feel like I'm making it up and it actually didn't happen to ME. But I wouldn't lie to my fellow DJ's like that. So, as she is essentially stripping in her apartment I am watching in wonder. My back is against the couch and I am sitting on the floor with my legs outstretched. After her 'routine' she begins to walk across the living room towards her dog. I figure "eh, she going to go pet the little guy and we'll probably keep talking". Suddenly I see one of her legs step right across mine and plant onto the ground. Remember, I'm sitting on the ground with my back against the couch and she's standing. Essentially this girl's ***** is starting right at me (fully clothed however). She begins to slowly squat down until her eyes meet mine. I think I got her signal...
I grab her and start kissing her FINALLY. She makes a joke about how long it took me, and I mention the failed kiss when dancing. She denies it happened and says "no way! you didn't try that!" (Women are hilarious aren't they?) Anyways, the night did not end at kissing and I can finally say I have had sex with 6 women in my life. Many more to come too! After we went at it twice I ended up kissing her goodbye (she wanted me to stay but I felt leaving would make me seem more independent, ambiguous, and alpha), drove home at 3AM, and even made it to work the next day by 9.
That's my story boys. I am very excited to be a part of the manosphere and to of found out about The Rationale Male and this website. These teachings have helped me tremendously, especially entering the game again after 7 years. Life would be meaningless without reflection, so here are my personal critiques/takeaways:
PROS:
I was confident, charismatic, paid for the drinks and apps (that's a must), made great eye contact, made her laugh, arrived 10 minutes early and chatted up the server who was flirty with me as well (this is a bonus because you demonstrate social value/skills, confidence, and personability to your date by getting in good with your server/bartender), didn't talk about myself too much, listened 90% of the time, and paid compliments to her (not too much/over the top).
CONS:
I could have attempted to seal the deal with the kiss sooner than I did, and/or I could have tried again to kiss her while dancing in a more covert way.
Overall, I'll give my performance a solid 8.5/10. Not bad for a newly divorced 27 year old.
- Matt
Anyways - I'm in a way better place now and could honestly care less. I am happy to finally become my own man, learn independence, work on myself, and meet new people as I am new to the town I am currently living in.
So here we go:
I had been using Hinge, Tinder, and Bumble for about a week when suddenly this woman (we'll call her J) matches with me. We talk for a few texts back and forth and I decide to cut to the chase and ask for her number to 'get her off the app' (a recommendation made by a friend who also opened my eyes to the Rationale Male) and she replies "handsome and smart
" along with her number.We text back and forth a few times and I end up asking her to get a drink with me Monday night (it was Sunday morning at the time. I know I should of demonstrated limited availability to really get the hook in her, but hey, she offered Monday night and she was a HOTTIE). She accepts. We meet up at a local tavern and she is JUST like her pictures. I am very happy. (Quick side note guys: up until this point I had only had sex with 5 women in my life.. married young remember? And for the first time in my life I feel more confident and attractive than I ever have; mostly due to the fact that I swallowed the red pill and consider myself a disciple of Rollo now. But I would be lying to you if I didn't say I was a little nervous first meeting this girl, after all, she was hot and I hadn't gone on a first date in 7 years since meeting my ex). Anyways, let's continue.
I quickly get over my nerves when I hear the teachings of the great Patrice O'Neal ringing in my ears "YOU'RE BETTER THAN HER". If you don't know the joke, or Patrice O'Neal, you need to YouTube "Patrice O'Neal women advice" after reading this.. but I digress. What Patrice is saying, simply put, is that we as men have so much more to offer women than they have to offer us. We need to be funny, successful, confident, charismatic, charming, financially stable, have high social status... you get the point. But in the end, what do we REALLY want from women? All of those aforementioned qualities for men would be a nice addition, but we really just want *****. We want to ****. Even if she sucks at conversation and can't stop talking about being a dog mom or a frequent at Trader Joe's, we still want to ****. This girl was definitely not the worst conversationist I have ever dealt with, but immediately I calmed down and thought: "Just listen. Do 90% of the listening and let her ramble about whatever she wants. I'm sure she has hardly (if ever) had a guy just sit and let her talk. They probably compliment her all night and try to go in for the kill too early". So... I listened. I talked a little too, but mostly listened.
At some point during our conversation she brought up how embarrassed she was about the size of her hands. Bingo. Perfect time to get a physical interaction. I say "No way! Are they bigger than mine?!" putting my hand up. She places her hand on mine and for the first time during the night we touch. I know this seems like something small, but to me that physical interaction was a subtle way of getting closer to her rather than just talking. After last call (9PM because of COVID...) she looks at me and says "Do you want to come meet my dog?! I live 5 minutes away". **** yeah I want to meet her dog...
We head over to J's place and hang out for a while. She is actually pretty cool (and did I mentioned hottest girl I have ever taken on a date?) but very insecure. It's easy to play of her insecurities with jokes, teasing, and subtle (NOT over the top) compliments. I bring up dancing (I absolutely love to dance and have been wanting to learn some new styles for a while) and she says that she dances bachata and could teach me. We start dancing in her apartment to the music and I go in for the kiss when we lock eyes. But.... she kind of brushes her lips across mine and turns her head, almost in a teasing fashion. I was a little confused and thought "wow, I have really been reading these signals wrong." But keeping in mind my Rationale Male teachings, and knowing that a woman's imperative is to change her mind at any minute, I thought "ok, this isn't over yet. The night is young." We continue to dance with no success kissing and then continue talking and hanging out in her living room.
She mentions she USED TO BE A STRIPPER and starts showing me some 'floor moves'. Guys, you have to understand I HAD ONLY HAD SEX WITH 5 WOMEN UP TO THIS POINT AND I AM RECENTLY DIVORCED. This **** just doesn't happen on a Monday night. Even writing this I still feel like I'm making it up and it actually didn't happen to ME. But I wouldn't lie to my fellow DJ's like that. So, as she is essentially stripping in her apartment I am watching in wonder. My back is against the couch and I am sitting on the floor with my legs outstretched. After her 'routine' she begins to walk across the living room towards her dog. I figure "eh, she going to go pet the little guy and we'll probably keep talking". Suddenly I see one of her legs step right across mine and plant onto the ground. Remember, I'm sitting on the ground with my back against the couch and she's standing. Essentially this girl's ***** is starting right at me (fully clothed however). She begins to slowly squat down until her eyes meet mine. I think I got her signal...
I grab her and start kissing her FINALLY. She makes a joke about how long it took me, and I mention the failed kiss when dancing. She denies it happened and says "no way! you didn't try that!" (Women are hilarious aren't they?) Anyways, the night did not end at kissing and I can finally say I have had sex with 6 women in my life. Many more to come too! After we went at it twice I ended up kissing her goodbye (she wanted me to stay but I felt leaving would make me seem more independent, ambiguous, and alpha), drove home at 3AM, and even made it to work the next day by 9.
That's my story boys. I am very excited to be a part of the manosphere and to of found out about The Rationale Male and this website. These teachings have helped me tremendously, especially entering the game again after 7 years. Life would be meaningless without reflection, so here are my personal critiques/takeaways:
PROS:
I was confident, charismatic, paid for the drinks and apps (that's a must), made great eye contact, made her laugh, arrived 10 minutes early and chatted up the server who was flirty with me as well (this is a bonus because you demonstrate social value/skills, confidence, and personability to your date by getting in good with your server/bartender), didn't talk about myself too much, listened 90% of the time, and paid compliments to her (not too much/over the top).
CONS:
I could have attempted to seal the deal with the kiss sooner than I did, and/or I could have tried again to kiss her while dancing in a more covert way.
Overall, I'll give my performance a solid 8.5/10. Not bad for a newly divorced 27 year old.
- Matt
