Hey guys,
Been away from this site for awhile. I've been enjoying life, keeping busy and getting girls (and good looking ones at that!)
However, I wanted to gather the opinions and experiences of you all on the topic of avoiding oneitis with fvck buddies.
In my case, if I spend enough time with a girl that I like (and especially have sex with her and sleep in the same bed overnight), I find myself thinking about her more and more. Obvious incoming oneitis. I seem to suffer from some kind of localized anxiety (basically limited to girls), and if I get into that trap of overanalyzing things, it's hard to get out of it.
Currently, I have a few girls that I'm working on, and others that I could easily fvck (and with some of them have fvcked), but I'm very picky and there is at this moment only one that I would and can do on at least a semi-regular basis. The thing is that she's young, volatile, does some stuff with a few other guys from time to time, and is generally not relationship material at this age at least. This is an obvious pedestal setup on my part and with a girl like that, not a good situation for me to put myself into. I'm wondering if I'm just one of those DJs that are into relationships and not just sleeping around...
I think the this oneitis could be alleviated (or cured) in the following ways:
-Get more fvck buddies: I can do this but I find it is hard for me to really work on more than one or two girls at once. I'm largely a perfectionist and like to focus my effort. This is next for me to really try though, and would do the trick I think.
-Don't analyze what she said in your head, focus on other activities, keep her off that pedestal, and other cognitive tactics: I employ many of these and they help, but it's almost like a constant battle to keep this forming oneitis at bay.
Was or is anyone in the same boat as I am? I'd like to hear some personal experiences on this topic. What did you do that worked for you?
Thanks, and keep pimpin!
Been away from this site for awhile. I've been enjoying life, keeping busy and getting girls (and good looking ones at that!)
However, I wanted to gather the opinions and experiences of you all on the topic of avoiding oneitis with fvck buddies.
In my case, if I spend enough time with a girl that I like (and especially have sex with her and sleep in the same bed overnight), I find myself thinking about her more and more. Obvious incoming oneitis. I seem to suffer from some kind of localized anxiety (basically limited to girls), and if I get into that trap of overanalyzing things, it's hard to get out of it.
Currently, I have a few girls that I'm working on, and others that I could easily fvck (and with some of them have fvcked), but I'm very picky and there is at this moment only one that I would and can do on at least a semi-regular basis. The thing is that she's young, volatile, does some stuff with a few other guys from time to time, and is generally not relationship material at this age at least. This is an obvious pedestal setup on my part and with a girl like that, not a good situation for me to put myself into. I'm wondering if I'm just one of those DJs that are into relationships and not just sleeping around...
I think the this oneitis could be alleviated (or cured) in the following ways:
-Get more fvck buddies: I can do this but I find it is hard for me to really work on more than one or two girls at once. I'm largely a perfectionist and like to focus my effort. This is next for me to really try though, and would do the trick I think.
-Don't analyze what she said in your head, focus on other activities, keep her off that pedestal, and other cognitive tactics: I employ many of these and they help, but it's almost like a constant battle to keep this forming oneitis at bay.
Was or is anyone in the same boat as I am? I'd like to hear some personal experiences on this topic. What did you do that worked for you?
Thanks, and keep pimpin!
