va2000
Don Juan
- Joined
- Nov 11, 2017
- Messages
- 50
- Reaction score
- 10
1) she has a legitimate question, writes a long message about something about the computer, paperwork, errands, what have you, and I miss one or more details in her question which alters the useful answer. When I answer partially or incorrectly, she nearly invariably says "you never listen". She had a legitimate need for a detailed answer, and reverted to a male, overt question form, and I literally goofed when reading through it. Is it still a **** test or not at all?
2) she shows me something she's doing whether it's her gym routine (pic of notebook), diet record, project she's working on, anything, and I will say a few things like "good eye, nice work, proud of you, etc." but usually throw in a "you might want to consider more protein" or "it seems green would have been a better color in that context". I don't criticize for its own sake, but when I see a glaring need for a suggestion I do it in a courteous manner (as I would absolutely always do if it were a man friend or member of family, etc.) Invariably she says "I didn't ask for advice or input". It is true, i.e. she usually doesn't need the information I share, but she is one who rarely asks for feedback, period, just affirmation. Is it 100% a **** test?
2) she shows me something she's doing whether it's her gym routine (pic of notebook), diet record, project she's working on, anything, and I will say a few things like "good eye, nice work, proud of you, etc." but usually throw in a "you might want to consider more protein" or "it seems green would have been a better color in that context". I don't criticize for its own sake, but when I see a glaring need for a suggestion I do it in a courteous manner (as I would absolutely always do if it were a man friend or member of family, etc.) Invariably she says "I didn't ask for advice or input". It is true, i.e. she usually doesn't need the information I share, but she is one who rarely asks for feedback, period, just affirmation. Is it 100% a **** test?