Hi Folks,
I'm new here. I'm a 28 year old single male and I began going to a gym at least three days a week since last spring. For some reason, I seem to be getting looks and some sort of attention now from women who normally didn't give me the time of day in the past. I was wondering if some of you have any suggestions in terms of approaching women in gyms. It seems pretty much like a hit or miss location. On the one hand, I worry that if I ask for a woman's phone number on the same day I talk to her, she may think I was too fast and came on too strong. Asking for a phone number the first time after talking to a woman at a gym has worked for me before, but the results have typically been mixed. Sometimes I may not have such an opportunity again as people's schedules change and you don't get to see them anymore.
Just yesterday, I took a chance and talked to this lady at my gym who I noticed seems in the past two weeks is often there on the same days and times as me. She kept looking at me when I was working out and then when our eyes met, she'd look away. Then our eyes would meet once more and she'd look away. So I took a chance and walked up on my way to use another machine and introduced myself to her. I complimented her and her eyes seemed to light up and she kept smiling and laughing the whole time and I felt we had a good conversation. But when I asked for her phone number and if she would perhaps like to go out for drinks, she looked down at the carpet pensively, saying: "Hmmmmmm....," "well...I work, and I don't think my boyfriend would be happy to hear that." So I told her it was nice meeting her and before I left, she asked me once more what my name was and I repeated it to her and we shook hands.
So my question is: When I see her next time, should I just sit quiet and act as if I haven't talked to her before? Should I just walk past her smiling and waving, or should I still walk up to her and this time merely engage in a brief, freindly-type conversation? The risk with gyms is that you don't want to make yourself cheap running around talking to one woman and the other and perhaps not being successful, and then losing respect in the end. People gossip. I'd appreciate some feedback.
I'm new here. I'm a 28 year old single male and I began going to a gym at least three days a week since last spring. For some reason, I seem to be getting looks and some sort of attention now from women who normally didn't give me the time of day in the past. I was wondering if some of you have any suggestions in terms of approaching women in gyms. It seems pretty much like a hit or miss location. On the one hand, I worry that if I ask for a woman's phone number on the same day I talk to her, she may think I was too fast and came on too strong. Asking for a phone number the first time after talking to a woman at a gym has worked for me before, but the results have typically been mixed. Sometimes I may not have such an opportunity again as people's schedules change and you don't get to see them anymore.
Just yesterday, I took a chance and talked to this lady at my gym who I noticed seems in the past two weeks is often there on the same days and times as me. She kept looking at me when I was working out and then when our eyes met, she'd look away. Then our eyes would meet once more and she'd look away. So I took a chance and walked up on my way to use another machine and introduced myself to her. I complimented her and her eyes seemed to light up and she kept smiling and laughing the whole time and I felt we had a good conversation. But when I asked for her phone number and if she would perhaps like to go out for drinks, she looked down at the carpet pensively, saying: "Hmmmmmm....," "well...I work, and I don't think my boyfriend would be happy to hear that." So I told her it was nice meeting her and before I left, she asked me once more what my name was and I repeated it to her and we shook hands.
So my question is: When I see her next time, should I just sit quiet and act as if I haven't talked to her before? Should I just walk past her smiling and waving, or should I still walk up to her and this time merely engage in a brief, freindly-type conversation? The risk with gyms is that you don't want to make yourself cheap running around talking to one woman and the other and perhaps not being successful, and then losing respect in the end. People gossip. I'd appreciate some feedback.
