any success with re-gaming a lost prospect

[belividere]

Heres my preamble. Alright first off I am not good at trying to juggle woman. When it comes down to making a choice the little head tends to come up victorious. That is something I need to work on badly.

Heres my scenario. A few months back I was trying to maintain situations with a few girls. Long story short I passed up a girl who I had some great chemistry with and exceeded my requirements. I got busy and dropped her and I took the FB route with another one. I was being lazy about it. So a couple of months pass and the girl who I had a better connection with re-initiated contact.

I'm assuming interest given our past. A few dates and we had just kissed, nothing further. The problem is that I have been out twice with her so far and both times these two AFC lapdogs have shown up. I'm not worried about the competition, or lack there of. But I haven't been able to isolate. She might be playing jealousy games with me but her interest is definetly there.

I've pretty much approached this as a fresh start. Do you think that I should be considering alternatives. Half the reason I'm putting this up is to get my ass in gear and isolate her by the end of next weekend. My thoughts are just to get her over to my place for a movie and than pick up where I left off. Any advice from people who have gotten back in with a girl is much appreciated.

 

[PRMoon]

I pick up lost change like this but more ofthen then not I lose interest very quickly if the girl starts showing interest in me after such a long drull of time where nothing happened. I just don't find it very sporting to be able to work my way back in with a girl (especially if it only takes a few mins) when I had blown her off so readily in the the past.

Your case is definately a winable situation. I think she's just playing it naturally like any girl would. You passed on her a while ago, so she's got some new suiters around her that she's entertaining herself with. I'd just find a time to initiate some good convo and build some repotuar back with her, then after you get her IL up mention the two of you getting together sometimes soon. It's really as simple as that, i mean since it's not really a fresh start for you, you've gone out with her before in the past so you do know somethings about her. Just rebuild whatever interest she had in your before and seal the deal.

I suppose it's worth getting into because you kinda left the work unfinished the first time so your not really revisiting the whole thing more just continuing. I do hope however you're workin some other girls on the side, even casually. It really does keep you honest about yourself and your intentions.

 

[belividere]

PR,

Thanks for the reply.

I set something up for saturday. Today is my birthday and at 12.03 I got an email card from here. Well see were it goes from here.

 

[PRMoon]

Hey hey no prob. Happy B day and I hope everything goes well for you.

 

[belividere]

thanks,
I'm suprised I opened it even. She sends me a spanish e-card with a spanish title knowing that I speak 9 words. Well see how this plays out.

If you dont mind me asking, how did the interview go?

 

[PRMoon]

pretty good. I spoke the the VIP host at Mandalay bay today about getting a role in Player Development. He seemed to like me and took my card. They've got 3 open spots and I'm hoping I'll get one even though I'm a little green when it comes to PD. we'll see, I'm gonna call around and go on a few more inteviews at some other casinos.

 

[belividere]

I was hoping to get out to vegas on 6/6 but looks like it wont happen. Next time I do I am expecting suggestions. I hope that your search goes well.

 

[PRMoon]

thanx, i've got a few connections that I havent' utilized so I'm sure things will go well for me in the end. I can recommend a few spots out here if you ever visit for sure.

 

[belividere]

thanks man. Did you grow up out there? I was out there when I was like 15. Stayed at the excalibur and made out with a mexican hottie from san diego. Totally AFC, I won her a stuffed animal in the little carnival thing. Good times. I was invited out there in june by a couple of english foreign exchange students. Not the best lookin girls but it was a valid excuse for me. I'm to busy to make it out there though. My sister just got engaged and is planning on having her wedding out there. Not sure when since they haven't set a date. I'll drop you a PM before that though and figure out where I should be going to.

Anyone else got any comments on my og post. It got bumped to the third page in like 3 hrs. since people wanted to know if dj's were socks with sandals, what size beds they sleep in and whether or not they should be feed after midnight or get wet.

 

[So pimp its scary]

My personal opinion is that it is basically a new 50/50... the only thing different is that you are already past those difficult first minutes of conversation where it's 'make it or break it time'.

The flipside is, is this girl really worth it if you let her slip through the filters before? That's happened to me once at least where a girl I was not interested in because of other prospects shows up when the new prospects are gone... but then again, I've got a weakness for women, I can't help it.

By all means though, there is nothing wrong with wanting to get your rocks off..

 

[belividere]

SPIS,
You're right. I would even give myself better odds since it was her who completely took the initiative to re-connect at this point.

I'll get a little bit more into more story since people may actually listen. I met her on a cold approach. We hit it off and went out three times. The second and third time we had kissed. At the time I was fooling around with a party girl who was a pretty consistent source. I ended up hooking up with another girl between our first and second kiss as well. The party girl got old, as they always do. The other one has since been a consistent FB, although that itself is another story after last weekend. Anyways I ended up being out of town after our 3rd date for a week and busy after I got back. Before I realized it two-three weeks had passed. She called twice while I was out of town and busy and I never returned the calls. At that point I just gave up already having tang put in front of me.

She re-initiated maybe 2 weeks ago and every time we have gone out her lap dogs have been around. The whole time though her attention was focused at me and she was obviously non-flirtatious with them.

I called her up this morning though. Got her voicemail and left a message. She called back when I was busy saying how she missed me and blah, blah blah...At the same time she sent an email. I emailed her back saying were on for saturday. That was around 2pm. She normally as I know it sleeps before 11pm. At 12 I get a birthday e-card.

At this point I'm totally typing way too much about this girl. If we dont at least make out again on saturday though i'm done. I wont chase her, I will just replace her.

 

[belividere]

Alright, replacement time.

Set plans on Saturday night and of course once it rolled around she had a friend who wanted to come with. She asked if it was okay for her to bring him along and I just said, "No". A half hour later she called and I wasn't going to bother answering since by that time I was out with some friends. Worthless, I'm sorry grovel. The kind of stuff that most guys would eat up and go back too. I'm done. I've been down that road before and wont look back.

I think that I am going to clear my slate and find completely new girls from this weekend on. What I have looks not so promising right now.

 

[Porky]

she's going to keep contacting you. let us know how it turns out.

 

[belividere]

Porky,
No contact as of yet. I doubt it will happen anytime soon either. Honestly it doesn't matter much too me anyways. I think that this is worthy of a bump though since I slacked off to much after moving forward and blew myself out of the water. My excuses were bullsh1t and I should have worked to maintain the level of interest while I had it. Instead I blew it off and I should have known better. Good to great looking girls get hit on all the time. Maintaining interest level is critical. I'm not advocating pushing to hard but I basically dropped this one to quickly after progressing and should have kept up my end a little stronger. Live and learn (again). Promise I wont do this again