BGC
Master Don Juan
Guys,
I came to an insight that I wanted to share.
First, Doc Love has figured things out about dating. His "challenge" really will get you a lot of dates and lot of interested girls.
But you don't only use his "challenge" for dating -- you use at all times in life when around women. I use it at work, and the women sweat me. It's really quite funny. It's all about keeping your mouth shut about yourself.
(If you're not familiar with Doc Love's idea of "challege" and his system, I recommend his book -- it sounds like a lot of money, $99, and maybe it is, but it's so much worth it.)
Anyway, I came to this insight over the last few months.
Basically, if you want to sustain a LTR, after you "have" the girl, and she says she loves you, I think you have to become anti-challenge.
You have to give entirely of yourself. You ought to tell her nearly everything you do, you ought to call her back the second you get her call, you ought to compliment her as often as it occurs to you, you ought to tell her you love her when it occurs to you.
Because the difference between "dating" a girl and being intimates is so great.
I'd never had a girlfriend before, and I've changed more emotionally and psychically in the last six months than I had perhaps in the last six years.
Some of you might remember my posts from around last January. The girl I spoke of then is my girlfriend now.
So what I've realized is the most amazing part of an intimate relationship is that you two are like one. Because you share everything.
But you can't become one if you're still heavily employing "challenge."
I nearly lost my girlfriend because I was still trying to be a challenge -- and I never realized that what I was telling her was that I wasn't interested.
That isn't to say that sometimes you shouldn't be a challenge. Once I had to cancel on us going out for a work-related reason, and my girlfriend later acknowledged to me that that made her even more in love with me -- because, as she explained it, it showed that I had a life beyond her.
So my advice is, read Doc Love's system and use "challenge" -- but be careful to not be too much of a "challenge."
Because giving of yourself is at the center of a loving long-term relationship, I've concluded.
[This message has been edited by BGC (edited 08-27-2001).]
I came to an insight that I wanted to share.
First, Doc Love has figured things out about dating. His "challenge" really will get you a lot of dates and lot of interested girls.
But you don't only use his "challenge" for dating -- you use at all times in life when around women. I use it at work, and the women sweat me. It's really quite funny. It's all about keeping your mouth shut about yourself.
(If you're not familiar with Doc Love's idea of "challege" and his system, I recommend his book -- it sounds like a lot of money, $99, and maybe it is, but it's so much worth it.)
Anyway, I came to this insight over the last few months.
Basically, if you want to sustain a LTR, after you "have" the girl, and she says she loves you, I think you have to become anti-challenge.
You have to give entirely of yourself. You ought to tell her nearly everything you do, you ought to call her back the second you get her call, you ought to compliment her as often as it occurs to you, you ought to tell her you love her when it occurs to you.
Because the difference between "dating" a girl and being intimates is so great.
I'd never had a girlfriend before, and I've changed more emotionally and psychically in the last six months than I had perhaps in the last six years.
Some of you might remember my posts from around last January. The girl I spoke of then is my girlfriend now.
So what I've realized is the most amazing part of an intimate relationship is that you two are like one. Because you share everything.
But you can't become one if you're still heavily employing "challenge."
I nearly lost my girlfriend because I was still trying to be a challenge -- and I never realized that what I was telling her was that I wasn't interested.
That isn't to say that sometimes you shouldn't be a challenge. Once I had to cancel on us going out for a work-related reason, and my girlfriend later acknowledged to me that that made her even more in love with me -- because, as she explained it, it showed that I had a life beyond her.
So my advice is, read Doc Love's system and use "challenge" -- but be careful to not be too much of a "challenge."
Because giving of yourself is at the center of a loving long-term relationship, I've concluded.
[This message has been edited by BGC (edited 08-27-2001).]
