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Sometimes on these boards (but especially on ones like reddit/seduction), younger guys will provide a field report about a "number close" and act all excited as if it was some accomplishment.
Sometimes it is, particularly for very inexperienced guys. Gotta walk before your run.
Other times numbers do lead somewhere.
Still, here's a short story from the weekend that shows how misleading getting a number can be and how women can give out their numbers in a way where THEY HAVE NO IDEA HOW THEY ARE MISLEADING THE GUY.
Friday I'm at the music club and I see Katie come in. I run into her only about once or twice a year. She's cute, friendly, and always comes off as extremely confidence without being bihtchy or conceited. I've always had good rapport with her but never found the opportunity to ask her out (I got to know her WAY before I sharpened by game in recent years).
Anyway, we see each other at the crowded bar and start chatting. I move the conversation along quickly and say, "Hey, you know, I don't have your number. We should exchange." She eagerly agrees and I punch it in.
Directly afterward, she turns to the two people standing behind her and says to me, "This is my fiance Ray and my friend Jennifer."
I didn't know they were together.
No big deal on my end.
But, if those two had not been right behind her, she probably wouldn't have mentioned being engaged and I would have been in a situation where any messages I sent to her later to get her out would have ended up in a very awkward situation.
Girls these days give out their number all the time.
And sometimes they won't work the BF/fiance angle into the conversation...or forget to, especially if the interaction is short.
Some of them might do this because they are AWs or sloots, but others are just being social.
So, take that number-close with a grain of salt. Think of all the possible things it could represent:
She's very intereseted
She's mildly interested
She's not decided on you yet, so why not?
She's being friendly though in a relationship
She's an attention *****
She's up for screwing around on her BF
She's trying to get rid of you
She gives it to you because it is easier than saying "not interested"
Sometimes it is, particularly for very inexperienced guys. Gotta walk before your run.
Other times numbers do lead somewhere.
Still, here's a short story from the weekend that shows how misleading getting a number can be and how women can give out their numbers in a way where THEY HAVE NO IDEA HOW THEY ARE MISLEADING THE GUY.
Friday I'm at the music club and I see Katie come in. I run into her only about once or twice a year. She's cute, friendly, and always comes off as extremely confidence without being bihtchy or conceited. I've always had good rapport with her but never found the opportunity to ask her out (I got to know her WAY before I sharpened by game in recent years).
Anyway, we see each other at the crowded bar and start chatting. I move the conversation along quickly and say, "Hey, you know, I don't have your number. We should exchange." She eagerly agrees and I punch it in.
Directly afterward, she turns to the two people standing behind her and says to me, "This is my fiance Ray and my friend Jennifer."
I didn't know they were together.
No big deal on my end.
But, if those two had not been right behind her, she probably wouldn't have mentioned being engaged and I would have been in a situation where any messages I sent to her later to get her out would have ended up in a very awkward situation.
Girls these days give out their number all the time.
And sometimes they won't work the BF/fiance angle into the conversation...or forget to, especially if the interaction is short.
Some of them might do this because they are AWs or sloots, but others are just being social.
So, take that number-close with a grain of salt. Think of all the possible things it could represent:
She's very intereseted
She's mildly interested
She's not decided on you yet, so why not?
She's being friendly though in a relationship
She's an attention *****
She's up for screwing around on her BF
She's trying to get rid of you
She gives it to you because it is easier than saying "not interested"