Mister Big
Don Juan
I am currently taking myself out of the online scene (too many women and I want to get good at cold approaches with very attractive women). Here's my field report on a first date I went on yesterday.
Pyschology Woman
She runs an adolescent psychology center and makes big $$$. I haven't dated any at her level professionally before, so I was a very curious to how this would turn out. She winked at me. I liked her look so I pursued her with a few emails until I got a number. Strangely, I had trouble getting her on the phone which always sucks. Finally, I caught her and we talked for 45 minutes. I usually limit myself to no more than 10-15 minutes for a first conversation as a rule. This limit just forces me to be direct not pushy (women like that) and funny not silly. I am way too busy to fart around with IM and emails every day. They are just a tool to get to a physical connection. I don't like to over analyze my electronic game as it reduces time I spend out in the real world.
Because she was a psychologist, she kept asking open ended questions about my pending divorce, family, and personal issues, etc. I tried to break in and set the date several times, but she said she wanted to feel more comfortable and talk more. I always go with the flow in the beginning by discussing whatever she wants. This makes her feel comfortable which should be your goal. The exception is when you really don't feel comfortable. Fit in but don't compromise yourself. The conversation wasn't great, but I embedded a few sexy moments by talking about her wild side.
I met her for coffee at a Borders Books, her suggestion. She was cute, petite, and nicely put together (5'3", 105#s, 35 in chest) for a mature women (40 yo). She explained that her staff screened me for her, nice. We talked for about 30 minutes about boring things. I could tell she liked me as she was giving me cues with her body language: moving her hair in her face, lounging back, and returning EC. Remember that women act younger than their age when they feel sexy. Bad posture is an obvious cue. Look for these signs and gently increase your game accordingly. I increased EC and really focused on her eyes (one at time) and her lips. She liked it and smiled a lot.
I introduced some kino when she laughed about something I said. I squeezed her shoulder, then held her hand and didn't let go. She didn't respond by squeezing back, but if a women doesn't pull away it's usually a good sign. Some women need a lot of time to get used to your touch and can remain paralyzed initially. I never jump to conclusions about a woman's opinion of me. I could have bailed when I had trouble getting her on the phone, but she was just very busy. I could have taken her not returning my kino as a rejection, but she was just very shy. Until you get really frustrated, don't take anything on face value. I stroked her hand with my fingers for awhile and then I pull my hand back to gauge her reaction. She wanted more by the look in her eye. Pay attention and take what they give you.
I brought up a subject that is pure magic when you first meet someone that responds positively to you: dancing. Knowing how to dance is a very important element to my game for many reasons. I always challenge women that like to dance to talk about it. How it makes them feel, what music they like, where they go out, memorable moments, but especially whether they think they can hang with my moves. Its a metaphor for your bedroom ability and I've never met a woman who was good in bed who didn't like to brag about how sexy she is on the dance floor. By the end of this convo, this CEO teased me about jumping up on table and showing me her stuff which was hilarious because she is very conservative on the exterior.
As it was approaching the time she had to go, I knew to play it cool and not get more physical. Timing is everything and appearing smooth is necessary to build momentum. I talked to her about seeing her again over the weekend: prime time. She said that Saturday worked for her. With older women, don't call after the date, make them wait, and play it cool if they dig you. These women appreciate you cutting to the chase as they are just as time deprived as we are and don't want to play games. As we both walked out of the shop, the sun hit our faces and she kicked her head back to enjoy the warmth. When she straightened up, I stepped in and kissed her lightly. Date 1 successfully over.
Later that night she emailed me and told me she liked me and couldn't wait for Saturday to come. I am getting better with these hot professionals. However, coffee shops stink in my opinion because they are so public and lit up. Looking very relaxed but stylish is the best you can hope for. If we were in a bar, I would have gone in for more kino and a kiss or two much earlier. It seems inappropriate to do this in a coffee shop. Women love to meet in these places so I deal with it. I'll discuss another report in my next post.
Pyschology Woman
She runs an adolescent psychology center and makes big $$$. I haven't dated any at her level professionally before, so I was a very curious to how this would turn out. She winked at me. I liked her look so I pursued her with a few emails until I got a number. Strangely, I had trouble getting her on the phone which always sucks. Finally, I caught her and we talked for 45 minutes. I usually limit myself to no more than 10-15 minutes for a first conversation as a rule. This limit just forces me to be direct not pushy (women like that) and funny not silly. I am way too busy to fart around with IM and emails every day. They are just a tool to get to a physical connection. I don't like to over analyze my electronic game as it reduces time I spend out in the real world.
Because she was a psychologist, she kept asking open ended questions about my pending divorce, family, and personal issues, etc. I tried to break in and set the date several times, but she said she wanted to feel more comfortable and talk more. I always go with the flow in the beginning by discussing whatever she wants. This makes her feel comfortable which should be your goal. The exception is when you really don't feel comfortable. Fit in but don't compromise yourself. The conversation wasn't great, but I embedded a few sexy moments by talking about her wild side.
I met her for coffee at a Borders Books, her suggestion. She was cute, petite, and nicely put together (5'3", 105#s, 35 in chest) for a mature women (40 yo). She explained that her staff screened me for her, nice. We talked for about 30 minutes about boring things. I could tell she liked me as she was giving me cues with her body language: moving her hair in her face, lounging back, and returning EC. Remember that women act younger than their age when they feel sexy. Bad posture is an obvious cue. Look for these signs and gently increase your game accordingly. I increased EC and really focused on her eyes (one at time) and her lips. She liked it and smiled a lot.
I introduced some kino when she laughed about something I said. I squeezed her shoulder, then held her hand and didn't let go. She didn't respond by squeezing back, but if a women doesn't pull away it's usually a good sign. Some women need a lot of time to get used to your touch and can remain paralyzed initially. I never jump to conclusions about a woman's opinion of me. I could have bailed when I had trouble getting her on the phone, but she was just very busy. I could have taken her not returning my kino as a rejection, but she was just very shy. Until you get really frustrated, don't take anything on face value. I stroked her hand with my fingers for awhile and then I pull my hand back to gauge her reaction. She wanted more by the look in her eye. Pay attention and take what they give you.
I brought up a subject that is pure magic when you first meet someone that responds positively to you: dancing. Knowing how to dance is a very important element to my game for many reasons. I always challenge women that like to dance to talk about it. How it makes them feel, what music they like, where they go out, memorable moments, but especially whether they think they can hang with my moves. Its a metaphor for your bedroom ability and I've never met a woman who was good in bed who didn't like to brag about how sexy she is on the dance floor. By the end of this convo, this CEO teased me about jumping up on table and showing me her stuff which was hilarious because she is very conservative on the exterior.
As it was approaching the time she had to go, I knew to play it cool and not get more physical. Timing is everything and appearing smooth is necessary to build momentum. I talked to her about seeing her again over the weekend: prime time. She said that Saturday worked for her. With older women, don't call after the date, make them wait, and play it cool if they dig you. These women appreciate you cutting to the chase as they are just as time deprived as we are and don't want to play games. As we both walked out of the shop, the sun hit our faces and she kicked her head back to enjoy the warmth. When she straightened up, I stepped in and kissed her lightly. Date 1 successfully over.
Later that night she emailed me and told me she liked me and couldn't wait for Saturday to come. I am getting better with these hot professionals. However, coffee shops stink in my opinion because they are so public and lit up. Looking very relaxed but stylish is the best you can hope for. If we were in a bar, I would have gone in for more kino and a kiss or two much earlier. It seems inappropriate to do this in a coffee shop. Women love to meet in these places so I deal with it. I'll discuss another report in my next post.
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