WC2
Master Don Juan
The Approach is and has been a very distorted topic on these forums, as many others.
People encourage others that there are "patented" approaches that will work every time. They insist that by just saying certain words, you cannot fail.
People encourage others to approach as much as possible, but never really give thought to the real reason they're making the approach.
Just because you make 10 approaches one night, doesn't mean jack.
Some of the most talented men will make a pass on maybe one or two women a night. You ask why so few? Because if you approach them right, then you'll have no problem keeping the interaction going throughout the night. And believe it or not, anyone can do it! All it takes is getting to know yourself.
It's really common sense. Ask yourself what you want out of the approach before you even attempt. After all, you don't want this approach leading into conversation you can't enjoy, right?
When I make an approach :
1. I want to have an intelligent, but playful conversation
2. I want to make her laugh
3. I want to challenge her intellect and see how she responds
4. I want to find out about who she is
These are all genuine things I want to have in an interaction. Every man is different in what they want, but keep in mind that the more general you are, the more of a diverse conversationalist you'll be.
See, the problem is a lot of men go against their will. They make approaches based on things they DON'T want to do. This is why most men fear the approach. These are the same men who fail time after time again, because after all, a woman of all people can tell when you're genuinely happy or just putting on an act.
But the men who do understand, realize that all this fear built up inside is coming from yourself. It's you who is uncomfortable with the approach. If you treat the approach as something you like to do, then you'll naturally have more success.
After awhile you'll take the word approach out of your social vocabulary.
The word approach is replaced by the word enjoyable conversation.
I can't remember the last time I got turned down doing something I enjoy.
If your approach isn't making you happy, then why even bother? Even more so, if the approach isn't enjoyable for you, then how is it enjoyable for the woman?
People encourage others that there are "patented" approaches that will work every time. They insist that by just saying certain words, you cannot fail.
People encourage others to approach as much as possible, but never really give thought to the real reason they're making the approach.
Just because you make 10 approaches one night, doesn't mean jack.
Some of the most talented men will make a pass on maybe one or two women a night. You ask why so few? Because if you approach them right, then you'll have no problem keeping the interaction going throughout the night. And believe it or not, anyone can do it! All it takes is getting to know yourself.
It's really common sense. Ask yourself what you want out of the approach before you even attempt. After all, you don't want this approach leading into conversation you can't enjoy, right?
When I make an approach :
1. I want to have an intelligent, but playful conversation
2. I want to make her laugh
3. I want to challenge her intellect and see how she responds
4. I want to find out about who she is
These are all genuine things I want to have in an interaction. Every man is different in what they want, but keep in mind that the more general you are, the more of a diverse conversationalist you'll be.
See, the problem is a lot of men go against their will. They make approaches based on things they DON'T want to do. This is why most men fear the approach. These are the same men who fail time after time again, because after all, a woman of all people can tell when you're genuinely happy or just putting on an act.
But the men who do understand, realize that all this fear built up inside is coming from yourself. It's you who is uncomfortable with the approach. If you treat the approach as something you like to do, then you'll naturally have more success.
After awhile you'll take the word approach out of your social vocabulary.
The word approach is replaced by the word enjoyable conversation.
I can't remember the last time I got turned down doing something I enjoy.
If your approach isn't making you happy, then why even bother? Even more so, if the approach isn't enjoyable for you, then how is it enjoyable for the woman?
