Am I An Enabler - Or the Hot Intern Conundrum

[Tony197]

I have been dating a woman since February. We get along great, but there's no long-term there, we've both said we want to keep it casual and we haven't called each other BF/GF. So really, we're just dating, which is great. She may have an issue with me dating with other people, (she's asked if was sleeping with other women and I said "no" because that wasn't a lie), but if we're not an item, so what?

However, there are other women in my orbit I would like to date as well. One of them is the proverbial hot 21-year old intern.

The intern has a boyfriend. I think she might want to monkey branch, which I don't care for at all, but I've missed out on hot girls before because I thought I was taking the high road...but am I? If she's just casually dating a guy (not engaged) and is just waiting for a BBD. I've heard some advice online say you shouldn't enable women to act this way, but if she and her BF are headed for splitville anyway, am I in the wrong?

And yes, the "do unto others" advice does hold sway with me, as it has happened to me before. However, my counter would be - It happens to everyone. Hypergamy makes it so. Thoughts?

 

[RedScorpion]

I'll suggest that many girls with BFs tend to be more flirty than those that are single (in my experience). Especially the hot ones. I believe it's because they have something safe at home, so they'll reach out and have more fun, getting that high off of the flirtation. I'd take it as a compliment.

I'd consider the situation with the girl you're dating, that you're probably considered 'in a relationship'. Would vary depending on how frequent you guys spend time with each other... if it's a couple times to a few times a month, maybe not so much a formal relationship. If it's more often, then I'd think about it, even if you haven't titled each other BF/GF. It helps that you are established as 'casual', but something to consider.

Overall, I would say - go for it. I wouldn't expect anything per say about the intern girl. I'll suggest she may be attention seeking.