Age is just a number...

[Truman181]

Hey guys,

I'm still new here so forgive me if I'm repeating something that has been brought up many times but age is really just a number.

If any of you guys read my recent field report or question about a girl getting back with her ex, you will know that the girl I was involved with gave me the old speech about "I still have feelings for my ex and I think we might try to work things out".

Well guess what? She is 27 and he is 47! And here she's choosing him over me and I am much closer to her age.

So really, age is just a number. You can tell yourself that the age difference matters to women but that is YOUR belief and NOT HERS! What is really going on is YOUR EGO is telling you what women should and shouldn't be attracted to and your listening. Stop listening to your ego and look at what women are out there doing. YOU ARE WRONG SO JUST ADMIT IT! Women are attracted to you whether your ego lets you believe it or not.

 

[reset]

When Indiana Jones can still make a good movie at 65, yeah, age is just a number.

I agree with you. It's ego. And it's not YOUR opinion. It's all the crap we hear growing up about the benchmarks. 18-29, live it up, 30+, you're old. Come on.

Rollo made a great point about this earlier. The whole thing about being "old" is women trying to level the playing field. They don't age well. So shame the men who do age well.

Think about the planets that take longer to go around the sun. You're ten years old on certain planets.

 

[decades]

Age is not important to this particular woman, because for her a man is just a source of attention and adoration. But age Is very important to most of the women out there you'll be meeting. For these women, the magnitude of this age difference is a Deal breaker. But you found yourself a "special" one where it does not matter for her. Its common for Cluster Bs to have much older partners, and sometimes much younger partners.

Her relationship with the X is not what it seems. Remember what she was doing with you while supposedly she wanted to give the X another try? How would you like to be her X knowing that, just the day before she "came back", she was ready to let you F her (no condom right?) all night long on the floor, after first letting you explore every inch of her? How would you like to be in his shoes?

You dodged a bullet. She is no prize catch. You will be lucky if she never contacts you again. But that's far from a given. She may well. They like to "collect" guys like you. She is a terrible partner, and is a constant threat to lie, cheat and leave this X again and again and again, for as long as he allows the cycle to continue in it's destruction. He is on an emotional roller coaster with her, and likely has deep seated uber-AFC qualities that prevent him from seeing the reality of the situation clearly, and extricating himself from an emotionally abusive person.

Forget this woman and try to put what happened in context. Do a lot of reading here and you will see many common stories with yours. The particular kind of woman you met, drives posters to this forum like no other because they are so confusing to men who have never seen them in action before.

 

[jophil28]

Her relationship with the X is not what it seems. Remember what she was doing with you while supposedly she wanted to give the X another try? How would you like to be her X knowing that, just the day before she "came back", she was ready to let you F her (no condom right?) all night long on the floor, after first letting you explore every inch of her? How would you like to be in his shoes?

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Well said PE.
At least half of the regulars here have dated this woman (or one of her sisters)

Truman - Sever the connection NOW. I am talking about the one in your head. Listen to the wisdom on this board that has collectively formed itself into good advice to guys like YOU who are dealing with women like HER.

THis type of woman is unfit to play any part in your life.

 

[reset]

Women are attracted to you whether your ego lets you believe it or not.

This is worth repeating. I was having this discussion the other day, accepting that chicks are attracted to me. In my previous life I couldn't accept that because I thought I was weird or something was wrong with me. Things are different now, but the ego will try to harm you if it has to survive.

 

[MrLuvr]

Unfortunately in N America this is not the case. There are many, many women who will not date a man more than 5 years over their age. Check out some of the other boards dominated by women. In fact, a lot of women in their late 20s and 30s are actually more open to dating guys 10 years younger than even 5 years older. Why? Because feminism has put into their head that a relationship with an older man is an unequal relationship.

I think for a man in his 40s wanting to date 20 year olds, either move to a country where this is acceptable and even desired, like Brazil or some countries in Europe. Or alternatively do not discuss your age at all if you can help it, of course this only works if you look young.

 

[reset]

Sorry. I've had plenty of chicks from 20-25 obsessed with me. One 25 year old HB8 right now. Too bad for the ring.

Using feminism and the matrix is very helpful to a certain point, because it's important to know what you're dealing with. But you can't let that knowledge hold you back.

 

[STR8UP]

Most women will have a preconceived age stigma, but the right man can crush it like an ant. Turn it right around on her and make her qualify herself to YOU. That's all you gotta do

 

[reset]

You wouldn't get it. You're too young. When you get older you'll understand. Weren't you born in the late 90s?

 

[MrLuvr]

Most women will have a preconceived age stigma, but the right man can crush it like an ant. Turn it right around on her and make her qualify herself to YOU. That's all you gotta do

Yes, that is fine for the Djs either natural or learned. But for the "average" N American guy in his late 30s, 40s dating chicks in their early 20s is not an option. In some ways it could be a self fulfilling prophecy. Many guys that age do not see it as an option, so therefore it isn't.

 

[mrRuckus]

If you take care of your body and don't act like an old guy, they are already attracted before they know your age.

They don't make logical decisions to stop being attracted like "oh he's 7 years older than I am. I only date guys up to 5 years older than i am therefore i won't see him." It's more like "he's hot and he excites me. oh to hell with my rule."

Boo hoo for the average guys.

yea i'm only 28 so what do i know.

 

[Truman181]

Her relationship with the X is not what it seems. Remember what she was doing with you while supposedly she wanted to give the X another try? How would you like to be her X knowing that, just the day before she "came back", she was ready to let you F her (no condom right?) all night long on the floor, after first letting you explore every inch of her? How would you like to be in his shoes?

I'm not claiming she was a high quality woman at all. I'm just saying that yes some women (even very hot women) are attracted to older men. Granted some women may frown on dating an older guy. But that would be HER issue and not mine. I think far too many guys feel sorry for themselves as they get older. Face it, sometimes us guys are attracted to younger women and that is perfectly OKAY. Everyone always says be comfortable with your sexuality....well that saying applies to the age thing too. Don't be ashamed of it. Don't worry about what the poor young thing would think if she knew you were having nasty nasty thoughts about her. Just go for what you want and if she disqualifies you based on age, it's her issue and not yours.


Also, about that girl I was seeing....I PM'ed Jophil about how I saw her yesterday and made out with her. Then she tried to give me some crap about not texting her in case he checks her phone so I laughed at her and deleted her number.

Truman - Sever the connection NOW. I am talking about the one in your head. Listen to the wisdom on this board that has collectively formed itself into good advice to guys like YOU who are dealing with women like HER.

THis type of woman is unfit to play any part in your life.

I agree, she is unfit to play any part in my life. But at the same time, I'm still enjoying the successful aspects of what happened. You guys always dwell on the negative aspects without giving props. Man I had a great time this past weekend and I SHOULD HAVE nailed the hottest woman I've ever been with. Sure she turned out to be a Type B? girl as PE put it, but it was still a fun experience and thankfully I did dodge the bullet.

 

[lookyoung]

Most women will have a preconceived age stigma, but the right man can crush it like an ant. Turn it right around on her and make her qualify herself to YOU. That's all you gotta do

Best point of this thread by far. The keys to hooking up with younger woman are having a sense of clothing style, working out and taking care of yourself, Speaking with confidence and having goals and dreams. I have banged girls quite a few girls that were 7-12 years younger than me. Age should never be an issue if your 7 years older or less.

To the guys that say that they are getting rejected because of there age..... I bet there was something the girl didn't like about you and it had nothing to do with your age. Woman say that its a copout.

 

[jophil28]

The particular kind of woman you met, drives posters to this forum like no other because they are so confusing to men who have never seen them in action before.

"...posters who have never seen them in action before "
How effing true !

I dated numerous women over 30 some odd years - probably slept with approximately -well, a big number. I had relationships with about 25 of them (longer that a month) and never encountered a Cluster B wacko until two years ago. I knew zero about mentally ill women and was therefor totally unprepared when I tried to have a relationship with one,. The world of women ,as I understood it was then flipped on its head.
No man is armed or prepared be in an LTR with a Personality Disordered woman, especially a BPD/NPD /HPD, or a combo of these.. Unfortunately these vampires are usually HOT.
They are AWs in the extreme and will do anything to manipulate men to fawn and worship them -these women are human errors -mistakes of evolution and biological f**kups.

 

[Sir-M]

so forgive me if I'm repeating something that has been brought up many times but age is really just a number.

Yeah age is just a number, but some numbers are much larger than others and that is really not recommended. except if you are Hugh Hefner.

 

[Truman181]

"...posters who have never seen them in action before "
How effing true !

I dated numerous women over 30 some odd years - probably slept with approximately -well, a big number. I had relationships with about 25 of them (longer that a month) and never encountered a Cluster B wacko until two years ago. I knew zero about mentally ill women and was therefor totally unprepared when I tried to have a relationship with one,. The world of women ,as I understood it was then flipped on its head.
No man is armed or prepared be in an LTR with a Personality Disordered woman, especially a BPD/NPD /HPD, or a combo of these.. Unfortunately these vampires are usually HOT.
They are AWs in the extreme and will do anything to manipulate men to fawn and worship them -these women are human errors -mistakes of evolution and biological f**kups.

So tell me, what exactly is a cluster B personality type anyway?

 

[Truman181]

Yeah age is just a number, but some numbers are much larger than others and that is really not recommended. except if you are Hugh Hefner.

And some younger women while very attractive are not worth dating. While I believe every woman above 18 is fair game I would have no desire to date a woman who acts immature or childish. I'm not a babysitter.

My original point was and is that age alone should not be a limiting belief for a guy not whether these women would be considered high-quality or even incompatible with every guy's lifestyle.

 

[Scaramouche]

One shouldn't generalise about age attraction although we all do....Attraction is everything...in general the first question a Woman asks when told by another of a new lover is"How old is he".....there certainly is a lot of credit in attracting a younger man,sure they know relating to him is going to be difficult and that eventually he will find some other tail to chase,but it gives them credit in the eyes of their friends,credentialises and proves their attraction....Younger woman are a lot of hard work,good for your ego,bad for the amount of wasted money and energy you have to put in,and at the End of the day they generally leave you...No a woman say five years younger is better,and often they can be just as much fun...As to Ladies with personality disorders,as Jophil says they are one bundle of trouble...One I had an eighteen month relationship with,didn't manifest symptoms until a year into our friendship....going down a mountain side,in a car,steep precipices,we decide to have a panic attack and grab the steering wheel,luckily I managed to get out of it alive....after five minutes calmed her down and thought everything was over but ten minutes later she grabbed hold of me as I am driving...well I cleared luggage off the back seat and moved her.....mentioning this to mutual friend she said well .....does have a few problems,I decided to check out her bathroom drawer sure enough shes taking happy pills big time....You wouldn't have picked this girl believe me,the moral,always check out their bathroom drawer,look at any mail from doctors and specialists...

 

[jophil28]

So tell me, what exactly is a cluster B personality type anyway?

Google up these four disorders and set the signs and symptoms in concrete in your head.

Borderline
Narcissistic
Antisocial
Histrionic

Women(and men) who have these disorders are the abusers in our society.
The disorders do not exist in a pure form, or in isolation.
Co-morbidity is the norm.

The clinical data is in the DSM IV . Axis II CLuster B

Happy reading - you may meet a few people that you know.

 

[betterthandead]

A 27 year old with a 47 year old, age probably isn't a number for some of you guys but I think there's more to this than what you may see.

Sometimes people get into relationships because of not so honest reasons. Hey, not to dump cold water for you old guys but if you think pulling a gal 15-20 years younger is something to be proud of, go talk to Paul McCartney and ask him the price it cost him when he married/divorced that much younger one legged woman.