Donnie Darko
Don Juan
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So a former girl I "dated" earlier in the year recontacted me a few months ago and straight up asked me for sex. I complied and things were pretty good for a few weeks with our arrangement.
As time passed though she began getting insecure and jealous about me going out with other girls and started withholding sex because of it. It wasn't a big deal because I had another solid plate and I was having fun going out with other girls so it helped me maintain indifference.
I also found out that she was bipolar, taking medication and seeing a psychologist because of family problems that she was having. This should have been a huge red flag. I choose to ignore it and told myself that I would just use her for sex.
Well, after several months she asked and I agreed to give dating her a try. The problem is that there really were not any qualities about her that I liked other than the sex. I should have refused to get into anything serious with her but after having sex with someone for so long I guess some feelings developed.
Stopping seeing other girls except my other main plate made it difficult for me to maintain indifference. This girl was basically showed no emotion, maintained indifference and made it clear that I was not a priority. She immediately now had complete power of the relationship.
As we dated things were good for less than a week. Her behavior was such that I would have nexted any other girl but I ultimately decided to throw away all of my power and give it all to her; however, I knowingly told myself that I was just going to use her for sex and give her minimal effort while spinning more plates.
As a bipolar girl she would mood would flip and she would become overly angry over nothing and tended to overreact all the time. Whereas she showed by her actions over and over again that she did not care or have emotion.
I decided to end it with her because she was just too consistently inconsistent. She offered to continue having casual sex without dating and I rejected it because my ego got in the way and I just could not handle her disrespectful behavior anymore. The problem is that I did this when I was drunk and I said some awful things to her, which ultimately gave her the validation she needed to use against me and justify for herself that I was the person in the wrong.
I should have just ended it, shut the fvck up and walked away in silence. I think this would have forced her to be in the dark but I gave her justification to frame me in the wrong by saying some awful things to her. Now in her eyes I'm just a drunk a$$hole.
I'm 99.99% positive that the things that I said to her will ensure that we never talk again.
I followed up by feeling bad about the awful things I said to her and I apologized to her.
I made lots of mistakes with this one but take it all as a learning experience.
Lessons learned.
Don't turn a fvck buddy into a relationship.
Don't date a woman with a bipolar disorder.
Don't break up with a woman when you are drunk.
Don't get emotional when breaking up with her and say awful things with the intention of hurting her. Just end it, shut the fvck up and walk away.
When you make mistakes when ending a relationship, don't apologize for your mistakes. Stick by your word and shut the fvck up and walk away.
I'm sure there are plenty of more mistakes I made.
I'm honestly lucky that I have another solid plate so it doesn't make losing this plate very difficult. It just motivates me more to keep spinning and find a better #2 plate.
As time passed though she began getting insecure and jealous about me going out with other girls and started withholding sex because of it. It wasn't a big deal because I had another solid plate and I was having fun going out with other girls so it helped me maintain indifference.
I also found out that she was bipolar, taking medication and seeing a psychologist because of family problems that she was having. This should have been a huge red flag. I choose to ignore it and told myself that I would just use her for sex.
Well, after several months she asked and I agreed to give dating her a try. The problem is that there really were not any qualities about her that I liked other than the sex. I should have refused to get into anything serious with her but after having sex with someone for so long I guess some feelings developed.
Stopping seeing other girls except my other main plate made it difficult for me to maintain indifference. This girl was basically showed no emotion, maintained indifference and made it clear that I was not a priority. She immediately now had complete power of the relationship.
As we dated things were good for less than a week. Her behavior was such that I would have nexted any other girl but I ultimately decided to throw away all of my power and give it all to her; however, I knowingly told myself that I was just going to use her for sex and give her minimal effort while spinning more plates.
As a bipolar girl she would mood would flip and she would become overly angry over nothing and tended to overreact all the time. Whereas she showed by her actions over and over again that she did not care or have emotion.
I decided to end it with her because she was just too consistently inconsistent. She offered to continue having casual sex without dating and I rejected it because my ego got in the way and I just could not handle her disrespectful behavior anymore. The problem is that I did this when I was drunk and I said some awful things to her, which ultimately gave her the validation she needed to use against me and justify for herself that I was the person in the wrong.
I should have just ended it, shut the fvck up and walked away in silence. I think this would have forced her to be in the dark but I gave her justification to frame me in the wrong by saying some awful things to her. Now in her eyes I'm just a drunk a$$hole.
I'm 99.99% positive that the things that I said to her will ensure that we never talk again.
I followed up by feeling bad about the awful things I said to her and I apologized to her.
I made lots of mistakes with this one but take it all as a learning experience.
Lessons learned.
Don't turn a fvck buddy into a relationship.
Don't date a woman with a bipolar disorder.
Don't break up with a woman when you are drunk.
Don't get emotional when breaking up with her and say awful things with the intention of hurting her. Just end it, shut the fvck up and walk away.
When you make mistakes when ending a relationship, don't apologize for your mistakes. Stick by your word and shut the fvck up and walk away.
I'm sure there are plenty of more mistakes I made.
I'm honestly lucky that I have another solid plate so it doesn't make losing this plate very difficult. It just motivates me more to keep spinning and find a better #2 plate.
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