Black.Magic
Don Juan
- Joined
- Feb 11, 2012
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INTRO: So I've known this girl for about a year, first as acquaintances in the workplace, then as texting buddies, then we went on a date on the 26th March.
26 MARCH: we crashed this film festival drinks thing. we left early, then she agreed to a tour of my new apartment. She hung around in my room for a while. Whatever, I didn't make a move because I'm timid and she's four years older than me and I work with her and she has a boyfriend! Plus I'm petrified of rejection.
19 APRIL: 2nd date. I suggested a movie at the cinema but she counter-offers with "well, just download a movie and we'll watch it at your place" (she knows full well I don't have a living room – it's just a kitchen/dining room plus my room!) Then she says she'll bring the wine!
We start watching the movie, her sitting on my bed and me sitting on the only chair.
Then she says I look uncomfortable on my office chair (true) and that I should sit on the bed next to her (green light yet?) Then the movie gets too boring so we switch it off and I just play her various tunes on the computer and chat.
Then she lies down fully on my bed and says it's cold, then she actually gets under the covers. She's laughing at everything I say, punctuated by remarks about how cold she is. At this point I'm sitting on my chair at the foot of the bed, agonising about whether to join her on the bed. I'm actually in pain.
She tells me in female code that her boyfriend has no idea where she is tonight. If I had been listening properly I could have gotten that final green light...
she must have been under the covers on my bed for like 1.5 hours. Far out I feel like a ****ing idiot and I cannot stop thinking about it. This is the closest I have come to getting an f-close (don't judge). I was intimidated because she seems way out of my league. She is a legitimate 8, maybe I'd give her a 9 because she's six feet tall and I'm six foot seven (so hard to find an HB within acceptable range of my height).
She has been emailing me, starting off the email chains, ever since. Some texting too, but not every day.
Questions:
1) What should my plan of attack be?
1.5) Have I been friend-zoned?
2) What should our next date be, assuming she says yes?
3) Will she forgive me for being so timid?
4) What should I make of the fact that she's 26 going on 27, and I'm 22? I thought chicks only wanted older guys due to hypergamy?
5) What about her boyfriend? Should I risk being beaten up or whatever by some guy whose name sounds scary? What about my morals?
26 MARCH: we crashed this film festival drinks thing. we left early, then she agreed to a tour of my new apartment. She hung around in my room for a while. Whatever, I didn't make a move because I'm timid and she's four years older than me and I work with her and she has a boyfriend! Plus I'm petrified of rejection.
19 APRIL: 2nd date. I suggested a movie at the cinema but she counter-offers with "well, just download a movie and we'll watch it at your place" (she knows full well I don't have a living room – it's just a kitchen/dining room plus my room!) Then she says she'll bring the wine!
We start watching the movie, her sitting on my bed and me sitting on the only chair.
Then she says I look uncomfortable on my office chair (true) and that I should sit on the bed next to her (green light yet?) Then the movie gets too boring so we switch it off and I just play her various tunes on the computer and chat.
Then she lies down fully on my bed and says it's cold, then she actually gets under the covers. She's laughing at everything I say, punctuated by remarks about how cold she is. At this point I'm sitting on my chair at the foot of the bed, agonising about whether to join her on the bed. I'm actually in pain.
She tells me in female code that her boyfriend has no idea where she is tonight. If I had been listening properly I could have gotten that final green light...
she must have been under the covers on my bed for like 1.5 hours. Far out I feel like a ****ing idiot and I cannot stop thinking about it. This is the closest I have come to getting an f-close (don't judge). I was intimidated because she seems way out of my league. She is a legitimate 8, maybe I'd give her a 9 because she's six feet tall and I'm six foot seven (so hard to find an HB within acceptable range of my height).
She has been emailing me, starting off the email chains, ever since. Some texting too, but not every day.
Questions:
1) What should my plan of attack be?
1.5) Have I been friend-zoned?
2) What should our next date be, assuming she says yes?
3) Will she forgive me for being so timid?
4) What should I make of the fact that she's 26 going on 27, and I'm 22? I thought chicks only wanted older guys due to hypergamy?
5) What about her boyfriend? Should I risk being beaten up or whatever by some guy whose name sounds scary? What about my morals?
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