Do you have written goals that you are working on? Goals are huge, start setting goals for yourself, in personal and business life, and self-improvement.
You’re probably spending too much time by yourself. You’re probably overthinking life and trying to figure out what it’s all about (hint: stop trying to figure it out and just live it, enjoy it)..
Are you dating (did I miss this?), or pulling any girls at all? I mean, you're single, you should be at least having a weekly fling or something.
Sounds like you’re at that stage where you really don’t have many worries in your life and everything is very simple (too simple). While this is a good thing, it’s probably giving you too much idle time to just think about random ish and not really be wrapped up in something. Humans are always focused on that next biggest problem to worry about.. if you’re badly sick, all of your thoughts and worries will be consumed with this illness, and you keep telling yourself “oh I just can’t wait until I’m healthy, and everything will be fine.”
However, you get healthy, and then you realize you have that $10,000 bill to take care of and there is a deadline and now that’s all you’re focused on, “if I can just manage to pay this bill, everything will be fine.”
After you take care of that, your boss says that you have to make a huge presentation in front of everyone in your company, 600 people, and you have to do this 30 minute presentation. You’re all consumed in it! You’re worried, excited, terrified, thrilled, and you keep thinking about it and anticipating it and can’t wait to get it out of the way. As soon as you’re done with that “everything will be fine.”
Next you have a new boss at work and he is restructuring and some people will be laid off. He has talked to you a few times and inquired about what you do at work. This entire week, you keep thinking about it, and worrying if you’ll survive the restructuring and keep your job. You keep thinking, “if I get to keep my job, everything will be fine.”
Next your brother is in a car accident. You find out he’s badly hurt. You forget about any other worries, financial or personal, you don’t care about the job or the girl, you rush to the hospital and stay there for 3 days with your brother, and pray to God that he survives. You say, “once he is better, everything will be fine.”
The thing is, you always think once the things are back to “normal” that everything will be “fine.” However, we actually NEED to have things going on and things occupying us in order to FEEL; in order to STRIVE for something. I’m probably off on the exact number here, but I’ve heard that people that retire on average die within 3 years of retiring. The theory is that those people are pretty much “hanging ‘em up” and they have nothing else to live for, so they literally just die. That’s why you hear of some 90 and 100 year olds saying that they want to work until they die, because at least that way they are living for something and trying to accomplish something.
Purpose and goals are HUGE. You absolutely need them. I’ve seen people that spend too much time isolated by themselves and no real goals really change a lot and just become these mushy, low energy, excited about nothing, depressed people.
You say that “if you had a house”, you could invite your friends over, because your apartment is “too small”. I’m sorry, not to be rude, but this just sounds like an excuse and a “crutch”. I live in an apartment and have no problems inviting friends over. So what if it can get a little tight if you have too many people. And hell, you say that rents are “cheap” there, so rent a bigger damn apartment if that’s the issue! Lol, anyway, not trying to be mean, but common now. You pretty much brag about your money, you claim cheap rents and housing, put 2 and 2 together and get a large apartment if you can’t invite your friends to that one.
Oh, and did I mention dating? You didn’t say anything about it? You could be feeling a downer that you can’t find anyone to hang out with you. I don’t care how old you are, you can go out there and meet girls, many girls. You make decent money, have your own place, there is no excuse to not have at least some sort of dating life going on, even if it’s just casual and sex. Nothing wrong with it.
Once again, while your stress free life is not a problem, the downside of it is that it could become stagnant and you may lose all motivation to do anything else or get involved with anyone. Being around people usually makes people feel involved and be a part of something, so join some groups. Join toastmasters or different clubs, where you can improve yourself as well as meet cool people and also meet girls. As much as it may not seem like it will interest you, once you get in some social circles, you always get sucked in and things start to “matter”. You become more involved and feel like a part of something.
And don’t think you’re the first person who’s ever felt like this. Hell, just about any of us will feel like “is there something missing” at one time or another. Just get more involved and have more fun man. This sh*t goes by quick so get involved and have your fun, because it’ll be over before you know it lol. And you can also have goals when it comes to girls. Don’t tell other people that, of course, but you can have a goal to see a new girl every week (by “see” I mean actually do something with her, at least hang out, and not just look out of your window or “see” one on a website lol).
How about traveling? Take some trips to some cool places, and even though you have money, look for good deals online as there are ridiculous discounts on some solid vacations. You can pay $8,000 and stay in a sandals resort or you can find something for a $1,000 that is not much of a drop in quality (travelzoo and other websites often run great specials and you can get discounts of up to 70% off). You can take 8 of these trips (if you have enough time off) for the price of the other one (coming from a guy who’s done both extremes lol.. I definitely prefer the less expensive but still quality trips).
Of course, as always, I’m sure there is something in your post that you’re not really telling us that’s also playing a big role here. And that’s ok. Just realize, nothing is too serious, get involved, don’t be scared or worried, just get involved in things. Set goals and strive to achieve them. This will always keep you going towards something! Even when you achieve them, set NEW ones! Basically, always have a goal..
Bla bla bla.. you will be fine
