Craig Reeves
Master Don Juan
Yeah, I know a lot of people are going to hate me for this, but once a lot of y'all think, about 90% of what I'm about to say will ring true to you...the other 10% is speculation on my part.
Here we go....
This community's focus is so AFC-ish it's almost as if a lot of you have become even WEAKER and insecure than when you probably first came here!
I've read most of the DJ Bible, and there are parts that are really good, and very useful. Some of the 'must-read' articles are actually gems, and should be read by beginners to kind of get their feet wet.
The PROBLEM is, however, is that a lot of you guys in this community use the materials that you are taught FOR THE WRONG REASONS. And what's even worse, you TEACH OTHER GUYS to use these materials for these wrong reasons too.
A lot of y'all use the material that you have been taught for the SAME DAMN REASONS that an AFC would buy a woman flowers - to IMPRESS her, and make her APPROVE of him.
Basically, this is 95% of the community, and I hate to say it, but it's true.
They take these materials, learn them, and then go out and "spit their new game" as if what they learned here were MAGIC WORDS to magically impress a woman, make her think romantic thoughts about you, and get her in bed - MOST OF YOU GUYS ON HERE ARE CLUELESS, and that's period, end of story.
No you wonder why the hell a lot of you are frusterated, and starting to believe that it's just looks that create attraction (even though there's so many guys that come in here and say, "girls all say I'm good looking, but I just can't get a date."But what do I know?")
Meeting and dating women is not some TACTICAL skill that just takes a few magic words and a little bit of coming off as if your some un-interested badass. If you do ANYTHING to try to IMPRESS a woman and gain her approval, whether it be by being a "nice-guy", or trying to pull off your new "DJ Moves", SHE WILL SENSE IT INSTANTLY.
Women are not stupid, they know when you're over there TRYING to put on this "I'm a macho DJ" front to impress her and get her in bed. They know when you're over there trying to come off as if you're some kind of macho guy with your "ignoring tactics" and "neg-hits" to make her like you more. Trying to impress a woman is AFC behavior. DJ behavior is knowing that she is ALREADY impressed, or knowing that she WILL be impressed.
This is to about 95% of the community: Y'all are NOT DJ's, y'all are just AFC's with a few "DJ tricks" up your sleeves. Y'all are worse off than AFC's who have never even been to a site like this one, because at least they aren't LYING to themselves.
This is to the 5% of the community who are actually REAL DJ's: There's nothing that you can get from a community like this one. You know the only way that you are going to improve your game is to NOT listen to these other AFC's.
The difference between actually BEING a DJ and trying to LOOK LIKE ONE, is HUGE. The truth is, is that most of you DO NOT WANT TO BE REAL DJ's. Once you become a REAL DJ, all the "tactics" and "techniques" that you spent so much time learning will render useless to you and only get in the way of your true actions. Your heart will change, too. You will no longer just want to go out and get laid like some horny little pre-pubescant teenager. You're actually going to want to get to know a woman as a person first. Other guys will HATE you, because they DO NOT KNOW WHY YOU'RE GETTING SO MANY WOMEN SO EFFORTLESSLY.
DJ's don't go around always CALLING themselves DJ's and talking about how many women they've slept with or made want them. Whether you are a DJ is not based on how many women you've had sex with, OR how many have been attracted to you. It is based off of your feelings and WHAT GOES THROUGH YOUR MIND.
You will no longer TRULY be an AFC until your entire VISION changes. You will not be a TRUE DJ until you start KNOWING that each encounter with a woman is succesful, instead of trying to MAKE IT THAT WAY.
Once you become a DJ, you will be able to attract women just by being yourself and not resorting to "tactics" and "techniques".
True DJ's never try to IMPRESS a woman. A true DJ's only goal is to get to know a woman and have a good time with them. The problem a lot of you guys have is that your goals are to get her to want to have sex with you - THIS IS SEEKING APPROVAL! DJ's KNOW they have the ability to make a woman feel attraction, so their goals go BEYOND just wanting a one-night stand. A one night stand ISN'T ENOUGH for a TRUE DJ. Sex alone is value-less to a DJ (the more readily available something is, the less value it has), so his goals are going to be DIFFERENT.
Being a "player" and being a DJ are NOT the same thing.
Another problem, is that a lot of these "DJ's" are not willing to go out and learn new things by TRYING.....They either are too lazy, or they're mindset is "if it has not been said on sosuave.com then it must not be correct". I personally think that it is more often the first one.
So therefore, they don't even GO OUT and get a FEEL for how this all works. They just study and study and study.....HOPING for some quick fix to their questions instead of going out and getting a feel for this stuff on their own.
You can only learn so much from book or a website - about 90% of what I have learned has been from going out and actually SPENDING TIME with attractive women, not reading the DJ Bible or some other book.
And the worst part is...they come back over here and WONDER why the hell these "tactics" don't work....IT'S BECAUSE THE WRITER WAS PROBABLY AND AFC HIMSELF!
Some of the principles on this site are good, but they are being used in a way that HURTS them more than HELPS them. They're using these things as TACTICS to IMPRESS an attractive woman, and that's the WRONG WAY TO DO IT.
Attractive women can SMELL when you are treating them differently from any other woman. They can SMELL IT when you're trying to use TACTICS on them, because SO MANY GUYS DO.
ATTRACTIVE WOMEN DO NOT WANT YOU TO TREAT THEM ANY DIFFERENTLY THAN YOU WOULD TREAT ANY OTHER WOMAN, EVEN IF THEY SOMETIMES ACT LIKE THEY DO. YOU EITHER USE THESE "TACTICS" ON EVERY WOMAN, OR YOU DON'T USE THEM AT ALL!
Kino (non-sexual/friendly toucing) is great but it's not a "technique", it has to come NATURALLY. It has to become a part of your personality!
And the only way that it's going to become a part of your personality is if you use it on EVERYBODY, not just women that you are attracted to!
You use it on your female buddies, your female family members, and any other females you happen to get aquanted with. You either make KINO a part of your PERSONALITY, or you forget it ever existed, period.....and the same goes for C+F, too.
A lot of you guys derserve to get frusterated. It serves you right. You can't manipulate a woman, or use some kind of NLP crap (not unless you're an EXPERT) to impress a her and get herl in bed.
Unless you're lucky, or she's a slut, you ain't gonna get that girl in bed if your only goal is to get her in bed. Women ALWAYS KNOW YOUR INTENTIONS. They KNOW when you're trying to pick them up (there's nothing wrong with her thinking that initially, though).
They KNOW when you are trying to take advantage of them OR they're insecurities, and they KNOW what you want from them.
DJ's never TRY to get a girl in bed with them, they actually DO think in a completely DIFFERENT mindstate, not just try to make it LOOK like they do.
You can't be a DJ and a POSER at the same time......and about 95% of you need to learn that, or you're going to be stuck as AFC's for a long time to come.
And yes, that's my last topic. I'm through with this place...obviously REAL DJ's don't fit in real well around here...
Here we go....
This community's focus is so AFC-ish it's almost as if a lot of you have become even WEAKER and insecure than when you probably first came here!
I've read most of the DJ Bible, and there are parts that are really good, and very useful. Some of the 'must-read' articles are actually gems, and should be read by beginners to kind of get their feet wet.
The PROBLEM is, however, is that a lot of you guys in this community use the materials that you are taught FOR THE WRONG REASONS. And what's even worse, you TEACH OTHER GUYS to use these materials for these wrong reasons too.
A lot of y'all use the material that you have been taught for the SAME DAMN REASONS that an AFC would buy a woman flowers - to IMPRESS her, and make her APPROVE of him.
Basically, this is 95% of the community, and I hate to say it, but it's true.
They take these materials, learn them, and then go out and "spit their new game" as if what they learned here were MAGIC WORDS to magically impress a woman, make her think romantic thoughts about you, and get her in bed - MOST OF YOU GUYS ON HERE ARE CLUELESS, and that's period, end of story.
No you wonder why the hell a lot of you are frusterated, and starting to believe that it's just looks that create attraction (even though there's so many guys that come in here and say, "girls all say I'm good looking, but I just can't get a date."But what do I know?")
Meeting and dating women is not some TACTICAL skill that just takes a few magic words and a little bit of coming off as if your some un-interested badass. If you do ANYTHING to try to IMPRESS a woman and gain her approval, whether it be by being a "nice-guy", or trying to pull off your new "DJ Moves", SHE WILL SENSE IT INSTANTLY.
Women are not stupid, they know when you're over there TRYING to put on this "I'm a macho DJ" front to impress her and get her in bed. They know when you're over there trying to come off as if you're some kind of macho guy with your "ignoring tactics" and "neg-hits" to make her like you more. Trying to impress a woman is AFC behavior. DJ behavior is knowing that she is ALREADY impressed, or knowing that she WILL be impressed.
This is to about 95% of the community: Y'all are NOT DJ's, y'all are just AFC's with a few "DJ tricks" up your sleeves. Y'all are worse off than AFC's who have never even been to a site like this one, because at least they aren't LYING to themselves.
This is to the 5% of the community who are actually REAL DJ's: There's nothing that you can get from a community like this one. You know the only way that you are going to improve your game is to NOT listen to these other AFC's.
The difference between actually BEING a DJ and trying to LOOK LIKE ONE, is HUGE. The truth is, is that most of you DO NOT WANT TO BE REAL DJ's. Once you become a REAL DJ, all the "tactics" and "techniques" that you spent so much time learning will render useless to you and only get in the way of your true actions. Your heart will change, too. You will no longer just want to go out and get laid like some horny little pre-pubescant teenager. You're actually going to want to get to know a woman as a person first. Other guys will HATE you, because they DO NOT KNOW WHY YOU'RE GETTING SO MANY WOMEN SO EFFORTLESSLY.
DJ's don't go around always CALLING themselves DJ's and talking about how many women they've slept with or made want them. Whether you are a DJ is not based on how many women you've had sex with, OR how many have been attracted to you. It is based off of your feelings and WHAT GOES THROUGH YOUR MIND.
You will no longer TRULY be an AFC until your entire VISION changes. You will not be a TRUE DJ until you start KNOWING that each encounter with a woman is succesful, instead of trying to MAKE IT THAT WAY.
Once you become a DJ, you will be able to attract women just by being yourself and not resorting to "tactics" and "techniques".
True DJ's never try to IMPRESS a woman. A true DJ's only goal is to get to know a woman and have a good time with them. The problem a lot of you guys have is that your goals are to get her to want to have sex with you - THIS IS SEEKING APPROVAL! DJ's KNOW they have the ability to make a woman feel attraction, so their goals go BEYOND just wanting a one-night stand. A one night stand ISN'T ENOUGH for a TRUE DJ. Sex alone is value-less to a DJ (the more readily available something is, the less value it has), so his goals are going to be DIFFERENT.
Being a "player" and being a DJ are NOT the same thing.
Another problem, is that a lot of these "DJ's" are not willing to go out and learn new things by TRYING.....They either are too lazy, or they're mindset is "if it has not been said on sosuave.com then it must not be correct". I personally think that it is more often the first one.
So therefore, they don't even GO OUT and get a FEEL for how this all works. They just study and study and study.....HOPING for some quick fix to their questions instead of going out and getting a feel for this stuff on their own.
You can only learn so much from book or a website - about 90% of what I have learned has been from going out and actually SPENDING TIME with attractive women, not reading the DJ Bible or some other book.
And the worst part is...they come back over here and WONDER why the hell these "tactics" don't work....IT'S BECAUSE THE WRITER WAS PROBABLY AND AFC HIMSELF!
Some of the principles on this site are good, but they are being used in a way that HURTS them more than HELPS them. They're using these things as TACTICS to IMPRESS an attractive woman, and that's the WRONG WAY TO DO IT.
Attractive women can SMELL when you are treating them differently from any other woman. They can SMELL IT when you're trying to use TACTICS on them, because SO MANY GUYS DO.
ATTRACTIVE WOMEN DO NOT WANT YOU TO TREAT THEM ANY DIFFERENTLY THAN YOU WOULD TREAT ANY OTHER WOMAN, EVEN IF THEY SOMETIMES ACT LIKE THEY DO. YOU EITHER USE THESE "TACTICS" ON EVERY WOMAN, OR YOU DON'T USE THEM AT ALL!
Kino (non-sexual/friendly toucing) is great but it's not a "technique", it has to come NATURALLY. It has to become a part of your personality!
And the only way that it's going to become a part of your personality is if you use it on EVERYBODY, not just women that you are attracted to!
You use it on your female buddies, your female family members, and any other females you happen to get aquanted with. You either make KINO a part of your PERSONALITY, or you forget it ever existed, period.....and the same goes for C+F, too.
A lot of you guys derserve to get frusterated. It serves you right. You can't manipulate a woman, or use some kind of NLP crap (not unless you're an EXPERT) to impress a her and get herl in bed.
Unless you're lucky, or she's a slut, you ain't gonna get that girl in bed if your only goal is to get her in bed. Women ALWAYS KNOW YOUR INTENTIONS. They KNOW when you're trying to pick them up (there's nothing wrong with her thinking that initially, though).
They KNOW when you are trying to take advantage of them OR they're insecurities, and they KNOW what you want from them.
DJ's never TRY to get a girl in bed with them, they actually DO think in a completely DIFFERENT mindstate, not just try to make it LOOK like they do.
You can't be a DJ and a POSER at the same time......and about 95% of you need to learn that, or you're going to be stuck as AFC's for a long time to come.
And yes, that's my last topic. I'm through with this place...obviously REAL DJ's don't fit in real well around here...
