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A word on chicks, cars, confidence! I did an experiment.

909pua

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Ya all these guys have a point. Its who you are, not what you have. I got a sh#tty car that I drive around and still I conversate with girls everywhere I go. I forgot who made the post in here but in the end, its all about how you make a girl feel, not what you have in your possession, that will attract her towards you. So far this is what I'm learning that you MUST have in order to attract a girl from order of most importance:

1. Confidence (being able to make her laugh and make her feel good)
2. Patience (Not being needy)
3. Good Looking (The way you dress, working out, nice body, toned, handsome, etc)

I'm learning if you are not good with at least one of them, you must work REALLY HARD on the other two. This is not to say that if you have don't have number 3, you can't get girls, you have to have number 1 and 2 DOWN like you are like some pro at it. Ultimately, if you don't have number 1, having number 2 or 3 or not won't matter because you will emit to them that you are some kind of creep. If you have all 3 qualities and you are a master of all 3, then getting girls is much easier for you.
 

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Pimp-sicle said:
Keep living in your rap video world, hoping a girl lands in your lap. I'll be the guy talking to her at the bar while your polishing your friend's BMW in the parking lot.
I enjoy the way you think. It's kind of like my own thought process before I leap in for a kill.

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True confidence comes from within. External confidence from luxury cars can only last so long and plus you make an identity attachment to it.girls will see the car and then you, not you then the car. The types of girls you would be attracting are the low quality ones that seek wealth by sleeping with a rich guy. I'd say the car alone can pick up the chicks by itself with out your help. Anyways I thought being a dj or having game was not relying on external materialistic things to get you women. Doesn't this contradict what being a don Juan is. I am not gonna lie having a nice car does attract attention, I drove Nissan gtr only to test drive and see the handling from my friend from new jersey to new York and I got a lot of looks. Am pretty sure the girls didn't know what power and speed the pacific muscle car had. The little confidence boost I had during the ride felt fake it wasn't legit, but I would sure love to own one for personal reasons not for chicks.
 

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Makes me wanna restore my '78 monte carlo more ;)

apparently Driving around in that old car gave me a badass vibe, it's been stripped to the metal, but I lost my job and funding for it :( It's been a while since i worked on it.

sure, it's no beemer, but its unique, no?

I got it on 15x8 and 15x11 cragar ss's with 295's. woulda preffered 14" 100spoke, but whatever, got these cheap.
 

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When I was in the Air Force living on base and got my BMW I got more play in the 4 months after getting that car than the previous 3 years combined, and I wasn't that bad with women back then either so the results were quite staggering. Chicks dig status and a nice car is a solid demonstration of such.
 

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Nutz said:
When I was in the Air Force living on base and got my BMW I got more play in the 4 months after getting that car than the previous 3 years combined, and I wasn't that bad with women back then either so the results were quite staggering. Chicks dig status and a nice car is a solid demonstration of such.
Hey, you might be right about this but anyone in this forum, any DJ, I don't think we want chicks wanting us for what we got but rather for who we are...
 

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909pua said:
Hey, you might be right about this but anyone in this forum, any DJ, I don't think we want chicks wanting us for what we got but rather for who we are...
If you're looking for someone to date, then sure. But if you just want some action, well, poon is poon. Doesn't matter if you get it from your winning personality or flashing your status. If it works then that's all that really matters.
 

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Living downtown, I don't even own a car. Neither should
the type of car you have be the source of your confidence.

If you can't heighten your own perceived value without
the support of material possessions, then you've got
work to do.
 

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Nutz said:
If you're looking for someone to date, then sure. But if you just want some action, well, poon is poon. Doesn't matter if you get it from your winning personality or flashing your status. If it works then that's all that really matters.
Very true. Someone should give this guy a medal.

If most guys understood this, there would be no need for these redundant "does ________ matters?" threads.
 

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Nutz said:
If you're looking for someone to date, then sure. But if you just want some action, well, poon is poon. Doesn't matter if you get it from your winning personality or flashing your status. If it works then that's all that really matters.

I guess you got me on this one. I guess it really depends on what you want from the girl. If you want them for LTR, then yes, my statement applies. If not, and just for fvck here and there, then either statement applies...nuff said
 

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Igetit! said:
This sounds like the old "bait and switch" to me.


It reminds me of that reality dating show "Average Joe" where 20 or 25 women compete for a guy who they have been told is a millionaire,but in reality he's just a construction worker and is no where near being a millionaire,lol.

The only question I have for you Nismo-4 is.....

You got a BMW I can borrow? LOL....:crackup:

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I laughed so f**king kard!!! I'm trying to step up to a Bentley or Rolls-Royce! I'm looking to move to Texas (Dallas/ Fort Worth/ Flower Mound). Or at least get a house out there! Go Cowboys!

BTW that reality dating show you spoke of is Not "Average Joe," but "Joe Millionaire!" The guy's name was Evan Marriott.

And thanks for repping!
 

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Vice said:
Fools.

If you rely on a car to get women, you need serious work on your inner game.

The higher class the car, the higher class the confidence that comes with it!

You can't bring a car into the club.

Duh. That's why you stunt and floss while using a few push pull moves and have fun doing it! Watch the line where the girls are outside and you can pull them, no effort involved!

Most of the time you meet women, your car won't be around. Then what?

If you got a sexy ass car, you'll have a sexy ass swag! You really won't give a surfing f**k if a girlk turn you down cuz when you're back in your car, you know you'll be getting plenty of female attention, day in and day out! Take your pick!

All you're going to attract is unhealthy women.

WTF? Bullsh*t! You'll attract more, some people who got money are just plain stupid! They flash cash as a last ditch effort or as a 100% form of attracting women. That makes women's eyes turn into dollar signs.

But if you already have women attracted to you, and you pick her up for the first date in a nice car and don't act like it's a big deal (which it certainly isn't), that'll work for you MUCH better.

You proved my point here.

That being said, I'm looking for a '69 Mustang myself. I don't care about engine size or speed, it just needs to be clean and in good mechanical condition.

Sounds like you want to get a woman to have a 69! :crackup: When I get into da 69, I do 21 point inspections to make sure that these women can perform well and are clean.
Read bet- You know already!
 

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PappyS said:
newer model luxury cars will set you back $ 40, 50, 60, 100,000. A lot of the people showing off nice cars are really broke and in debt. Guys go broke trying to impress women.
If you're self-employed, it could be considered an "investment" that would pay it self off. A Luxury Car has the same effect on potential clients, as it does on Women. A Real Estate Broker named Robert Ringer wrote a book called "Winning Through Intimidation" that details the increased leverage one gains by acquiring with material possessions. BTW, most people wouldn't be able to tell the difference between a 2005 S550 and a 2010 S550. So having the newest model doesn't really matter, as long as the car appears new (clean)
JCballin88 said:
Haha not a bad idea. Except what are you going to do when you hang out with the girls you #-closed and you are back in the Grand Am?
He could have them meet up at a Hotel, and say he's from another city, and simply traveling on business.
Prodigy746 said:
So lets say you pick up a HOT girl w your BMW and you manage to convince her to come to your place. So you bring your BMW in front of a crappy house or an apartment complex... I wold love to see the look on her face. I know you could always take her to a expensive hotel room but cmon who wants to pay 140-200 for a expensive hotel room.
You can lease an office downtown, and pretend to be a CEO. 200 Sq ft. Offices can be leased for only $200-300 a month.
Prodigy746 said:
In conclusion , having a nice car might help you now but it will hurt you in the long run since you will be depended on the car. You will only attract gold diggers and sluts. If you are going for that than by all means go spend all your money on a BMW. As for me i will stick to my honda and work on my game so i can get a good girl that cares about me, not what kind of metal i got in my garage.
Very flawed logic. If you pull up to a Church in a nice car, it will have the same effect on these so-called "Good Girls".
 

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When I leave a club or bar with a girl it's normally in a taxi. She has no idea that I drive a 96 bonneville, but she's already decided she's going to **** me when she decides to come to my place. A car helps if you fail at opening women and just want money grubbing *****s to open to you, but once they find out you aren't what they thought they'll leave. How long can you keep the facade? Long enough to get a **** close?
 

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"But she don't wanna fvck me, She wanna fvck my Car!"

Looks like that car is a fvckin PIMP

lol i find that quite interesting. This info is nothin new, but it's always funny when it comes up
It goes to show what type of chicks go to the club. The club and the like is ALL superficial. You can't really game a chick in the club unless you isolate her. It's loud as sh1t and she can't hear you. So what does she have to go on? Superficial things....Looks,Clothes,money,cars etc. This is the way of the club, you got these things and you got chicks plain and simple.

But the sad truth is that most people cannot afford cars like that just to get women. So i'm guessing nice clothes have a similar effect no?

either that or insane dance skills
 

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Wow, so you boys just figured out that money means something to girls?

Being perceived as having more money than the guys around you will get you any girl you see for the most part. Girls are not attracted to your abs (gay men are!). They are attracted to a purse or a new pair of shoes that they can't afford. Watch girls shop. They look at clothing the way you look at porn. Money is actually more important for their needs than yours. Give one of you slobs sex, a tv, a sleeping bag, and a XBox and you would be happy. A girl, on the other hand, wants a list of things that will cost you.

Nice car, an American passport in many countries, or a well-paying job will get you more girls than nice abs or a good personality ever will. Hey, I don't write the rules. Those are the facts though. Girls are turned on by things other than YOU.

Cars? Uh, in America you can find some amazing deals if you look. Older Ferrari's are actually pretty cheap if you look around. You would be amazed at early 80's Ferrari's that are in good condition and going for less than most new American made SUV's. The problem is that Ferrari's are a pain in the ass. Super high maintenance. Definitely should be a weekend car to have fun in. They are not reliable. Funny to me though that people hear the name and they think that you have to plunk down $150,000 or more to own one! Nothing could be more false than that.
 

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Yes bottomline its who you are, but the thing is and the point where you guys are wrong is believing even for a second that what you have does not define who you are when infact it fundamentally does to such a degree that it should be obvious even to any of you.

Its called being the full package deal. You have cash, you have a crib, you have a car and you have your top notch conversation skills. All of which should be befitting to a high status male. Some of you may feel ok driving a hoopdee but as a man I like to own the road and have a vehicle befitting of that.

That means BMW. To some it means Benz, to other Cadillac, whatever. Just remember who you are trying to attract. Me personally I like to get the dimes that you see out there. I like her because of her beauty and she brings that to my life, she likes me because I ball and have nice things, I bring that aspect to her life, its a symbiotic relationship that begins with the superficial.

Trust me like attracts like. If you want a the dimes you have to be what they want, thats good looking/muscular/well dressed/have nice things. That doesnt mean you have to spend money on the b1tch. In the end she should still be buying you drinks and providing things even if you have alot already.
 

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Julian said:
Yes bottomline its who you are, but the thing is and the point where you guys are wrong is believing even for a second that what you have does not define who you are when infact it fundamentally does to such a degree that it should be obvious even to any of you.

Its called being the full package deal. You have cash, you have a crib, you have a car and you have your top notch conversation skills. All of which should be befitting to a high status male. Some of you may feel ok driving a hoopdee but as a man I like to own the road and have a vehicle befitting of that.

That means BMW. To some it means Benz, to other Cadillac, whatever. Just remember who you are trying to attract. Me personally I like to get the dimes that you see out there. I like her because of her beauty and she brings at to my life, she likes me because I ball and have nice things, I bring that aspect to her life, its a symbiotic relationship that begins with the superficial.

Trust me like attracts like. If you want a the dimes you have to be what they want, thats good looking/muscular/well dressed/have nice things. That doesnt mean you have to spend money on the b1tch. In the end she should still be buying you drinks and providing things even if you have alot already.
Exactly...repped. My cousin has this all and this is the reason he had broads all over (he traveled a lot for a while). He could pull into most cities/small towns. Pick up up action with out much effort at all. At one point a newspaper from a small town even wrote an article about his supped up '98 Mustang Cobra tearing up the strees lmao. (shows how boring that place was haha)

When I drove his red Ford Lightning with chrome 20s, I was breaking necks when I drove past people, especially when I stepped out flipping up the lambo style doors. It's a good way to get your foot in the door. Rest is up to the guy though :)
 

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Let's take a step back here and look at the big picture.

The key to initial attraction is that a guy must demonstrate high value

There are many ways to demonstrate high value

Though there are other ways, an easy way to do so is to drive a flashy car, it is visible to all.

Now here is the kicker.

Girls need as much confirmation as possible that you are a high value male. Therefore they will make sure that your actions and words are congruent.

If you drive a flashy car (high value male), but then act submissive around her (low value male), then your actions are no longer congruent with your flashy car and you will get docked heavily for it.

In that situation, the girl will only think about using you for your money, not loving you.

So to sum up, having a flashy car can help your game, but it is definitely not enough, and in fact a flashy car is optional if you have other ways to demonstrate high value.
 
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