I'm about to be reunited with a fling, what would you do...
I'm a traveling musician, and had this fling with a traveling model. We only had a month to date before she was to leave. We dated for two weeks, and I had an AFC relapse and let my emotional control slip. I foolishly had tried to rush things as I really got caught up in her beauty and knew I had little time. My mistake, I've learned from it and now it's been fixed.
She broke it off after those two weeks, the night after almost having sex. She has a boyfriend back home and claims the guilt was too much for her.
She had said she won't come to my club anymore. One week later, some of her friends come in, and I discover she's waiting for them downstairs almost 45 minutes. Later, I pull her up on MSN and say this isn't necessary, I don't care anymore, don't dodge the club for my sake. I've already been dating someone else and that we can act like adults about this.
She comes in a few days later, and I take her home and **** her like mad for about two hours. So I'm her second EVER and first ever to have cheated on her bf, despite her infinite opportunities. Quote just before sex: "Now you see why I haven't been coming to the club?" So my indifference won her back bigtime.
But then on her last week, post-sex, she avoids me again, passing on a dinner offer and another night together. And I really had to go out of my way to say goodbye on her last night, which I realize came off AFC. She showed no emotion, but says that she will miss "this" meaning us I gather.
So she's gone home, and we've been having a Mexican standoff on MSN for 3 weeks, where both of us see each other online but neither will initiate chat. I figure she has to do it first if there's any IL remaining...so at least I keep some dignity.
So if we are geographically separated, what's the point you ask???
The trick is that I just found out coincidentally that both of our next jobs will be in the same country and city again. We'll have three months there. She's not aware of this yet, and it's inevitable she'll see me at the new club. I won't chase her all over the Internet, I sense it would erode my chances later if I don't get some distance now. It worked before!
I can keep the emotions out this time, and can handle this in a DJ manner if I get another spin at it. I WILL have control next time around. My plan is to keep the stalemate on MSN unless SHE initiates, and go for the surprise/nostalgia ticket when we run into each other there.
I CAN just drop her, as I have been dating again here, but I know she will engage me in some capacity when we get there. I would like another go at her, even if it's all physical. If it becomes something more later, great but I don't feel I need it anymore and can let things be natural. What would you do?
I'm a traveling musician, and had this fling with a traveling model. We only had a month to date before she was to leave. We dated for two weeks, and I had an AFC relapse and let my emotional control slip. I foolishly had tried to rush things as I really got caught up in her beauty and knew I had little time. My mistake, I've learned from it and now it's been fixed.
She broke it off after those two weeks, the night after almost having sex. She has a boyfriend back home and claims the guilt was too much for her.
She had said she won't come to my club anymore. One week later, some of her friends come in, and I discover she's waiting for them downstairs almost 45 minutes. Later, I pull her up on MSN and say this isn't necessary, I don't care anymore, don't dodge the club for my sake. I've already been dating someone else and that we can act like adults about this.
She comes in a few days later, and I take her home and **** her like mad for about two hours. So I'm her second EVER and first ever to have cheated on her bf, despite her infinite opportunities. Quote just before sex: "Now you see why I haven't been coming to the club?" So my indifference won her back bigtime.
But then on her last week, post-sex, she avoids me again, passing on a dinner offer and another night together. And I really had to go out of my way to say goodbye on her last night, which I realize came off AFC. She showed no emotion, but says that she will miss "this" meaning us I gather.
So she's gone home, and we've been having a Mexican standoff on MSN for 3 weeks, where both of us see each other online but neither will initiate chat. I figure she has to do it first if there's any IL remaining...so at least I keep some dignity.
So if we are geographically separated, what's the point you ask???
The trick is that I just found out coincidentally that both of our next jobs will be in the same country and city again. We'll have three months there. She's not aware of this yet, and it's inevitable she'll see me at the new club. I won't chase her all over the Internet, I sense it would erode my chances later if I don't get some distance now. It worked before!
I can keep the emotions out this time, and can handle this in a DJ manner if I get another spin at it. I WILL have control next time around. My plan is to keep the stalemate on MSN unless SHE initiates, and go for the surprise/nostalgia ticket when we run into each other there.
I CAN just drop her, as I have been dating again here, but I know she will engage me in some capacity when we get there. I would like another go at her, even if it's all physical. If it becomes something more later, great but I don't feel I need it anymore and can let things be natural. What would you do?
