Aristippus
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5string said:Very true but, the resposibility should not extend to the result of someone else's bad judgment. I'm just gonna do him this favor and let it go at that.
5string. Exactly! One thing that I hear talked about most of the time is man's responsibilities and women's and children's "entitlements". You never hear people talking about women's and children's responsibilities and men's rights.
It needs to go both ways otherwise you're simply a man carrying dead weight with you while battling with the outside world just to make ends meet. The family simply becomes a boat anchor around your neck making the battle 10 times harder.
There has to be give on both sides. It shouldn't be a situation where the man is expected to make most of the sacrifices while the woman gets to live on Easy Street. Stand your ground, law down the law, and don't fall for the trap that you have to make most of the sacrifices while the woman simply sits there and doles out more responsibilities and tasks for you.
It's funny how in many marriages, while the woman's responsibilities either stay the same or are reduced, many women will gladly try to pile on more responsibilities and more items on the man's "honey-do" list, all in the name of him being more "responsible", as if he isn't already being responsible by keeping her up and handling other things at home.
Your only duty as a man is to provide food and a safe home for your woman and any minor children. THAT IS IT! Anything beyond that is optional. And even then, for providing a home and safety, your family should be thankful and appreciative.
Rewarding someone else's bad judgement will not solve the problem. In this case, of course you make the exception for the sake of the grankid's health. Just limit your help to life or death situations or situations where the grandchild's health and well-being are at risk. No assistance beyond that for the parents. Aim any assistance at the grandchildren and only in the most dire situations.
p.s. Unfortunately, if there's a pattern of lazy and worthless children, it's likely the mother is to blame. Even if she isn't lazy, a mother who coddles her offspring and never allows them to see the consequences of bad judgement, and gives them too much, is a big part of the problem. Sounds like Mr. 5string is going to have to lay down some rules.