Gentlemen,
After several weeks of trying out new concepts of my own, I've come to a conclusion on "DJism". Firstly, this is my personal experience, what works for me, will not necessarily work for you. But understand this gentlemen, what I hope to achieve here is something that will spark you off. A lot of the esteemed posters here seem to have views that make many here gasp. Pook's Be a Man, Fingers' WOMS etc etc. In all the esteemed posters, there is one common trait, and that is - they went out there. To do what, you may ask?
Certainly to try to get better with women, but at the same time, for them, it was a journey of self-discovery. Where they became the men they wanted to be. Pook's ideals of a man are not and will never be YOUR ideals of a man. What I have to tell you now applies to me, but YOU must go out there and discover yourself. However, in everyone's pereption of a man, we must have got these perceptions from somewhere - be it movie stars, pop idols, faith, etc.
But I'm here to tell you to be YOUR OWN MAN. Don't follow ideals blindly. But there are universal truths in men that you should follow. Let me give you my experience in the last couple of months. As I DJed...and improved, my head swelled. Be very careful of arrogance. Even if you employ c&f, be extremely sure to NOT BE ARROGANT. Even in jokes, arrogance is worthless. Instead, be respectful, and kind. You can still make your viewpoints known in a calm voice, without the "i'm the king of the world mentality". Plus - the "i dont give a f*ck" mentality, in my experience is utter rubbish. If you didnt give a f*ck, you wouldn't be improving. So accept, gentlemen, that you do give a f*ck. You do give a f*ck about people. You care about them, no matter who they are, and you will be humble. But never so timid as to have them take advantage of you. Never let anyone take advantage. Simply, be kind. Put your foot down if anyone wants to take advantage.
What I've learnt is this - arrogance, c&f etc.. basically seduction, is worthless. You need to discover who you are, and what you are here for, work on those. The qualities of a man. For a man is not judged on the size of his biceps or ego, but on his valour. How many of you know what true valour is? Gentlemen, I appeal to you today, to journey out and learn that an empathy for all, yet a subtle aura of strength and dominance is what you must strive for. Not seduction. Teasing, and having fun is ok though
Finally, there is a post in the DJ Discussion "Confessions of a SNAG" that you may want to check out. The last part of the post, especially the words highlighted by TillTheEndOfTime, have great significance and relevance to what I'm trying to highlight.
Now go out, and learn, gentlemen. Don't waste a moment longer.
After several weeks of trying out new concepts of my own, I've come to a conclusion on "DJism". Firstly, this is my personal experience, what works for me, will not necessarily work for you. But understand this gentlemen, what I hope to achieve here is something that will spark you off. A lot of the esteemed posters here seem to have views that make many here gasp. Pook's Be a Man, Fingers' WOMS etc etc. In all the esteemed posters, there is one common trait, and that is - they went out there. To do what, you may ask?
Certainly to try to get better with women, but at the same time, for them, it was a journey of self-discovery. Where they became the men they wanted to be. Pook's ideals of a man are not and will never be YOUR ideals of a man. What I have to tell you now applies to me, but YOU must go out there and discover yourself. However, in everyone's pereption of a man, we must have got these perceptions from somewhere - be it movie stars, pop idols, faith, etc.
But I'm here to tell you to be YOUR OWN MAN. Don't follow ideals blindly. But there are universal truths in men that you should follow. Let me give you my experience in the last couple of months. As I DJed...and improved, my head swelled. Be very careful of arrogance. Even if you employ c&f, be extremely sure to NOT BE ARROGANT. Even in jokes, arrogance is worthless. Instead, be respectful, and kind. You can still make your viewpoints known in a calm voice, without the "i'm the king of the world mentality". Plus - the "i dont give a f*ck" mentality, in my experience is utter rubbish. If you didnt give a f*ck, you wouldn't be improving. So accept, gentlemen, that you do give a f*ck. You do give a f*ck about people. You care about them, no matter who they are, and you will be humble. But never so timid as to have them take advantage of you. Never let anyone take advantage. Simply, be kind. Put your foot down if anyone wants to take advantage.
What I've learnt is this - arrogance, c&f etc.. basically seduction, is worthless. You need to discover who you are, and what you are here for, work on those. The qualities of a man. For a man is not judged on the size of his biceps or ego, but on his valour. How many of you know what true valour is? Gentlemen, I appeal to you today, to journey out and learn that an empathy for all, yet a subtle aura of strength and dominance is what you must strive for. Not seduction. Teasing, and having fun is ok though
Finally, there is a post in the DJ Discussion "Confessions of a SNAG" that you may want to check out. The last part of the post, especially the words highlighted by TillTheEndOfTime, have great significance and relevance to what I'm trying to highlight.
Now go out, and learn, gentlemen. Don't waste a moment longer.
