Mercury21
Don Juan
One of the biggest mistkes that aspiring djs commit, is that they think to be a true DJ, they must spark up the interest of every girl they come in contact with. Weather they actually have some interest in that girl or not, weather she is pretty or ugly...doesn't matter, they want her to like him atleast in some way. So he will try out his developing Dj techniques on her, and if she doesn't respond, he feels like a loser!
No! What you must understand first and foremost is this: Your goal is not to make the world fall in love with you. This will never happen anyway, not if you were the master of all the master Djs, all of us here rolled into one.
Second, you must not base your success and failures on weather or not a girl was interested in you. We talk about it all the time here, but still it seems that most guys just can't understand it: You will have more girls not like you than you will have like you. And that is just plain normal. Remember Michael Jordan? There is a famous quote of his where he says something like, " In my lifetime, I have missed thousands and thousands of shots, lost hundreds and hundreds of games, let my team down in the last few seconds of the game countless numbers of times. But without all that, I would not have become the player I am today."
So yes, you are more likely to be rejected and treated with an uninterested mood than you are to have girls giving you all the right buying signals every time. Just learn to deal with it!
With women, you must always look at every situation as a win/win scenario. If you get with her, great! You can say that is a win. But if you don't get with her, that is a win to. What? Yes, a win! Because you have, or should have, walked away with experience. A knowledge of what to do and not to do next time. Plus, that is one step closer in your quest to not be afraid to talk to women anymore. And that, my friends, is a big win!
So, don't think to prove to yourself that you are a stud, you must somehow make every girl who crosses your path fall head over heals for you. Sometimes you will have nothing but ugly girls interested in you while the pretty ones seem to want nothing to do with you. Other times you will have incredible babes all over you, while, for some reason you can't understand, that not quite so good looking cashier keeps snubing you. That is just how things go in life.
You don' know these girls. Any number of things could be going on in their heads: They could be having a bad day. They could be worried about something at home/school/work. They may be really interested and caught up in somebody else. All these reasons and more would make a girl act like she doesn't like you, no matter what you do. But it's not a reflection of what kind of guys you are.
What you must do, as a Don Juan, is simply not care. Don't expect them all to like you. Infact, don't even try to make them all like you. Never quite focus all of your energy on just one girl, but at the same time, don't base your success rate on how many of them actually went out with you.
Just remember, as Pook once said, that you are the Great Catch. Love yourself first above anybody else. And never, never degrade yourself for any woman.
As soon as you stop worring about weather they are all liking you or not, you will begin to spot,and react to, all those great opportunities that always seem to just pass you by!
No! What you must understand first and foremost is this: Your goal is not to make the world fall in love with you. This will never happen anyway, not if you were the master of all the master Djs, all of us here rolled into one.
Second, you must not base your success and failures on weather or not a girl was interested in you. We talk about it all the time here, but still it seems that most guys just can't understand it: You will have more girls not like you than you will have like you. And that is just plain normal. Remember Michael Jordan? There is a famous quote of his where he says something like, " In my lifetime, I have missed thousands and thousands of shots, lost hundreds and hundreds of games, let my team down in the last few seconds of the game countless numbers of times. But without all that, I would not have become the player I am today."
So yes, you are more likely to be rejected and treated with an uninterested mood than you are to have girls giving you all the right buying signals every time. Just learn to deal with it!
With women, you must always look at every situation as a win/win scenario. If you get with her, great! You can say that is a win. But if you don't get with her, that is a win to. What? Yes, a win! Because you have, or should have, walked away with experience. A knowledge of what to do and not to do next time. Plus, that is one step closer in your quest to not be afraid to talk to women anymore. And that, my friends, is a big win!
So, don't think to prove to yourself that you are a stud, you must somehow make every girl who crosses your path fall head over heals for you. Sometimes you will have nothing but ugly girls interested in you while the pretty ones seem to want nothing to do with you. Other times you will have incredible babes all over you, while, for some reason you can't understand, that not quite so good looking cashier keeps snubing you. That is just how things go in life.
You don' know these girls. Any number of things could be going on in their heads: They could be having a bad day. They could be worried about something at home/school/work. They may be really interested and caught up in somebody else. All these reasons and more would make a girl act like she doesn't like you, no matter what you do. But it's not a reflection of what kind of guys you are.
What you must do, as a Don Juan, is simply not care. Don't expect them all to like you. Infact, don't even try to make them all like you. Never quite focus all of your energy on just one girl, but at the same time, don't base your success rate on how many of them actually went out with you.
Just remember, as Pook once said, that you are the Great Catch. Love yourself first above anybody else. And never, never degrade yourself for any woman.
As soon as you stop worring about weather they are all liking you or not, you will begin to spot,and react to, all those great opportunities that always seem to just pass you by!
