I have seen this written about before on this here, and read about it in The Rational Male. I think I know my answer, but looking for advice on this particular situation.
I met this hb6.5 or 7 from match:
-go on first date, dance karakoe, makeout, part ways. Both had good fun.
-second date, she drives 45 mins to my place for dinner and movie. We make dinner, watch movie, I escalate as hard as I can, work through LMR several times, back and forth but to no avail. Only got dry humping and feeling through clothes. No clothes come off. She eventually says she has to go and take care of her dog. I go to bed with blue balls.
Now I was planning on just ignoring this girl and pursuing others. Maybe try for date 3 at her place later and escalate again.
I get a text from her today asking if I had her sweatshirt, and saying "hopefully you want to see me again".
I respond with: "sure, whats you week look like"
She responds:
"im free bla bla bla"
I agree to a time.
And she adds:
"and, I think you probably got this on friday, but I want to take it SLOW so I hope thats ok with you"
I feel like I've been trapped. I agree to a date, then she tells me she doesnt want to bang.
I teased her some and said "just to let you know, i dont put out until at least 10 dates"
she says
"well i guess I can wait, I am more like a 7 date kind of gal"
Now, mind you, this girl has told me she partied hard in her early 20's (she is 30) and did coke and such. That itself does not bother me, but you know partying hard=banging dudes with reckless abandon. Again, no problem except now you want to make me wait?
Should I just eject now? I am actively pursuing other girls as well, but was hoping to keep her in the rotation. Do I go to her place for date 3 and proceed like I never got that text?
I need insight.
Thank you.
I met this hb6.5 or 7 from match:
-go on first date, dance karakoe, makeout, part ways. Both had good fun.
-second date, she drives 45 mins to my place for dinner and movie. We make dinner, watch movie, I escalate as hard as I can, work through LMR several times, back and forth but to no avail. Only got dry humping and feeling through clothes. No clothes come off. She eventually says she has to go and take care of her dog. I go to bed with blue balls.
Now I was planning on just ignoring this girl and pursuing others. Maybe try for date 3 at her place later and escalate again.
I get a text from her today asking if I had her sweatshirt, and saying "hopefully you want to see me again".
I respond with: "sure, whats you week look like"
She responds:
"im free bla bla bla"
I agree to a time.
And she adds:
"and, I think you probably got this on friday, but I want to take it SLOW so I hope thats ok with you"
I feel like I've been trapped. I agree to a date, then she tells me she doesnt want to bang.
I teased her some and said "just to let you know, i dont put out until at least 10 dates"
she says
"well i guess I can wait, I am more like a 7 date kind of gal"
Now, mind you, this girl has told me she partied hard in her early 20's (she is 30) and did coke and such. That itself does not bother me, but you know partying hard=banging dudes with reckless abandon. Again, no problem except now you want to make me wait?
Should I just eject now? I am actively pursuing other girls as well, but was hoping to keep her in the rotation. Do I go to her place for date 3 and proceed like I never got that text?
I need insight.
Thank you.