Well, I have to say that I just got fed up with it. I realised that I was not getting anything out of the thing, and she wasn't progressing anywhere herself either. The same problems keep coming up, which she loves talking about, etc. Her history is like that too, i.e. finding "nice and deep guys" who want to listen and end up getting a crush on her, while she just wants to vomit her problems out. No more, sister... x D
So yeah, now I've just distanced myself from her a bit, not even getting to that mess of hers but directing the discussion to other areas and ramping up my masculine energy a bit : D She looks a bit clueless now, and funnily enough, seems to have found another "nice guy" to dump those problems on x D The cycle goes on...
But yeah, we're studying basic physics in uni now, and that has made me realise a lot in regard to this whole "nice guy" / man -stuff. I mean if you're approaching women like a neutral person (friend) or even adapting to their own electric charge (feminine), there simply can be no attraction! : o You need polarity, i.e. masculine + feminine for attraction to occur!
Personally, I can see where I've gone wrong. Too deep, too neutral, too feminine. Time to embrace the masculine as well...it seems that thinking is not good with women, they just get too tied up and confused about everything. Like wtf, learn to relax a bit! : o : D So less talking, and more stuff that creates good feelings, i.e. smiling, touching, playing...
Black.Magic said:
I treat myself with respect and only those who respect me can hang out with me.
Exactly. It's weird, I realised how this applies to women as well only recently. I mean if I can take care of myself, then the same should apply to women as well! I am not their caretaker / therapist, and neither should they be mine! : D Discussion is fine of course, but not when one party is relying heavily on the other, i.e. not taking any responsibility for themselves. The basic problem of the neutral / feminine "nice guy" is that you're actually taking care of the woman's problems, i.e. listening listening listening! : o Thus you're also hindering her own growth, because she can just dump all the sh1t on you instead of really dealing with it herself.
So guys, treating yourself with respect is actually doing everyone a favour! ; D