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  1. Herb

    How do regular dudes who aren't manly in the SoSuave/DonJuan fashion maintain relationships?

    Let's be real the vast majority of men out there are not players or slayers or red pillers, and most are not even aware of this kind of material on sites like this, and even if they are they often blatantly reject it. I see a lot of average or even relatively feminine men who still manage to...
  2. Herb

    How is this for advice if gf is ignoring you?

    I was basically joking/trolling with the OP haha. Just wanted to see what people would say here or how they'd react. That article was probably written for like teenagers or something. Yeah I feel like once a girl gets into the "I need space" thing or stops communicating as much with you, it's...
  3. Herb

    How many good looking guys here got absolutely nothing on dating sites?

    It's what happens to be these days generally if I try going the online route. The last five girls I've been with had nothing to do with Tinder or anything online, but I met them naturally in person, either at bars/parties or through friends or some mutual activity. The first three years of...
  4. Herb

    How is this for advice if gf is ignoring you?

    https://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Your-Girlfriend-Ignoring-You
  5. Herb

    Been seeing a girl for a few months but no actual sex

    But... but... she makes me home made food and breakfasts! :cry: I've... already lost? You guys are saying there's no chance to move forward now? Damn. What if she has her own reasons for what she's doing that we can't really figure out? Maybe she's doing this cause she's confused and unsure...
  6. Herb

    Stating the obvious, below a certain degree of looks, personality doesnt matter (study)

    Sigh I hate to say it but this may be more true that I originally thought. Still, it's not the whole truth by any stretch, and is a generalization. It's more complex and nuanced than that. I will say that when I went out with my overweight and unattractive friend with the intention of winging...
  7. Herb

    Been seeing a girl for a few months but no actual sex

    Again, it is a strange and unusual relationship in many ways, involving contradictions, and I can't fully figure her out. I mean in addition to all the other stuff she does for me, the girl was ready to give me her really nice/expensive Fender guitar and amp after the third time we hung out. I...
  8. Herb

    Been seeing a girl for a few months but no actual sex

    Hmmmmm you guys make some valid points. But I think, knowing her, that she may be just as confused as I am and not really have any plan about this whole thing. I don't think she's just totally intentionally stringing me along while she does something else on the side or that I'm the side, but...
  9. Herb

    Been seeing a girl for a few months but no actual sex

    So I've been dating a girl for a little while now, like almost three months. Actually I initially saw her a few weeks, followed by a weird sort of hiatus for a few weeks cause she "needed space", and then she randomly reinitiated again out of nowhere, and we've been seeing each other since...
  10. Herb

    Girls who are more into you when they're drunk

    ****in bull****... I can't believe this girl. She's been really distant and aloof lately and I can tell has very low desire to interact with me for some reason. A week after helping with the move in I ask her how she's doing in her new place and a joke around a bit. She gives me some token few...
  11. Herb

    Going on on a date when sort of sick?

    I ended up just going. I took a bunch of Emergen C and Dayquil that day and felt at least decent for the duration of the night, although I started getting physically tired over the course of our rather long date in the 92 degree 90% humidity heat outside walking around. But the date went...
  12. Herb

    Going on on a date when sort of sick?

    What do you guys think about going on a date with a girl when you're kind of sick with a cold but not noticeably? Like you feel like you're about to be coming on with one and it will probably come out full force the next day, or say you're at the tail end of it but still getting over it and in...
  13. Herb

    Girls who are more into you when they're drunk

    Yeah. I probably did screw up earlier but again it was almost outside of my control given the situations. I don't think my chances with her are completely over, but we'll see. It is true that she was tired from moving stuff around in the heat all day; it's just that she seemed way more excited...
  14. Herb

    Girls who are more into you when they're drunk

    I've had a friend who I've had an odd, interesting relationship with over the last 6 months or so. When I first met her I wasn't really interested in her as a mate much at all, and I was kinda seeing her friend casually at the time, until it didn't work out with her anymore, and then it got...
  15. Herb

    What is better in initial interactions: comfort or tension?

    I get carried away when we do "click" on something I guess. Part of me says just to go with the flow and what feels natural, and sometimes talking excitedly about things feels that way. But I need to be more cognizant of the overall progress of the interaction, more self-aware and "meta", and be...
  16. Herb

    What is better in initial interactions: comfort or tension?

    Many people say that if you "click" with a girl and you spend hours talking when you meet or have a first date, and are very comfortable with each other, you have it in the bag. But the more I think about it, I don't know if that's true, at least to that extent. If they become too comfortable...
  17. Herb

    I can't put my finger on why every chick blows me off after initially showing signs of interest

    I see. Nah for me the appearance is one of the few decent things that spark their interest initially. I have to put extra work into seeing if they're *really* interested in me rather than just simply thinking I'm physically attractive on some superficial level, which most women do. I see the...
  18. Herb

    I can't put my finger on why every chick blows me off after initially showing signs of interest

    I've had that problem a lot too, and still do sometimes. In my case I know it is actual sexual interest early on based on body language, type of convos, the kinds of texts and snaps I get (and the timing/context of these too), and so on. But a lot of times if I don't act effectively within the...
  19. Herb

    Eating Pu*** is Disgusting

    Yeah I generally prefer if they do that too but you don't always have that luxury. I've also tried asking if they want to go to the bathroom and wash up before, or if they have recently, and that just kills the vibe a lot of times... I've had mixed thoughts on the whole thing throughout my...
  20. Herb

    Guys here who workout, have you ever head any luck with the hotties at your gym?

    All the guys who I have seen talking up girls at the gym just have the same generic fratty meat-head "brah" way of talking, and they also never say anything particularly intelligent. I'm very different from them. I feel like girls would be weirded out by the way I talk cause they're not used to...
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