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mmmmh i can feel emotional dependence rising again in me. this is the part where i usually **** up things, and this part cannot be explored while i'm not in any kind of relationship. i want to work on that now. i asked to my therapist telling her the exact feelings (the anxiety if she doesn't...

ok time for another update. no sex yet, we saw each other three times during last week. slept together every time. i went from "acting" more alpha, trying to be dominant and controlling (first evening) to being absolutely carefree and funny (last day). i didn't cared about any of the **** test...

i am italian so i'd like to spend a word or two about this i had limited experiences with foreign women (one from eastern europe and one from usa) and i'm not so good in keeping them in general, but attraction isn't a problem. so take my opinion as it is the main problem in italy is the...

a small update. i'm not initiating anymore and the girl object of this thread writes me everyday. she started calling too.text ratio is like three to one. i signed the contract at the new job and its a very cool place (like very very cool) and she initiates all the time now especially after...

i want to share something that helped me getting my priorities straight in this period of time. i think all of those talk are very useful:

sure. i'll pm you in a few moments just a little update. it's been only a few days since last reply but i'm keeping exercising and i'm starting to show little progress. i'm really proud of noticing the difference between workouts and the progression in resistance. i received an offer for a big...

thanks, i will. i started exercising again regularly, i'm trying to going over my comfort zone and finding new friends and activities "alone" ( in the sense that i don't need another person with me ), started re evaluating my job, i'm reading everyday and the next book is the one that you...

i had a hard look on myself lately and i've come to the following conclusions. keep in mind that this thing happened every time i attached to a girl. i'm scared. scared of doing things alone. probably because i think that i'm not enough and i need someone to validate me. i put too much value on...

i know now that i need to improve on assertiveness, sexual arousal, being more dominant, being more secure, more coherent and project a healthy masculine image. in the beginning hypergamy was not existent. she literally told me those things, that i take things too personal, that she wants to be...

the dj bible covers lots of topics, i read the must read ones but it’s very dispersive. yet i read two or three articles every night. i think i could benefit on articles on boundaries, assertiveness, self esteem and being a better man in general. i’m searching through topics and articles but...

thanks for your suggestions. i understand that another kind of behavior could have aroused her way more and the situation could have been different. i have no excuses for this, t thought that psychological self help (see my other recent thread) could help but clear communication, honesty and...

I answered in the quote, I know you guys don’t blame me and I am here to learn

let me see if i got this right if, in this relationship, i kept emotional control and didn't let the feelings of being validated from the other person to get the best of me; if, in this relationship, i entered the interaction with a sexual frame from the start (not an overt thing but something...

i realized now, after a few days from starting this discussion, that i always behaved in this way since i was 17. i'm 34 now. always the same behavior, always expecting that the woman could support me emotionally an finally i can open up and be loved and admired for what i did and for the...

it baffles me that psychological advice points you towards being more open, more honest, more vulnerable and those things in the end just **** you. i read psycho cybernetics last year and it's awesome (and the basis of tings like law of attraction and so on) and it defintively works, i have yet...

in those days i'm searching for answer to get better understanding of male/female relationship and to understand why all my relationship go sour after a few months. i've come across interesting articles, name a couple (i don't know if i can link external content but if you search for them you'll...

just to be clear, i do have internalized the first part of pickup, i have no problems with it. i have no social fear of talking with women and proceed with seduction. i did it since the beginning of my sexual life and i doesn't scares me, is part of myself. i see other men that are literally...

i found a series of posts called “the elements of frame” on reddit and i’m finding it very informative and useful, and i found the book “emotional intelligence” because is the aspect that i want to be more focused on. all the pua knowledge cannot help if the base is weak.. and my is very weak...

i accepted this girl because at the beginning the positives were more than the negatives. at the first month mark it was clear that i couldn’t be in a intimacy deprived relationship and in the following weeks resentment grew on on me. instead of leaving her i kept the situation until it...

ok guys, it's clear that i need improving and every suggestion is well accepted. if you think that my problem is not having a frame to start with, i'll explore those topics and try to become better. if, apart from the dj bible, any of you have other links please share them with me so i can...