in those days i'm searching for answer to get better understanding of male/female relationship and to understand why all my relationship go sour after a few months.
i've come across interesting articles, name a couple (i don't know if i can link external content but if you search for them you'll find them):
Woman: The Most Responsible Teenager In The House
Man affections vs boy affections
i've been raised believing that women and men are equal. deep inside me i search maternal love in a partner and i had this realization only after my last break up, but looking back it always went in this way. i have no concept or idea of masculine love, or on how to treat a woman correctly (and i mean with assertiveness, setting boundaries, not tolerating her ****, rewarding good behavior); i can do great on approach literally everywhere but i cannot seem to keep girls.
last year, after a major break up, i spent all year investigating and documenting on psychology, attachment theory, avoidance, love dependency and so on. in all those books the suggestions that you read are all the same, find a stable partner to be more secure, do not attach to avoidants if you are insecure (and vice versa), communicate end express your needs and your emotions, be authentic, not play games, learn to resolve conflicts from a "we" perspective, communicate better.
then later that year i found a new girl (there's a thread in this section), damaged, i applied all those seemingly correct behaviors, tried to be understanding, accepting and so on.
guess what it didn't worked for ****, because deep inside i still have those deep needs that no woman cannot fill and sooner or later those come up, and you cannot expect a woman to play by the rules since they are guided by emotions. you cannot make her see your beta side, she cannot perceive you as weak: i overcome big obstacles in my life but it seemingly doesn't count the past, it only count the present and if you are perceived as a weak you're ****ed.
my question is: why all this psychology works teaches you things that just doesn't work?
in the attraction phase i always applied redpill/manosphere ideology and NEVER failed me. not once.
in the relationship phase i am still very weak and need to learn lots of things and internalize the fundamentals, but why all those self help books, articles, most of therapist promote a passive and understanding behavior when it's clear that just doesn't work?
why no one teaches men how to become men?
i've come across interesting articles, name a couple (i don't know if i can link external content but if you search for them you'll find them):
Woman: The Most Responsible Teenager In The House
Man affections vs boy affections
i've been raised believing that women and men are equal. deep inside me i search maternal love in a partner and i had this realization only after my last break up, but looking back it always went in this way. i have no concept or idea of masculine love, or on how to treat a woman correctly (and i mean with assertiveness, setting boundaries, not tolerating her ****, rewarding good behavior); i can do great on approach literally everywhere but i cannot seem to keep girls.
last year, after a major break up, i spent all year investigating and documenting on psychology, attachment theory, avoidance, love dependency and so on. in all those books the suggestions that you read are all the same, find a stable partner to be more secure, do not attach to avoidants if you are insecure (and vice versa), communicate end express your needs and your emotions, be authentic, not play games, learn to resolve conflicts from a "we" perspective, communicate better.
then later that year i found a new girl (there's a thread in this section), damaged, i applied all those seemingly correct behaviors, tried to be understanding, accepting and so on.
guess what it didn't worked for ****, because deep inside i still have those deep needs that no woman cannot fill and sooner or later those come up, and you cannot expect a woman to play by the rules since they are guided by emotions. you cannot make her see your beta side, she cannot perceive you as weak: i overcome big obstacles in my life but it seemingly doesn't count the past, it only count the present and if you are perceived as a weak you're ****ed.
my question is: why all this psychology works teaches you things that just doesn't work?
in the attraction phase i always applied redpill/manosphere ideology and NEVER failed me. not once.
in the relationship phase i am still very weak and need to learn lots of things and internalize the fundamentals, but why all those self help books, articles, most of therapist promote a passive and understanding behavior when it's clear that just doesn't work?
why no one teaches men how to become men?
