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Master Don Juan
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Sex is the "original sin". When Adam and Eve first ate the forbidden apple, they felt lust for each other, fvcked, and were ashamed before the eyes of God.
From when we are very young, we are taught to cover up our "private parts". We are admonished for "toilet humor", told bullsh!t stories about "storks" and "bunnies" and magically being grown inside our mothers' stomachs to hide us from the awful truth.
When we're prepubescent, it doesn't matter much. We're concerned with other games. If some animals at the zoo start humping, or we happen to catch a glimpse of the Playboy magazine behind the 7-Eleven counter, we're hustled off to a "safer" location.
When puberty gets close, we're separated into boys' classes and girls' classes. We're forced to get parental permission to be taught the "forbidden knowledge". And even then, all we're taught is, "You're going through some changes. It's normal. Don't worry about it."
Then life goes back to normal as we start going through all these changes, start getting urges we don't understand and not knowing what to do with them. We hear whisperings of "sex" and "pen!ses" and "vag!inas" and giggle about them, but we don't dare mention them in front of our parents or teachers. Sure they have "sex ed" in school, but they dont' DARE to mention the actual act. All they speak of is scary diseases like AIDS and condoms and pregnancy and birth control. By now, if you haven't heard about sex from the older kids, you're pretty much behind the times.
Your parents know that you've been hearing things. Maybe you were caught with a nudie magazine, maybe you started spending a lot of time with a special girl...so one day, mom or dad takes you aside nervously to talk about "the facts of life". "Umm...son, you know....uh....um...when a man and a woman, er, love each other VERY much.....uhm..." Then you hear something you already knew, but can't believe how nervous it makes mom and dad to speak of it. It must be a horrible and dangerous thing. Then they tell you, "This is only for married couples who want to be mommies and daddies. It's very dangerous and you should stay away from it."
Meanwhile, those who find out about the terrible secret are ostracized from society. The boys who act out and display masculine behavior are told to calm down and be nice. The girls who start displaying feminine behavior are taught to take charge and be more independent. Kissing in the hall is immediately broken up. The guy who acts out in class to get a young lady's attention is sent to the principal's office and hopped up on Ritalin. The girl who wears her skirt a little higher is labelled a *****. Dances are carefully chaperoned to make sure students aren't dancing too closely. Men who are unusually interested in women are branded as perverts and women keep away. Women who are unusually interested in men are called slvts and rumors are spread of all kinds of nasty diseases.
These social stigma are passed from generation to generation and reinforced by everyone aroudn the children as they grow up and become functional adults. They think the overwhelming mating urges they have are evil and gross and the only way they can possibly explore those feelings is to find someone as twisted and perverted and sick as them.
And we wonder why men in our generation have so much trouble getting laid? Why women are so conflicted over their feelings and act in such a bizarre manner?
The sexual urges we have, the desire to mate, is one of the strongest in the human psyche. It isn't something logical or rational at all. It's hard-wired into us.
Think about the last time you had a sexual encounter. I bet you weren't thinking much. The mind settles into a state of confusion and tunnel-vision. The body takes over. The sex-urge is driven primally, beneath the level of your conscious mind. It can't even be explained in words...everything just becomes a blur as your body devotes itself to a singular purpose. It's as close as you can get to an "altered state" without using drugs.
Society realized that these urges were not rationally controllable. So they did their best to restrain and suppress them. First through religion, and then through social moral upbringing, sex has been taught as a deviant behavior. We've been taught to believe that human sexuality is scary, perverted, evil. We've been told horror stories about sex destroying our self-worth, making us "bad people", and leading to unwanted pregnancies, broken families, horrible diseases, and the collapse of our society.
The problem is they did TOO good a job. We've been psycho-neutered...and are now expected to go out into the world like sexually healthy adults.
Almost ALL "chumpish" behaviors stem from this moral psycho-neutering.
The whole "bargaining" behavior, for example, is a result of this upbringing. Men have been taught to regard sex as a "bad" thing. Thus, to engage a woman for that purpose is considered tantamount to other deranged and evil behaviors, like rape, murder, theft, abuse. To atone for this moral sin, we offer her flowers, jewelry, houses, cars, vacations abroad, jokes, pretty sights, entertainment...all in the hopes that it will offset the awful deed we wish to engage her in...that she will see the man as a "good person", a "nice guy", and not the deranged sexual animal he's been raised to believe that he is.
The prizing of long-term relationships over short-term relationships or casual encounters is also a result of this. The requirement of total intimacy before you can reveal to a woman your "dark secret", in a safe place, where you can both explore without judgement. Under the name of "true love", one of society's favorite institutions. They couldn't POSSIBLY judge you for having nasty sex with someone you LOVE, could they?
This is even more prevalent in women, who are blasted with anti-sex messages by parent who fear unwanted grandchildren. This is what drives flaky female behavior...the duality between their natural desire for sex and their implanted desire to avoid it at all costs.
THIS is why you can't get laid.
cont'd...
From when we are very young, we are taught to cover up our "private parts". We are admonished for "toilet humor", told bullsh!t stories about "storks" and "bunnies" and magically being grown inside our mothers' stomachs to hide us from the awful truth.
When we're prepubescent, it doesn't matter much. We're concerned with other games. If some animals at the zoo start humping, or we happen to catch a glimpse of the Playboy magazine behind the 7-Eleven counter, we're hustled off to a "safer" location.
When puberty gets close, we're separated into boys' classes and girls' classes. We're forced to get parental permission to be taught the "forbidden knowledge". And even then, all we're taught is, "You're going through some changes. It's normal. Don't worry about it."
Then life goes back to normal as we start going through all these changes, start getting urges we don't understand and not knowing what to do with them. We hear whisperings of "sex" and "pen!ses" and "vag!inas" and giggle about them, but we don't dare mention them in front of our parents or teachers. Sure they have "sex ed" in school, but they dont' DARE to mention the actual act. All they speak of is scary diseases like AIDS and condoms and pregnancy and birth control. By now, if you haven't heard about sex from the older kids, you're pretty much behind the times.
Your parents know that you've been hearing things. Maybe you were caught with a nudie magazine, maybe you started spending a lot of time with a special girl...so one day, mom or dad takes you aside nervously to talk about "the facts of life". "Umm...son, you know....uh....um...when a man and a woman, er, love each other VERY much.....uhm..." Then you hear something you already knew, but can't believe how nervous it makes mom and dad to speak of it. It must be a horrible and dangerous thing. Then they tell you, "This is only for married couples who want to be mommies and daddies. It's very dangerous and you should stay away from it."
Meanwhile, those who find out about the terrible secret are ostracized from society. The boys who act out and display masculine behavior are told to calm down and be nice. The girls who start displaying feminine behavior are taught to take charge and be more independent. Kissing in the hall is immediately broken up. The guy who acts out in class to get a young lady's attention is sent to the principal's office and hopped up on Ritalin. The girl who wears her skirt a little higher is labelled a *****. Dances are carefully chaperoned to make sure students aren't dancing too closely. Men who are unusually interested in women are branded as perverts and women keep away. Women who are unusually interested in men are called slvts and rumors are spread of all kinds of nasty diseases.
These social stigma are passed from generation to generation and reinforced by everyone aroudn the children as they grow up and become functional adults. They think the overwhelming mating urges they have are evil and gross and the only way they can possibly explore those feelings is to find someone as twisted and perverted and sick as them.
And we wonder why men in our generation have so much trouble getting laid? Why women are so conflicted over their feelings and act in such a bizarre manner?
The sexual urges we have, the desire to mate, is one of the strongest in the human psyche. It isn't something logical or rational at all. It's hard-wired into us.
Think about the last time you had a sexual encounter. I bet you weren't thinking much. The mind settles into a state of confusion and tunnel-vision. The body takes over. The sex-urge is driven primally, beneath the level of your conscious mind. It can't even be explained in words...everything just becomes a blur as your body devotes itself to a singular purpose. It's as close as you can get to an "altered state" without using drugs.
Society realized that these urges were not rationally controllable. So they did their best to restrain and suppress them. First through religion, and then through social moral upbringing, sex has been taught as a deviant behavior. We've been taught to believe that human sexuality is scary, perverted, evil. We've been told horror stories about sex destroying our self-worth, making us "bad people", and leading to unwanted pregnancies, broken families, horrible diseases, and the collapse of our society.
The problem is they did TOO good a job. We've been psycho-neutered...and are now expected to go out into the world like sexually healthy adults.
Almost ALL "chumpish" behaviors stem from this moral psycho-neutering.
The whole "bargaining" behavior, for example, is a result of this upbringing. Men have been taught to regard sex as a "bad" thing. Thus, to engage a woman for that purpose is considered tantamount to other deranged and evil behaviors, like rape, murder, theft, abuse. To atone for this moral sin, we offer her flowers, jewelry, houses, cars, vacations abroad, jokes, pretty sights, entertainment...all in the hopes that it will offset the awful deed we wish to engage her in...that she will see the man as a "good person", a "nice guy", and not the deranged sexual animal he's been raised to believe that he is.
The prizing of long-term relationships over short-term relationships or casual encounters is also a result of this. The requirement of total intimacy before you can reveal to a woman your "dark secret", in a safe place, where you can both explore without judgement. Under the name of "true love", one of society's favorite institutions. They couldn't POSSIBLY judge you for having nasty sex with someone you LOVE, could they?
This is even more prevalent in women, who are blasted with anti-sex messages by parent who fear unwanted grandchildren. This is what drives flaky female behavior...the duality between their natural desire for sex and their implanted desire to avoid it at all costs.
THIS is why you can't get laid.
cont'd...