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yeh they dont have any logic - she's clearly quite a promiscuous girl - she only said that so she had plausible deniability - so that it would have been "your fault" for carrying on - since "you knew and didnt stop". It was her way of giving you some responsibility - she prob would have let you...

got this other day - was true ioi

no actual advice here guys - I have improved massively and am seeing other plates - any reason not to just reply to her and spin her like any other girl? - very short "I'm good, how're you?" I dont see how that could really damage things unless you think it will set up a stronger chase if she...

ahm what advice on there didnt I follow? - I've moved on and improved. So it seems most here would say I should not respond at all? could someone explain the reasoning? I am seriously considering it right now---can see how it would telegraph having had enough of her - which I have- I genuinely...

every time we stop talking it takes about 4-5 weeks of NC and then she breaks it to ask how I am.... so this is about the 3rd time this has happend - the first time everything went well and we basically got together again till I pushed her away...then again ....so this is the third...

go on then what exactly does it mean? its not dating/serious rel - so i can see why the kinda is on there its undefined....although then it should be fine to give out the no...

thanks you guys - Ive been thinking of music this year - want to get into it - but HOW? going to get a guitar teacher I enjoy gym

Everyone tell me about their experiences of re approaching please. I have to say my limited experience agrees with the advice on here - when they come to you and you act hesitant it works wonders - they want you again - if you initiate and are too nice - it pushes them - as the excellent posts...

But you could say the same about any girl - its like expecting girls to open you and not bothering - I realise this is different - but do you see what I mean? Its not a totally crazy idea to ping is it? although I am very reluctant to after my large dose of chasing frame and ignored texts.........

thanks for this input - I can see how you are right! How did you meet them after a year? It seems a little unlikely that you wouldnt see them for a whole year and then coincidentally they show up>

NO more people with exp in this area? Essentially gaming an ex - no input?

I have a perfect answer for this. Be totally fine, and cool. Then do the same thing back to her (making sure it doesnt seem like your doing it to get back at her but just acting like you thought it was fine) and see if she minds - she will.....then she will stop herself - you dont need to SAY...

Oh yes I can see having mutual friends must have helped a lot! did it bother you that she still hung out with guys that had banged her? How long you with her for the first second times?

that means your in the 40% I mentioned (from other poll)....this is just for actual contact

job well done dude! i think i had that chance, was going well but blew it by saying some stupid stuff interesting 3 months looks like a general rule here..........