Recent content by thirtyzDude

anyway, thanks for the feedback all - I had a revelation today: this is just as a result of baggage from the past surfacing up and screwing my brain up. The good news is that once I realize that this is just a part of the change process, I can recognize it and deal with it. Change is often...

I don't think so - I'm really just trying to keep hand; I'm liking this girl so far and I don't want to go AFC...that's all.

uh, did you read my post? I closed the deal anyway.

how did you get that I was putting sex on a pedestal? I can get sex if I want - the issue here is that I'm still unlearning all of my old AFC behaviors. I'm trying to get higher quality chicks, and keep them coming back for more. To do that, I need to show high quality, which means I don't...

So, by your rationale then, she wouldn't call if a) the sex was so-so, or b) she has other options. What about c) she thinks I see her as just another conquest, and doesn't want to embarrass herself by making the first move, even if she does want to see me again? Appreciate the feedback...

hah - after some more thought I realized I was pedestalizing this girl 'cause she was the hottest girl I've been with in a while...ugh this is tough, to unlearn all this beta bullsh*t.

a bit of my history: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=1925339#post1925339 So, maybe the gods have decided to smile on me for moving on from this past experience, or maybe something clicked inside me and I'm doing things differently...I think it's a bit of both. Anyway, I...

I don't. But some of them can't help but ask. Lately my reply has been "nothing serious."

not saying you're wrong or right, but why is it the assumption that if the woman is dating more than one guy, she must be sleeping with at least one of them?

not necessarily...a power play? If that's the case, then cool...how can I tell though if she is trying to use sex as a weapon?

seems like that would only work with girls with low self-esteem, I could see some girls getting pissed off at the obvious diss. What I'm wishing I had done was once I heard the sprinklers turn off, push her off me and say "well, time for me to go"...but I didn't obviously, 'cause my d**k was in...

oh, she asked how many other women I was seeing, and I told her a couple. She tried to get some more info about them, and I gave as few details as possible just because I don't like talking about other women when I'm with a chick I'm dating. She also gave me the "I'm not sleeping with you,"...

well, ultimately I f-ed up with this one chick - she's older than I am, and I became really attracted to her somehow (i.e. thinking about her a lot, etc). I started to think there was some magical connection and all that BS. The last time we went out, she flat-out told me she was dating...

It doesn't even bother me when I have to wait a few dates - I enjoy the natural progression. The ones that give it up quickly don't garner my respect. However, once a chick brings it up - but then nothing happens for a while - it bothers me; once that happens it's on my mind and I'm left...

Ok, so this year I decided to make a big change: I started working on myself, trying to become more well rounded, get out more, and lose weight. I also decided to date as many women as I could handle. I've used dating sites as well as meeting people "organically." It's been quite the...