Recent content by pbsurf

OK, last post. Seriously. I have gotten some great advice, and also spend a bit too much time on this site. So I've asked to be banned. (Tells you a bit about my self control) I've been far to focused on women over the last several years. Lots of fun, lots of headaches. Maybe the...

The only book i've flipped through recently was the 7 habits... Good stuff. Thanks again - your advice is gold. I've gone through cycles lately - surfing/going to the gym/stopped drinking, then followed by days where i sleep 12 plus hours... Its very gradual, but i am heading in the...

"You're weak because you put this woman at the centre of you universe, you allowed yourself to orbit around her, with her now gone you have a black hole...." Hey Matt, I was going to PM you - but figured i'd let the rest of the board/forum know that for whatever reason, this is the single...

ha - that's good. I am trying to let go, really. I haven't once asked her if she wanted to try again, or to get together. i think she misses me but also misses the power she had over me. I'm a total mess, and it isn't her fault entirely, she's just the trigger. if i thougth she'd...

And what if she does contact you? Just curious What i've noticed is that NC has gotten her to reach out every other week via meaningless text - and because I still like her, it is really messing with me. I told her weeks ago to NOT contact me anymore. Three weeks later -she did. Which i...

Well, she has been texting - at least she did last night and I"m obviously not close to being over her because it has really consumed me today. I feel like I need to text her that she needs to cut the contact out - but that gives my power away i know. Such a crazy concept - on one hand we...

You're weak because you put this woman at the centre of you universe, you allowed yourself to orbit around her, with her now gone you have a black hole.... what you need to do is rebuild, shift yourself into the centre of your universe (as it should be) and then allow people into that...

Yeah - good call. Did you block her phone #? If so, did you let her know?

Thanks. I don't know how to break up the quotes, but the bottom line is we are both keeping this alive for some reason. Its been two months. I texted Sat in a moment of weakness. Stupid. She had texted every other week and I just gave short, disinterested responses. Then... I caved...

The details aren't important - NC broken (text) on both sides. Sat AM... Which crushed me because I got all those feelings back. So. Spent all day Sat and Sunday in bed. Literally all day both days, with maybe 3 hours outside. Then text from her last night. Meaningless. I have been so...

Sometimes I wonder if hardcore no contact is giving too much power to them... Anyway, don't worry about it mate. Just dust yourself off. I broke NC over the weekend and was so mad and depressed afterwards that I didn't get out of bed for 20 hours. Some of this is not AFC - we are all...

Yes - i actually was pretty insecure about us starting about month 4. I've posted about this, but it was classic AFC. I was cool and calm and then started to get attached. Set no boundaries at all, started w/pleasing behavior. Not over the top but just enough. Constantly around guys...

Working on the zero fvck thing. Better now than a couple of months ago. The truth is that I invested way too much in this relationship recently and got my ass handed to me emotionally. And some of this might just be cold hard reality. In the recentl relationship, i was competing...

Just read an interview with Michael Jordan, written right after he turned 50. MJ, the greatest, was pretty much miserable. The man has it all - private Jet, hot new wife, boatloads of cash, and 5 (?) rings... But. All he could think about was the old days, his glory days, and whether he...

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