Recent content by heroshima

1. Loose the belly fat. I probably need to drop 15 lbs. 2. Buy another motorcycle. I sure miss the last one. 3. Get better at boxing. That is an intriguing sport.

LJBF her and use her as a wing. Take her out and then pivot off to other chicks.

I don't think she's a lost cause just because of this. Lots of chicks pull these kinds of sh!t tests. Part of the problem is that she is not appreciating the time you do spend with her. I agree with Boilermaker. I'd sit her down and have a stern talk with her. Keep it short and to the point...

I appreciate the feedback. It has felt like a rollercoaster at times, for sure. But I do know that I feel dramatically different than I did when I was in the midst of it. It should come as no surprise that when I was expressing feelings of hurt and jealousy to my wife that she responded with...

Rollo, can you tell me why you wouldn't stick it out with her? What would you be watching out for? Do you think too much damage has already been done?

I know some of you are going to flame me for staying with her. I got plenty of that input. I thought about leaving her many times and put that clearly on the table with her. The idea of divorce scared her and I could see that she didn't want our relationship to end. I also looked very...

Let my try to give a rundown of what worked for me. At first I had to really disconnect from her to get some distance on the situation. As soon as I started in that direction she started to notice. All the while I was investigating to see how deep/intimate their relationship had become. I...

Well it's been about 9 months and I have been meaning to give you guys an update on this situation. I am still with my wife but things, on the whole, are much better for me now than they were a year ago when I was in the midst of the situation with guitar man. I've done a lot of work on...

If you ever have to yell at a woman, don't EXPECT it to lead to sex. Say what you need to and then walk away. DON'T hang around and feel bad about it or try to talk it through further. Get out of there and let her absorb what has happened. There are times when it is necessary to yell at a...

My take on compliments is to talk about my "reaction" and not her "trait". That way she doesn't internalize the complement but instead makes it a requirement that I am there as an observer. Instead of saying "You are beautiful" Say "I like the way you look" or even more ****y... Instead of...

I'm guessing there's something going on in her history that is causing her to react this way. I bet you've never seen her father raise his voice at her. I'm also willing to bet that he (or some other male authority figure) HAS and the outcome WASN'T GOOD. There's also a really good chance that...

I'd suggest replacing the milk with a good yogurt. Don't get Yoplait or crap like that with sugar in it. Get a natural yogurt with active bacterial cultures in it. That will help with your digestive issues.

I've found that during weight loss phases that my sex drive drops as well. My acupuncturist friend recommended taking fish oil and siberian ginseng. That helped me quite a bit.

One other observation: It sounds to me like you are trying to replace the feeling that your mother gave you. Think very carefully about why you want that. Don't look for a woman to replace your mother. You'll still be in the same pattern.

Don't let your mother smother you. Work on this. It is haunting you now and will continue to haunt you. While my situation was different from your's, my mother was too much of a friend to me during my teen years. During that time she was in the process of separating from my father and she...