1. Loose the belly fat. I probably need to drop 15 lbs.
2. Buy another motorcycle. I sure miss the last one.
3. Get better at boxing. That is an intriguing sport.
I don't think she's a lost cause just because of this. Lots of chicks pull these kinds of sh!t tests. Part of the problem is that she is not appreciating the time you do spend with her.
I agree with Boilermaker. I'd sit her down and have a stern talk with her. Keep it short and to the point...
I appreciate the feedback.
It has felt like a rollercoaster at times, for sure. But I do know that I feel dramatically different than I did when I was in the midst of it.
It should come as no surprise that when I was expressing feelings of hurt and jealousy to my wife that she responded with...
I know some of you are going to flame me for staying with her. I got plenty of that input.
I thought about leaving her many times and put that clearly on the table with her. The idea of divorce scared her and I could see that she didn't want our relationship to end.
I also looked very...
Let my try to give a rundown of what worked for me.
At first I had to really disconnect from her to get some distance on the situation. As soon as I started in that direction she started to notice. All the while I was investigating to see how deep/intimate their relationship had become. I...
Well it's been about 9 months and I have been meaning to give you guys an update on this situation.
I am still with my wife but things, on the whole, are much better for me now than they were a year ago when I was in the midst of the situation with guitar man. I've done a lot of work on...
If you ever have to yell at a woman, don't EXPECT it to lead to sex. Say what you need to and then walk away. DON'T hang around and feel bad about it or try to talk it through further. Get out of there and let her absorb what has happened.
There are times when it is necessary to yell at a...
My take on compliments is to talk about my "reaction" and not her "trait". That way she doesn't internalize the complement but instead makes it a requirement that I am there as an observer.
Instead of saying "You are beautiful"
Say "I like the way you look"
or even more ****y...
Instead of...
I'm guessing there's something going on in her history that is causing her to react this way. I bet you've never seen her father raise his voice at her. I'm also willing to bet that he (or some other male authority figure) HAS and the outcome WASN'T GOOD.
There's also a really good chance that...
I'd suggest replacing the milk with a good yogurt. Don't get Yoplait or crap like that with sugar in it. Get a natural yogurt with active bacterial cultures in it. That will help with your digestive issues.
I've found that during weight loss phases that my sex drive drops as well. My acupuncturist friend recommended taking fish oil and siberian ginseng. That helped me quite a bit.
One other observation:
It sounds to me like you are trying to replace the feeling that your mother gave you. Think very carefully about why you want that.
Don't look for a woman to replace your mother. You'll still be in the same pattern.
Don't let your mother smother you. Work on this. It is haunting you now and will continue to haunt you.
While my situation was different from your's, my mother was too much of a friend to me during my teen years. During that time she was in the process of separating from my father and she...
I understand. I have created peace because I now feel that I am in a strong enough position to not fight.
What I trying to figure out now is how do I continue to view my wife (or my wife's bloated ego) as an adversary while maintaining peace in the house?
samspade, what you've said doesn't sound strange.
The reason I keep mentioning the possibility of sex is that prior to this that would have been the line that I would have considered to be "cheating". Now my eyes are open to the understanding that there can be emotional cheating as well. I...
Backing off of the ultimatum was my choice to give her room to make the decision for herself. My stance now is that I am not attempting to control her. When necessary I have simply been stating my position and acting as though she can come along for the ride with me if she wants.
Oh, and I...
The time off was expected because guitar man will be out of town for two weeks. She has said this would be a break. I asked for it to be longer and she agreed.
She's playing pop/rock. No, she's not expecting this to be a career. She's said she wants to go back to school when our youngest is in...
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