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How young can a 30 year old man date w/o going against society norms?

Discussion in 'The Mature Man' started by mahon83050, Oct 15, 2007.

  1. mahon83050

    mahon83050 Banned

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    The one good thing about being a man is we can date women younger than us, thus widening our dating pool.

    I once read in Maxim Magazine that a man should follow this simple formula to find out the youngest age of woman he can date.

    Take your age (e.g. 30) and divide it in half (e.g. 15) and then add 9 (e.g. 24). So, a 30 year old man shouldn't be dating a woman younger than 24 because society will think it is awkward.

    I know it is legal for me to date a 19 year old, but society frowns down on it.

    I hope this formula is accurate, since I still want to go after 24-26 year olds and not limit myself to women in the 28-32 year old range (these women are looking to settle down)

    I want to hear from DJ's in their late 20's and early 30's.
     
  2. Bible_Belt

    Bible_Belt Master Don Juan

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    I have dated 26 year-olds since I was 19 and do not plan to stop any time soon.
     
  3. bigjohnson

    bigjohnson Master Don Juan

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    All formulas are BS. Society isn't some monolithic thing with one unified opinion; some people will get ticked about something you do no matter what. My personal opinion is that for a LTR guys should wait until they are 30 and then look at women about 10 years younger, but that's for a stable happy family and raising kids.

    All bets are off outside that framework IMO.
     
  4. kdnash82

    kdnash82 Master Don Juan

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    I say date whoever the hell you want to regardless what society thinks. In the end, it's all about making myself happy. If I'm 90 and find an 18 y/o that does it for me, then I'm going with that and at that point, society could kiss my wrinkly old azz.
     
  5. Rollo Tomassi

    Rollo Tomassi Master Don Juan

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    So by this "logic", at 30, a 6 year difference is aceptable. At 50, a 16 year difference is acceptable and you can be guilt free in dating a 34 y.o. If you find yourself single at 60 then a 21 year difference is cool, so stick to a 39 y.o. woman and you can't go wrong. If you're lonley at 70 then a 44 y.o. girl will be socially normal with 26 year difference. However, if you're only 14, then you've really got your work cut out for you as you'll be stuck with shooting for 16 y.o. girls to maintain your respectability.

    See how stupid this is? Or is it that this is one more popularized idea to further shame men into thinking there's something wrong with them for having a biological desire to Ć’uck young, beautiful women who command more attention than aging 30 somethings? As women age, their options decrease, their sexual marketability declines. Now, if there was only someway women could psychologically convince men that they ought to be ashamed of themselves for not wanting to let them have their cake and eat it too,...
     
  6. WestCoaster

    WestCoaster Master Don Juan

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    I think at 30 you have the 18-30 and also older range. I never wanted to date 18 when I was 30, but I dated 21-24 when I was 30. The thing that surprises me is when the 25-year old men get on here and say how great 36 year old women are. WTF?

    Women are really hitting their prime physically and emotionally from 20-30. The bitter gene kicks in about age 30 or so, which triggers man-hating. Women in their 20's usually aren't into man-hating just yet, but American society will eventually force them to man hate. I call these people lesbo-heteros. They like the company and behaviors of women, but still want sex with a man. Yet they rip on men like crazy and frankly, don't like them. They like men for sex, but in reality they're lesbos mentality-wise. I'd say about half or more of U.S. women are lesbo-heteros, some of my friends are married to some. (I respect lesbos more; they're honest about it.)

    So in a nutshell, yep, date 18-30, don't worry about it. You have the rest of your life to date old man-haters.
     
  7. mahon83050

    mahon83050 Banned

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    not to mention, women start to lose their youthful appearance after age 25.
     
  8. STR8UP

    STR8UP Master Don Juan

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    I turn 36 in two weeks, and although I don't really "date" much younger women, but the supply of 20-24 yr olds who I party with doesn't seem to be diminishing.

    If anything it's on the upswing.
     
  9. STR8UP

    STR8UP Master Don Juan

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    Oh yea, and to answer your question....

    FUKK society!
     
  10. joekerr31

    joekerr31 Master Don Juan

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    what is most important is that one day, when you die, that all the people who you never knew in life think well of you and that their children think well of your children for generations to come.

    after all the entire world is watching you and waiting to judge who you are. and your actions will be judged for generations to come.

    :crazy: i'm being saracastic.

    LIFE IS FOR LIVING - DO WHAT YOU WANT!

    yes, i have an opinion on the age thing. for myself, im 33, and anything under 23 to me makes me feel wierd.

    but that's me. and thats me today. heck, tomorrow i might decide that banging 19 year old is fun and will start doing it.

    the point is that this is my life and im going to do whatever the hell i want. i could care less what others think of the things i do. i really really really do NOT care.

    you have to come up with your own rules for this my friend. remember, one day you are going to die and all that you did in life won't matter to anyone but you. as long as you maintain your own sense of self respect, you will die a good death and have lived a good life.
     
  11. jophil28

    jophil28 Master Don Juan

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    Ok troops - I went out dancing with a 21 year old and a 25 year old on Sunday night. MY bud arrived on his bike and the girls turned up in separate cars. WE all walked into the club about 8pm and all the usual suspects were there . This is an all age, all dance styles, place.
    The two chicks were dressed to kill. These two chicks are originally from Russia. One is a student and one is a personal trainer. They are sizzling hot.
    The 25 year old is model looking and cute , as cute and a button.
    All the regular crowd stared at these hotties with me and my wing and the sound of jaws hitting the floor almost drowned out the music.

    SO we are dancing and having a great time. The chicks are great..- "hey jophil - thanks for bringing us .THis place is fun. If you wanna go dance with some of the other ladies it is OK. too" These women are GRATEFUL for me bringing them and they do not want to monopolize me. Sweet !
    So I wander around and bask in the glory of it all. Some of the regular women are PISSED. The guys are just nodding and smirking - envy is a terrible thing.
    Gayle (40 something) says ," Hey jophil, did you bring your daughters ? "
    I reply, "' My grand daughters, honey ! "

    THe guys then just stand and stare at me and the 25 year old doing some hot Salsa ........ She is lookig f**king dangerous and she is flirting and staring at me with those big Ruskie eyes. Talk about locked gaze !

    OK - another two hours of this goes by, and Gayle grabs me at the bar. "You ignoring me jophil? Will you dance with me?"
    Me, " Mmmm, you need to take a number honey."
    She, " I want to dance now ."
    Me, "OK just two songs and then I gotta get back.."
    We dance and she is pressing her pvssy on me and grinding.
    My social proof is at an all time high.

    More cavorting and the hotties need to leave. Work and school the next day.

    Gayle sees her chance and grabs at me outside the bathroom .
    WE dance some more and she is telling me that "deep down you are a really nice guy."
    Me, " You are deluded honey, I am a bad man."
    She, " No , I know that you are a sweetie under all that bravado. "
    A SWEETIE ! Geez who talks like that anymore ?

    Anyways- long story short. SHe says,' Will you walk me to my car?"
    Me, " how far is it. I'm kinda beat from dancing with all the women."
    SHe puts her arm thru mine and we walk out to the far end of the carpark she opens up the door of the sharpest Kompressor convertible I ever saw. WE sit and I am teasing her and she grabs me and then ... well,you fill in the details...
     
  12. ketostix

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    This is the power of SP-being seen with a hot, young girl-that I was talking about in the other forum.

    You kept the ****y and funny going well. Notice how Gayle totally reframed you into a "sweetie" but not in the sense of a nice guy chump, but a sweetie that is acceptable for her to fvck in her mind lol.

    I think this all demostrates that society and women especially want to control a man and tell him how he should behave, all to his detriment. But when you refuse to go along with it and do so unapologetically, the results and the better treatment and respect speak for themself.
     
  13. synergy1

    synergy1 Master Don Juan

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    Upon finishing college I soon thought I would be leaving the younger crowd behind for good. Most of the girls I have either met, partied with, or hook up with have been 21 and younger.
     
  14. amoka

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    The math does not add up. Why does the article assume the man is the only that can be older. There are folk that bang older women. How does the math fit in those cases?
     
  15. Omen

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    I say the same thing. FUK society. Do what you want and live life how you want it. I like younger girls and I seem to have more fun around them.

    Do people go... Dude, she's only so old, why are you... YES they do. I then reply... Not my fault you cant get that piece of ass or they wont talk to you.

    Some people say older guys have problems if they cant get a woman their age. They make some lame excuse, throw some formula in there, talk about what society thinks, and goes on and on. Why? Cause they cant get them.

    Some older guys whine, but a majority are young guys. Why are you taking our women? Cant you get a 25 or 30yr old? Why the hell do you want to date a 19 or 20yr old at 28? Blah Blah Blah.

    Some states it 16 as legal age, some its 17 or 18. My number is 18. Though I have never dated an 18yr old at 28, I probably would if the right one came along. Now i'm not expecting a LTR, but I will date her.

    Hey, they just turn me on. Some are so hot, they put 30yr old women to shame. Granted i've seen some great looking 25yr olds and women in that range, but have you ever just been someplace where 18-19 year old hotties are? WOW!

    And think of it this way. WAY OLDER GUYS are the ones banging the 18yr olds in the Pornos :up: lol.
     
  16. ketostix

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    Well my experience with predominate societal view is if a girl is in her 20's and the man is more than 5 years older people generally think this goes against the norm. They tighten this age difference up a little if she's under 21 and loosen it a little if she's over say 26.

    But we all know how much societal norms don't benefit and are not naturally compatible with males. So screw the norms, you might get some flak but it's usually in your best interest to not follow these norms.
     
  17. STR8UP

    STR8UP Master Don Juan

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    I don't know why I seem to meet the "just turned 21" chicks all the time, but I'm not complaining!

    Actually, I do know where most of it comes from. It comes from knowing a couple of key younger women who like me.

    Of course at my age a relationship with one is not likely, but the social proof (as in jophil's case) goes through the roof being seen with young, attractive women.
     
  18. MrLuvr

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    So, you didn't have a chance with the 25 yr old then?
     
  19. MrLuvr

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    Why not? You seem to have backed off from your position of even a year ago when you were only interested in 18-21 yr olds. Now you seem to be talking 30+.

    What happened?
     
  20. azanon

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    As far as age is concerned, you need to only be aware of one limitation; the age of consent for your state. It ranges from 16-18 I believe for most (all?) states.

    Besides that, I wouldn't even give it a second thought. What you should be concerned with beyond that is just basic maturity that's relatively in-line with yours. I would hope with me something would kick in if i were with a giggly, silly girl who didn't know anything about responsibility. If a woman (girl?)'s maturity were such that she was clearly not making fully informed decisions, that's probably when my morality gene would kick in and I wouldn't be able to bring myself to take advantage of her.

    Trust your gut, and feel free to meet those you find attractive. If they pass the age test for your state, then just decide by her maturity. Your gut won't let you down. Just make sure its your own personal feeling, not the feeling of your parents, friends, etc.

    BTW, I married a 19 year old woman. Read that again, in case you missed something important.

    ................

    An aside.... When i got a trim by my barber this past weekend, i noticed a new hairstylist. I swear to God (if there is one) this girl was a "10" if I've ever seen one. I joked to my 40-something male barber "bet she gets phone numbers all the time". He told me she was 21 and was actually recently married. Truth be told, she looked more like 18-19. My thought was...... 21 and already no longer available. So fellows, if you were the man that nabbed her, you were either 1. young like her or 2. A 30-something that didn't set arbitrary rules. If you were neither 1 nor 2, you'd never have a chance.
     

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