Girls think I'm homosexual..??

Travis T. · Nov 12, 2003

Yeah, so I have this problem in that many girls (but never guys) have made subtle, or sometimes obviously comments to me that I seem gay or bi or something... The problem is I'm not (yes I'm sure) but I guess I'm giving the wrong impression some how.

I think it might be that not only am I very clean cut and neatly dressed all the time, but I also tend to laugh and joke around with girls in a way that is well... I guess girlish.

So what should I do, any advice? For instance are there any signs most people look for with a guy that is not obviously gay, but makes you wonder?

Travis T. · Nov 12, 2003

I do prove it...

I just proved it last night. Background>

I met this girl at a party a couple weeks back, and we seemed to hit it off so I got her number and all. So last night at dinner (our first date) I was telling her that I don't usually just pick girls up as strangers, and she asked why not. I said what do you mean why not (sort of laughing) and she says..."well maybe you don't ask girls out because your usually bi or something... I don't know..."

I'm like what?? I didn't know what to say ... I just said Hell no or something.

Anyway, at the end of the date I dropped her off at her place, and managed to get in some pretty heavy kissing, which was nice.

stormwriter · Nov 12, 2003

I used to get this all the time. They called me pretty boy, and that i need to "mess up" my look.

Here's some things that work:

- actually mess up your hair. Have a spiky, manly look if possible.
- don't shave everyday
- cuss more (sounds more manly... haha)
- dress more bad-boyish. I have wrist cuffs now, cool watches, some badboy earrings, rings, and "rougher" type clothes.
- don't be afraid to say macho things.
- lift weights. Get a manly physique.
- dont gossip with chicks like another chick would
- don't smile all the time
- dont drink wimpy fruity drinks around chicks

I had a girl on a first date tell me i had SEVERAL feminine traits. Here are some she listed, after knowing me for only TWENTY MINUTES!

- i drank light beer
- i wasn't watching the sports on the big screen tv nearby, and told her i didn't like sports much
- i have a cat
- my fingernails were clean
- it took me a long time to order off the menu (indecisive)
- i didn't eat much (light eater)
- i'm easy to talk to

i can't think of more, but yeah, throughout the course of the night she kept pointing out more, and it was pissing me off.

Travis T. · Nov 12, 2003

Dude... stormwriter

stormwriter,

Dude, you just basically described me. Thats crazy...

I mean the weird thing is that most girls don't seem to care, but they still wonder. My last relationship lasted over two years and my girl still wondered sometimes....

I mean it is good because I can just instantly get along with most girls, and I don't have to be afraid of talking to them, which is a great in. But it still sucks because it's not true...

So I guess I have to swear a lot more.... don't do that often (caught myself saying darnit last night while playing pool with her).

And maybe I need to start wearing a different style of clothes, less neat and trim...

italostud · Nov 12, 2003

Man these posts make me laugh. This is what you need to do: Go to the video store, buy the new Scarface 20th anniversary DVD, watch it 10 times. Try your best to act like Tony Montana. Instead of saying "man", say "MENG!". Every other word out of your mouth should be "Fyck!" or "chit!". Instead of resolving conflicts with words, pull out your .45 and go "You die Mother****er!!!". Oh and when you talk to girls, ask them to "Say 'ello to my lil' friend!". If they still think you're gay after all this, then you must be Richard Simmons.

Travis T. · Nov 12, 2003

Originally posted by italostud
Man these posts make me laugh. This is what you need to do: Go to the video store, buy the new Scarface 20th anniversary DVD, watch it 10 times. Try your best to act like Tony Montana. Instead of saying "man", say "MENG!". Every other word out of your mouth should be "Fyck!" or "chit!". Instead of resolving conflicts with words, pull out your .45 and go "You die Mother****er!!!". Oh and when you talk to girls, ask them to "Say 'ello to my lil' friend!". If they still think you're gay after all this, then you must be Richard Simmons.

Dude, thats funny because while we were talking last night she brought up Scarface and I told her I thought it was stupid. I mean really it is a stupid f&^ckin movie... Say ello to mi leel freng... retarded. lol

PuertoRican_Lover · Nov 12, 2003

do u walk funny and carry a large gallon-size vaseline container?

this is a dead give-away!

b's nuts · Nov 12, 2003

what is it they call you boys? metrosexuals? try hunting! nothing will make you feel more manly than the slaughtering of innocent animals! no really, there is nothing quite as invigorating as field dressing a dear in the morning. haha. yeeeeeeeah.

Travis T. · Nov 12, 2003

Originally posted by b's nuts
what is it they call you boys? metrosexuals? try hunting! nothing will make you feel more manly than the slaughtering of innocent animals! no really, there is nothing quite as invigorating as field dressing a dear in the morning. haha. yeeeeeeeah.

Dude, that's basically me....

Urban, well educated, 25 years old. Wear Kenneth Cole when I can, read a lot, and sensitive....

Well WTF, I didn't even know the word existed till you said it.

So is this a good or bad thing? So far it's worked for me... I've been this way since I was 13, and I've always gotten girls that surprised my friends.

b's nuts · Nov 12, 2003

Kenneth Cole? ok, spend some time in a few strip clubs, maybe that will straighten you out. I dunno, you could be beyond help. Ok, this post should be called straight eye for the queer guy. I would start by drinking a sh*t load of beer. Then move to an addiction to pornography. After that i would delve into some slight drug use, and then full on into woman beating. once you have the woman beating down, you should be cool. woman beating, i don't get it, how the fvck am i so funny. another tip to keep the ladies thinking you are straight, is a whole bunch of jokes like "what do you tell your girlfriend when she has two black eyes?" "nothing you already told her twice". Also make comments on how women shouldn't be able to drive or vote.

Travis T. · Nov 12, 2003

Originally posted by GigaloDJ
MODS ban him!

Ban me... LOL

**** maybe you could learn something from me. Like I said I don't like people wondering, but hell I get tail whenever I need it.

And the tail is nice. Not the burnt out hoes that will take any game or attention you'll give. Real girls, with real jobs...

IrReSiStIbLe · Nov 12, 2003

lol hmmm.... That's no good.... lol

Firstly, read this Weapons of mass seduction
THE WHOLE FVCKING THING!!! especially the empower your voice section coz im 99% sure youre pitch is high and that the core reason they think your gay/bi is cos you sound like a wus.

Work-out- will make you feel more masculine.

I met this girl at a party a couple weeks back, and we seemed to hit it off so I got her number and all. So last night at dinner (our first date) I was telling her that I don't usually just pick girls up as strangers, and she asked why not. I said what do you mean why not (sort of laughing) and she says..."well maybe you don't ask girls out because your usually bi or something... I don't know..."

Man, she was joking! jeez... while your at it- GET A SENSE OF HUMOUR.

Now, this is gonna sound awkward but it'll work- Be a bad listener. As peculiar as it sounds, women find it tremendously masculine. The more of a good listener you are, the more they'd want you to be their shopping buddies and emotional tampons. Look, I'm not saying ALWAYS be a bad listener, only with women you like.

Don't move your hands when talking. Makes you look like a fag. Always look people in the eyes with an intriguing look and let them wonder what you are thinking.

Walk with a correct posture. But when i say correct, i do not mean as erect as a fvcking penis, i mean straight yet slightly slouched...

And lastly, watch "Swingers" and learn from one of the guys there, forgot his name...

AND, read Pook's posts-
Be A Man, ******** AND (i know its a tad long, but worth it) The secret of the jerk

Goodluck with improving your game,

IrReSiStIbLe.

Travis T. · Nov 12, 2003

Originally posted by IrReSiStIbLe

Firstly, read this Weapons of mass seduction
THE WHOLE FVCKING THING!!! especially the empower your voice section coz im 99% sure youre pitch is high and that the core reason they think your gay/bi is cos you sound like a wus.

Work-out- will make you feel more masculine.

Don't move your hands when talking. Makes you look like a fag. Always look people in the eyes with an intriguing look and let them wonder what you are thinking.

IrReSiStIbLe. [/B]

I think you are right about my voice sounding too high when I talk. And I haven't really worked out for a long time, gotta start again. I move my hands a lot when I'm talking to girls- I think your right, it's not looking too good.

I'll admit I have the eye contact down and I think thats my best weapon. Just stare into her eyes like there is nothing else in the room for long enough and I swear it hypnotizes them a little. Makes em feel special, the center of the f&*ckin universe.

IrReSiStIbLe · Nov 12, 2003

I think you are right about my voice sounding too high when I talk. And I haven't really worked out for a long time, gotta start again. I move my hands a lot when I'm talking to girls- I think your right, it's not looking too good.

Hmmm, I'll tell you how I knew that, because I've got a friend that has your exact same problem. But, he is an attractive guy and does not realise what weaknesses he should work on. I've tried explaining it to him, but he's unwilling to listen. The sad part is that he's got SO much potential to do better it's just not funny.

I'll admit I have the eye contact down and I think thats my best weapon. Just stare into her eyes like there is nothing else in the room for long enough and I swear it hypnotizes them a little. Makes em feel special, the center of the f&*ckin universe.

Nice one mate

, i knew u got a bit of game in you... Well, that puts you one step ahead.. Eye contact is VERY important- took me 1 year to get good at it, so it's good to know you've got THAT under your belt.

Keep it up, bro.

Player_Supreme · Nov 12, 2003

1. it might be your first name. I just saw George like Carlin and he was like this like old dude who made fun of new dudes names like tod, branden, kyle, bram, you know those un masculine names...he said dudes with names like tony, butch can always beat up the metro named dudes..

2. actually seriously women have a sixth sense for detecting the slightest fem in a man. Make sure you kiss any thing like that and project only masculine energy.

3. Stay away from Starman and Crotch sniffer...starfag will want to bugger you and crotch will want to smell the end rusults.

Knicknack · Nov 12, 2003

simple. quit acting like a little pvssy.

Solomon79 · Nov 13, 2003

Better still, forget about American chicks and actually find women who have something to offer other than the belief that they deserve everything on a plate.

Austin Allegro · Nov 13, 2003

IMO, girls have pretty good 'gaydar' and call tell if a chap has a whiff of lavender about him.

Women have stereotypical views of men, eg all we do is watch football, drink beer, can't have a conversation etc. Most men live up to this and are either jerks (cavemen) or if they don't they are AFCs (wussies).

But when they meet someone who is DJ, ie, well groomed, polite, intelligent etc but clearly alpha, they just can't work it out.

Just tease them about it and go on with your game. But for God's sake don't become a metrosexual like David Beckham....

dietzcoi · Nov 13, 2003

For God's sake get rid of the cat!

Cat people are just plain wrong.

Men have dogs.

Cats are fair game when hunting.

Dietzcoi

Travis T. · Nov 13, 2003

Originally posted by Austin Allegro
But for God's sake don't become a metrosexual like David Beckham.... [/B]

Then again you gotta admit that all Beckam has to do is drop a dime and he could be getting tail left and right. LOL

But seriously, you guys are all right, thanks for the pointers.

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